Abstinence changed my life, from hell to heaven-draft

During this period of abstinence, it changed my life, from hell to heaven.

The real exit date is only 1 year and 9 months. But these days have really changed my life. So now, before it's too late, let's share my abstinence experience.

First, the experience of self-abuse

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I began to fall from the second day of junior high school. I have been reading bad novels and watching bad movies. There was a sense of shame at first, and then it got out of hand and became a normal, or habit. Habits are the most terrible, especially bad habits. Slowly you will take it for granted, but habits force you to do it again.

I passed the senior high school entrance examination in this way. Fortunately, I went to the best high school in the county. In senior one, I often fall asleep in many classes, which is completely out of control. Of course, this is just the beginning, and then the symptoms began to break out. I began to lose my hair when I was a freshman. I was scared and strange at that time. Why did I start to lose my hair at such a young age?

Then came neurosis, saying it was a hell on earth. When I was a freshman, I couldn't attend class. It felt like a dream. As long as I try to think about the content of the lecture, I feel particularly uncomfortable. Later, obsessive-compulsive disorder deeply affected me. At first, I will keep checking whether my math problem is done correctly. Later, this problem became more and more serious, and every subject would be affected. Even lost the ability to do problems.

Neurosis bothers me deeply. I can't study during the day and I can't sleep at night (but I still haven't stopped). I often think outside after class alone, why is God so unfair to me? What did I do wrong? Now I know what goes around comes around. What did I do wrong? But I stay up all day playing online games and indulge myself. Other than that, I do nothing. Originally, my body was very weak. If I am not punished, is there justice?

You can think about how much pain I have to endure in the second half of my sophomore year and the whole year of my senior year. Another problem is that almost the whole senior two and senior three are accompanied by my low back pain. I still liked playing games when I was a sophomore, but my back pain made me unable to play games, let alone listen carefully. At that time, I was in a state of waist pain when sitting and foot pain when standing. I can't sit or stand for a long time, and I am mentally tortured. I'm really ... desperate about life. From then on, I really chose the road of abstinence.

Second, the recovery situation

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Before I talk about recovery, let me systematically talk about the harm these bad habits do to the body:

1. Urgency and frequency of urination

2. Lumbago (no sedentary), knee pain and foot pain (no standing for a long time, only walking slowly, no running and no jumping)

3. Long acne (affecting beauty), face oil (especially nose), prominent cheekbones and dark circles.

4. I feel sleepy all day, lacking energy and fighting spirit.

5. Neurosis (this is the most serious problem, and people with this symptom should be able to understand) and insomnia.

6. Mild alopecia

7. Floaters get worse, and their eyesight drops obviously (both are caused by self-abuse and overuse of eyes).

8. I can't concentrate, and my brain power is obviously reduced (some topics are really incomprehensible)

9. I am anxious every day, I can't work patiently, and my mood is ups and downs.

10. The inferiority complex is aggravated and there is mild social phobia.

Restore:

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1. recovery of athletic ability: I can play basketball fluently and win the fifth place in the school 5000m sports meeting, which was impossible before.

2. Mental recovery: the quality of sleep has been greatly improved (if no one is disturbed, it may be 10 to sleep until 6 am), neurosis has basically recovered (still repeated), social fear has recovered, and you can study and live normally.

3. mental recovery: if it is not strenuous exercise, there is no need to rest.

4. Appearance and physical recovery: acne is basically eliminated, but the face is still not smooth, sometimes the waist will still be sore, frequent urination, urine shame will basically recover, and hair loss will recover after a period of time.

5. Emotionally: I can control my emotions more, and my heart is not as impetuous as before (but sometimes I will follow my desires).

Third, stop color method

1. Know the hazards

2. reflect on yourself and quit.

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4. Practice

5. Change your life

1. Know the hazards

First of all, it is stated that self-abuse will not lead to all diseases, many of which are lifestyle diseases. I believe many abstainers still have many bad habits. Injury is like a bar of soap. At first, you didn't realize that your body was damaged, but slowly, quantitative change caused qualitative change, and at a certain point, symptoms would break out.

Everyone has a problem. It is difficult to teach others. Only by teaching others can one learn. That's what I am. The real symptoms come to me, and I know that the harm of self-abuse is so great. If you don't quit, your life will be ruined.

2. reflect on yourself and quit.

Many people actually know that self-abuse is harmful, but they still can't quit. Why?

First, we don't know where the harm lies. Then, we still need to go back to the first step and look at the post of abstainers describing their harm. More importantly, we should find out what harm self-blasphemy has brought to us, see clearly and think seriously.

Secondly, we can reflect on what we have done in recent years, which are good, which are bad and which are more, which have created you now. You can also compare the present with the past, because what you did changed you. Then continue to ask yourself a question, if you were still living in the current mode in the past 10 years, what would you do?

I've thought about it. I was still playing games and staying up late to masturbate before I resigned. If this continues, I may not even be able to play games, because my body can't bear it, and I may only die. On the other hand, because of my bad habits, I indulge myself too much. I learned nothing. Without my parents, I would have nothing. Even, I just ruined my body. Even if I don't die ten years later, I can only eat my old money.

So, I need to change. I need to be what I want to be. I want to be excellent, and I also need praise. I don't want to hide in a dark corner and watch others see things in a blur, but feel sorry for myself. This is pathetic. It is this motivation (of course, my weak body is already vulnerable, and I can't live without giving up self-abuse) that makes me determined to give up indulgence. Of course, this process is really difficult, but I never give up.

So, you also need to think about it and reflect on yourself. be what you wanna be This kind of life is what you really want. How much indulgence can get you and how much it helps you in real life. If you always want to live in a dream, this kind of life is not bad. But I think most people still want to live a normal life. So, let's reflect. Don't ask your children what you will do in the future. The answer you gave him was that you can play all kinds of games, and you are the king. Then your child asks you, Dad, is that useful? Are you embarrassed?

