Don’t be stingy with your compliments, maybe you’ll find it opens up a new world for you

The word praise is never unfamiliar, but sometimes it is rare.

Some people have said that I am often praised, but let me ask you, do you think they are serious praises or just perfunctory praises?

Is there any difference?

There are two types of compliments:

One is just saying nice things and praising some relatively shallow aspects, just talking and not specific.

The other is to feel good from the bottom of your heart and use specific things and his language to tell you how good you are.

I have a friend who is a hotel salesperson. He has to deal with customers every day, and negotiating orders is a common thing. Because the hotel's turnover is obtained through conferences and wedding banquets. Therefore, negotiating orders is a necessary task.

Sometimes you will find that he is not showing the customer the venue, or he is doing the work of how to negotiate the order.

When he was negotiating the order again, he was full of energy, spoke with confidence, and was very professional. It was like there was a layer of light shining on him. This was his confidence and the charm he exuded.

Nine out of ten of his clients trust him because of his professionalism and trust, and hold wedding banquets and meetings here.

Every time I see him talk successfully, I admire him very much, because we were not familiar with each other at the time, but I still tell him very happily: "You are really amazing. I feel like you are so good every time." I am so confident and confident when negotiating orders, and I can also take the customer's words seriously. I have really gained a lot of experience."

He always said "Where" humbly.

It wasn’t until later that we became good friends who talked about everything, that I discovered that he actually had very low self-esteem, but every time I told him about his own strengths, he would use his flashing The big bright eyes looked at me and asked, "Really?"

I said, "Of course, you are so bright when negotiating the order."

Then His mood instantly improved.

The two of us can become friends because we can discover each other’s strengths and speak out. This is a kind of good feedback. Speaking out when you have done something wrong is feedback, but speaking out about something you have done right is feedback. Speaking it out is feedback. It will keep you confident on the right path, and it will also increase your confidence and allow you to do other things well.

Isn’t this the benefit of praising others concretely and sincerely?

What’s more, praising others will bring about others’ liking for you.

There is a saying that goes like this:

If you like someone, praise him, so that he will also like you and be very willing to be friends with you.

The advantage is that it gives good feedback and praise.

When Zhang Yuqi was learning to rap, Zhang Yuqi herself was not good at all and had no confidence. However, every time Sister Yuqi sang a line, she would give her affirmation that she sang very well. This is undoubtedly Give sister Yuqi self-confidence and let her sing better and better. You will find that this is the power of feedback, the power of praise, and the power of giving people confidence.

Just imagine, who doesn’t want someone to give you some good feedback when you are doing something, that is, praising you for what you did well, or gently telling you what you did poorly? Okay, but you're still awesome.

Or after you have done something very carefully, and when others find out the results of your work, they will not hesitate to praise you in detail for what you have done.

At this time, you will definitely smile with joy that no matter how difficult the problem is, it is worth it.

Rather than when you finish your hard work, others just say "well, I saw it." This undoubtedly wipes out some of the efforts you put in, as if there are no results.

But the most important thing is to give sincere praise, not blind and casual praise.

If you just give a perfunctory compliment, it will not actually make people feel comfortable, it will only feel like you are giving a false compliment.

In the future, you might as well praise others more, and sincerely praise what the other person has done in detail. Don’t be stingy with your praise. This will be good feedback. Increase people's self-confidence. In this way, more people will gradually like you, and they will also give each other such good feedback, making each other more powerful and confident to face the problems in the world.