Son, what kind of person will you be?

Dear child, you are so busy now that we have no time to sit down and talk. Dad just wants to tell you, what kind of child are you in our minds? Would you please take the time to have a look?

Son, you are a sunny and healthy person. You will greet everyone with a smile and enthusiasm. You are like a ray of warm sunshine, shining into other people's hearts.

Son, you are a kind person, and you are willing to give some money when you see a disabled and begging old man. Seeing the grandmother selling vegetables in the cold wind at night, you think she is still living and working to support her family. You feel sorry for her and want me to buy something to eat. When you meet an uncle who sells fruit, let your mother taste it before deciding whether to buy it. You think you should let your mother buy the uncle's fruit after tasting his fruit.

Son, you are a compassionate person. When you were six years old, you studied the little scribe, and your father scolded you for staying up late secretly copying words for your father. Finally, when your father found out that he misunderstood the scribe's ending, you were moved to tears. When you see on TV that the children in mountainous areas are living a hard life and are still trying to make progress, you will sympathize with them.

Son, you are a grateful person, grateful to those who help you, and you always say thank you for others' help.

Son, you are a very independent person. In the third grade military training, you go to school with your schoolbag on your back, and others have parents to send you. A person can manage his own life by car to Yunxian County.

Son, you are a filial person. Seeing your mother lying in the hospital bed, you refused to leave with her, which moved my aunt in the same ward. Seeing that we have thousands of dollars, we offered to give money to grandpa and mother-in-law. Seeing that I was uncomfortable in bed, she gave me a bowl of milk.

Son, you are a person who knows how to make others like you. You take the initiative to wash the dishes after dinner at your classmate's house and clean up the housework at someone else's house. I like you very much when I meet my uncle and aunt.

Son, you are a person who knows right from wrong and is willing to help the bullied. In primary school, you can't see your classmates being laughed at by others. People who take the initiative to help them play together are responsible people.

Son, you are a person who is willing to bring joy to others. You are humorous and generous. You have many advantages, so dad won't list them.

Now with the passage of time, you have grown up, and your personality, self-awareness and sense of independence have all been enhanced. Mom and dad are very happy because you have grown up. In the process of growing up, it is normal to have troubles and confusion. Let me talk about it. Let's face it together, ok?

First of all, I want to say that no matter what you do, we love you. Maybe the way we love you is improper, which has brought you some influence. For example, in the morning, in order to worry that you are late for school, I help you find clothes and even help you wear them. Over time, it becomes a habit. Worried about eating, watching you always bring your dishes to the table, and sometimes even the coffee table, which is convenient for watching TV. Help with homework. When you solve a problem, you don't think about it, just write down the answer.

You are used to our kindness, and you may be unhappy if you can't do it. Dad thinks these things are your own business. What can you do well? Is it wrong for us to help you?

Research shows that people who are willing to do housework and do what they can will have a happier family and a greater sense of career accomplishment in the future. It's not your fault, but our parents didn't handle it well enough. Can you change it from now on?

Son, you have pressure to release in the face of study. We didn't guide you properly. Now I know that it is a normal demand and performance for you to play games and watch TV, because it is the network age and the information age. Sometimes when I feel empty, I use excessive games to watch TV to escape from the difficulties in reality. I know you found happiness in the game, a sense of accomplishment and belonging in TV, and relief and pressure.

We all understand your behavior and thoughts, which is why we let you play games and watch TV in winter vacation. However, after school started, we found it inappropriate to do so. Even so, we still try our best to understand you and tolerate you. Seeing that you have not given up studying hard and finished your homework, we sympathize with you. Overworked study, games and TV every day have seriously affected your health. As parents, we feel sad and regretful, and our hearts are dripping with blood and tears. Sometimes we don't understand you and feel guilty.

Son, in fact, your stress now is caused by your study, right? Can you think about it: how can I change? Try to find measures and methods to solve the problem. Please ask yourself every day, what kind of person do I want to be?

Now, in the face of the current situation, should we look for the best solution for each other? The most prominent problem now is that game TV affects your rest and study. My idea is:

1. Tell yourself from your heart that it can't go on like this, and you must correct it. Actually, it's not difficult. You never watch TV or play games in the first semester of primary school and junior high school. Now it's just beginning. Try to control your hands, don't press the TV button and don't touch the screen.

2. Finish homework review early in the evening during school and go to bed before ten o'clock to ensure adequate sleep and physical strength and improve class efficiency. If time permits in the evening, we can go downstairs to run, jump rope and play badminton to relieve stress.

3. Exercise, play games, watch TV and do homework on weekends, and coordinate with each other. Please set a time for yourself, finish your homework, play games and watch TV. Shall we abide by the principle and the agreement?

Son, it may be a painful process to solve this biggest problem, but believe that mom and dad will always stand behind you and become a powerful arm to help you overcome and face difficulties.

We believe that you can be a better yourself, and don't let our father, son and mother cry for each other, ok? I think the present difficulty is only temporary, and we must overcome it.

Finally, please ask yourself loudly three times a day: What kind of person am I? What kind of person do I want to be?

? This article was written in March 20 17.