The second marriage made me understand a lot (meditation on the second marriage)

Daniel busy marriage emotional case series

Keywords: second marriage, divorce, ex-wife

Article length: 3900 words

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Love makes people strong, but also makes people collapse. There are many casual misses in feelings, which makes people sad. If you understand something a little later, you may never find the opportunity to do it again.

There are many memories in love. Sometimes people laugh with tears, but they don't know why they laugh, only who they are crying for. No matter how hard you cry, it won't help. When the past is dusty, all you have in mind is nostalgia.

Just like some people feel after divorce, there is a deep feeling that the lost people have no courage to pursue. Many years later, when two hearts don't belong to each other, even if they are close at hand, they can only choose to overlook.

What's it like to get divorced, and what's it like to get remarried? Two people are close at hand, but two hearts are out of reach. How do you feel if you still miss them?

Some people say that divorce is the same, you can find a better person. This time, we must choose carefully, work hard all our lives and love life. ...

But life is always realistic, and most people's wishes come to nothing after divorce. Even if it is easy to start a second marriage, it is not necessarily better than the original.

Next, I will tell you a case of divorce and second marriage, and tell you a common truth in marriage with the tone of an experienced person.

After being married once or twice, I can't tell love from guilt. A few days ago, a divorced man told such a feeling about divorce. Let me sort it out briefly:

I met my ex-wife by chance that day. I thought about it for a long time, but I was afraid to come out to see her. I haven't seen her for years, but she is still so thin and has a child.

Her child is about 3 years old, so it's time to go to kindergarten. She looks like me. You can see at a glance that her life is not very good, dressed in rags, as if she had been wronged.

I have long heard that her husband has a bad temper and doesn't even have a house. Because of the children, my husband will scold her every time he gets drunk, and sometimes he will start work. Although they are husband and wife, he cares less and less about her, but he doesn't want to divorce her.

I can understand my ex-wife's pain. I caused it all.

When my ex-wife was looking for a job that day, I stood not far away and watched. I really want to go out and help her and make up for what I owe. But after all, I didn't have the courage to stand up when I thought of the cruel words I said in the year of divorce and her unyielding stubbornness.

I have been divorced for almost four years, and I should have forgotten her long ago. But that day, I was very sour in my heart and wanted to say a serious apology to her. I shouldn't miss you. I really want to take on the responsibility of a man again. ...

It's a pity that we all have new families. How can you say such a thing easily?

With my ex-wife's personality, if I suddenly appear, she will probably hate me more. She is already very difficult, and I don't want to make her cry any more, so I just look at her quietly and don't bother.

That night, I came home in a bad mood. I don't want to talk to my wife or eat.

My wife cooked dinner for me and is feeding the children. She was happy to see me home and asked me what was wrong. Why did I come in without saying anything? I said I was a little sad to see that acquaintance.

The wife was silent for a while and took the child into the house to rest. I didn't say much, but I heard my wife crying. ...

My wife and I are both divorced, and we formed a second marriage and family three years ago. Fate brought us together, but there was no love in it.

I'm not saying that my present wife is not good, nor that she is not beautiful and virtuous. I just can't lie to myself. My favorite person may still be my ex-wife.

Sometimes I don't know whether it's love or guilt, but I hope my ex-wife is happy. Blessing silently in my heart, but I am afraid of causing the current wife's sadness. Feelings embarrass me, but I can only bear it alone.

Although both my ex-wife and I have found emotional home, I suddenly feel that I am the most suitable person.

May I say that I regret it? After so long, I owe more and more ...

Second, I once made an emotional mistake. This man called him Da Zhi for the time being. He is 32 years old, divorced for 4 years and remarried for 3 years. I had no children in my previous marriage, and now I have a boy over 2 years old with my current wife.

In the heart of ambition, guilt and love and hate are intertwined, which is lighter or heavier, which is unknown. Even after four years of divorce, I still can't forget my first love, which is his unforgettable ex-wife.

