The world of adults needs no cliques.

In the eighteenth episode of Ode to Joy 2, Qiu Yingying was dumped by Ying Qin because Qu Xiaoyu accidentally told Ying Qin that she was not a virgin, and she held a grudge against Qu Xiaoyu. When she saw that her roommate Guan Juer was still laughing and feasting with Qu Xiaoyu, her face changed. Careful and intelligent Guan Juer explained to Qiu Yingying:

"Yingying, there is a saying that the enemy of the enemy is not necessarily the enemy, and the friend of the enemy is not necessarily the friend."

Guan Juer, a girl, can carry it clearly!

this kind of thing was often done when I was a child. The two children were at odds, and each would tell their friends: XXX is a bad boy, you are my friend, so don't pay attention to him in the future!

As you get older, you will find out slowly. In fact, the relationship between people is too complicated. Where can you take a stand to analyze it clearly? In fact, the feelings of adults, there is no need to cliques, cliques, that is the stuff of kindergarten children.

Once, in the circle of friends, friend A had a conflict with friend B because of business competition. Later, when we invited everyone to dinner, Party A first asked if B would come. I said B was on a business trip, so I won't come this time. A just confirmed the time and place with me.

At the dinner party, when everyone was having a good meal and chatting, A began to talk about B's faults and express his anger at B's behavior.

As friends of Party A and Party B, several of us here can't express our attitude clearly, so we have to say vaguely, let Party A calm down, maybe there is some misunderstanding, and we will laugh and forget the enmity when we meet next time.

However, obviously, Party A is not satisfied with our attitude of not offending each other, and continues to talk about the big and small problems of Party B, making everyone here more and more embarrassed.

actually, why not. I like an article called "You don't have to ask others about me, I am different for everyone".

It is true that people say that there are a thousand Hamlet in the eyes of a thousand people. I think if you ask a person, you may get a thousand different versions from the mouths of a thousand people.

In fact, the reason is simple: we will treat people with good character with corresponding moral standards; For despicable people, we know how to use routines to perfunctory; For the people we love, we give everything back; We avoid what we hate; If you dare to stab me in the back, I won't fight back; You try your best to help me, and I am naturally willing to draw out a sword for you ...

So, we are all adults, and we don't need to show your character with our mouths and slander others' personality with our words. I trust my eyes more and will use my own judgment to decide the distance from everyone around me.

When a best friend quarrels with her boyfriend, she pours bitter water on you and scolds the other love rat. You immediately stand in line, indignant and scold love rat, encouraging them to break up. After a few days, they make up, and you look in the mirror. Smart people, just listen, let her unload the negative energy, turn around, and others will continue to mix honey, you just have to smile and watch.

When two couples quarrel, the sensible in-laws will speak for their daughter-in-law, the wise in-laws will pretend to be deaf and dumb, and the ignorant will rush out, and the family will help their own family, help their son overcome his daughter-in-law, turn her into the opposite, and pull her son to stand in a row. Originally, the bedside quarreled with the end of the bed, and finally successfully separated my son's home.

When the son-in-law did something wrong, the daughter and son-in-law had a big fight, but after the quarrel, they both intended to repair their relationship. At this time, the old father-in-law couldn't make up his mind, stood up for his daughter, took people to the door, and beat up his son-in-law. Finally, he succeeded in divorcing his daughter and putting Xiaosan in place.

The above examples are all true stories around me. This is the effort to form gangs and spend it on marriage and love.

everyone's attitude towards others only depends on others' attitude towards us, or our own willingness, but never on others' evaluation.

in the world of adults, there is no need for cliques, let alone forcing people to take sides.

the practice of kindergartens is to stay in kindergartens.