3. Learning and practice

Let's talk about why we study first.

Quit color.

Why do you want to quit color?

For my own life.

Then talk about how to study.

First of all, you should prepare a color-stopping notebook and record everything you think is good. It can not only make you read the article about abstinence carefully, but also deepen your absorption of the essence, killing two birds with one stone.

Second, many people read the article on abstinence from color only to accomplish a task, which is meaningless. Because learning is not to learn, but to make you live high. You don't need to waste time just to study. So, if you really want to learn, please take the articles about abstinence seriously and strive for every article to bring you gains.

Third, no matter what you read, you should form the habit of thinking. In an article, there is always something you agree with, which can be called your experience. Others may be unknown to you, or run counter to your point of view, which should be your focus.

You need to dig them up and think about who is right. You can think for yourself or ask others for help. These are the main gains from your study of this article on abstinence from color. Of course, this can also help you form a habit of thinking, and this habit of thinking can also make you calm down and study hard, not just browse.

Fourth, persistence is the key to learning. The hardest thing in the world is persistence. Most people who can persist in doing things are successful in the end. If you want to quit color successfully, you naturally need to insist on learning articles about quitting color. You don't need to see a lot in a day. Abstinence from color requires not only enthusiasm, but also lasting watching. So get into the habit of studying every day, spare some time and read some articles about abstinence. I believe the final result will not let you down.

4. Practice

The first point is to cut off the source of bad content. This is also the top priority! ! ! I always abide by this rule and will never cross the line.

The second point is fundamental, forget it! !

All my friends who quit have said that it is very important to fight if you want to quit color successfully. I have a deep understanding of this.

If you can't get rid of fantasy, then it will be your breakthrough.

Therefore, it is important to get rid of thoughts.

The key to abstinence is to be quick and firm.

In fact, mindlessness is to see an idea. You don't need to evaluate what it is, whether it is good or bad. You need to see what you are thinking. You can't follow it This requires constant practice.

The following is a summary of some ideas that are easily broken:

(summary of friends who quit)

First of all, the idea of encouragement

1. "The Last Time" This is nothing more than an excuse to break the precepts.

2. Moderation is wrong. "Moderately harmless, but it doesn't matter." The understanding of moderation is unclear. Where is the golden mean? This is an addictive behavior, how can it be moderate? And self-abuse is harmful, please think twice.

If you don't understand the idea of encouragement and you can't convince it, please remember one sentence, no matter what happens, don't break the precepts, they can't be wrong, only you are wrong.

Second, the general types of breaking the precepts.

1. Emotional aggression. So please manage your emotions. When people have emotions, it is difficult for reason to work.

2. Doubt broke the commandment. If you have doubts, you must solve them. Please follow the principle of "no matter what happens, don't break the precepts" and then solve it.

3. Stay in bed and break the precepts. It's easy to get bored and think in bed.

4. Fantasy breaks the precepts. Practice meditation.

5. Let your guard down and break the precepts. This usually happens to two kinds of people.

The first category is people who are in the dormant period of desire. At this time, their desire is very small, and they will think that color withdrawal is very simple, but they don't know that they will face the peak of color withdrawal after the recovery of kidney qi.

The second is a friend who has given up for a long time. At this time, it is easy to produce proud thoughts that will not be broken for a long time, and slowly slack off. This is actually the reason why many old friends are broken. So don't let your guard down. Abstinence from color is a lifetime thing.

6. Try to destroy the body function. This is the problem of the motivation to quit color. A good motivation to quit color determines how long you can quit color.

7. drinking breaks the precepts. Wine is a matchmaker, so please drink it in moderation.

8. nocturnal emission breaks the precepts. After nocturnal emission, confidence will be lost and desire will increase. At this time, we must be vigilant.

9. Holidays break the precepts. Most people will be idle during the holidays. At this time, people generally seek excitement, so the question comes, what is the most exciting? Self-abuse Therefore, you need to arrange your time reasonably during the holidays and you can't let yourself do nothing.

10. Break the commandment alone. This is usually combined with holiday breaks. If it's really easy for you to break the rules alone, try not to stay alone. When you are alone, you need to pay attention to your own thoughts most. Your brain controls your hands, so be careful to encourage you.

The third point is, please be kind to people around you.

Especially your parents, it is not easy to raise you hard.

The best person for you should be your parents, not your lover. When you are most helpless, your lover may leave you, and your parents should never leave.

Filial piety is proper.

Don't take what they do to you for granted.

Don't yell at them all day, tell them what to do. They are not your servants and have no obligation to do so.

They only do it because they love you.

So please love them too. Family harmony, everyone is fine?

5. Change your life

Once, a abstinence friend said that abstinence should be integrated into life.

Yes, the ultimate goal of abstinence is to live happily in the world.

Quitting color is only our first step, and we still have a long way to go.

Now our generation is deeply influenced by western indulgence and has developed many bad habits. Many young people are used to staying up late. When you are free, you can either watch your mobile phone or play games.

I once heard a conversation between parents and children, as follows:

"Can you watch less TV?"

"What can I do besides watching TV?"

He already thinks he has nothing to do but watch TV, which is really a great tragedy. He doesn't even have a mobile phone or computer.

Since we are abstention, we should take the lead.

We should form good habits of work and rest and cultivate a hobby of our own.

Good work and rest habits can make you energetic during the day, and the process of developing good work and rest habits is also the process of your transition from staying up late to being addicted, which requires great self-control. Cultivating your self-control is the guarantee of your future success.

Hobbies make you less bored in your spare time and you can do what you like. Instead of looking for it when you are bored.