They used to be a happy couple, but because of many unexpected things, the couple finally divorced. In his words, divorce can't be said to be right or wrong, but a stubborn miss.

Continue to tell the story of the past in an ambitious tone:

My ex-wife and I are both strong-willed people who love each other deeply and sensitively. If my parents hadn't quarreled with her parents, our positions would have been different, and we could live a lifetime.

After graduating from college that year, she came to this city with me and met my parents. My parents are very satisfied with her and agree that we are together. First love, intimate, knowing the root, our love is getting better and better in those days.

We continued to be in love for two years, and then we got married. From love to marriage, life has changed a lot. Although we all think that love is the most important thing, it is not until we get along that "money" and "principle" are more important.

The ex-wife's family conditions are not good, the two younger brothers are not married yet, and the family is old and has no skills. I understand her family's difficulties, but her family does not understand mine.

Two years before marriage and two years after marriage, all her wages were given to her family. Under the guidance of her mother, she sold all her wedding jewelry to support her family.

I can endure it once or twice, but I can't endure it all the time. The most unbearable thing is that my mother-in-law said that I was poor. Because I couldn't afford to marry a wife and gave it to a rich man, I quickly left.

I love and hate, but she still gives money to her parents quietly. Her brother is in trouble outside, and she wants to sell the car I gave her to help her family.

Who can stand such a thing? Obviously, my family is the most wronged, but her parents often call and quarrel with my parents, saying that my family wronged their daughter. ...

The main reason for divorce is not emotional problems, but life has forced us to take different positions. We are all strong. The more we argue, the sadder and angrier we get.

I asked her if she really wanted a divorce, and she said she didn't want to leave and loved me forever. If I think she is a burden, she will never complain and will not drag me down. She also said that it is not easy for her parents to raise her, and she can't watch her parents get tired.

Faced with such an unreasonable woman, I really want to slap her. I can't bear to see her eyes full of tears.

At that time, we had been married for two years and had no children. I made a mistake emotionally, and I found a woman in a fit of pique to tell the pain in my heart.

I hurt my wife forever because of this.

Third, angry divorce makes two people regret it. As the saying goes, even the best relationship between husband and wife can't stand countless hardships in life, which always makes people disheartened. As long as one person is disheartened, two people cannot live.

Some people are really unfit to be husband and wife, but divorce has nothing to do with love.

Continue to tell the story of wild heart:

At that time, my wife (ex-wife) only thought about her family. Although she is very kind to me, I always think she is stupid and hateful. Since I met that woman, my attitude towards my wife has completely changed, and I occasionally get angry with her.

Even if she later understood my resentment, even if she stopped quietly giving money to her parents, I still hated her. The feelings outside have crossed that hurdle, and it is difficult to develop without leaving a trace.

Coincidentally, my wife learned that I was dating someone else and there was a woman outside. She was so sad that she cried her eyes out.

She said that I can hit her and scold her, but I can't violate her most important principle of love. I was upset by her crying, and I was inexplicably upset. The first time I hit her, I told her to get out. ...

I still regret it now. My wife was pregnant with my child. In order to be angry with me, she aborted the child. It pains me to learn that she gave up her child.

My parents asked me to divorce, and I didn't agree to divorce. I intend to turn over a new leaf and stay away from that woman. But our parents quarreled again, and finally we chose different positions in anger.

I still remember yelling wildly that day. I didn't look for you even if I was looking for a second marriage. Your family has no conscience. Don't talk to me about love, you don't deserve it. ...

Seeing that I was serious, she regretted it and became weak. She said it was all a lie. She has always loved me, and the baby is still in her belly. But I chose to stay angry and insist on divorcing her. I don't really want to live with her, I just want her to remember the lesson. I said a lot of cruel words and hit her in the face.

She looks strong, but in fact, the bad things at home have made her vulnerable. Her heart was bitter, and I didn't understand her at the critical moment, so I missed her.

It's all my fault. If we had endured it and stopped being angry, we wouldn't have left a feeling of regret.

After the divorce, my ex-wife often came to beg me, and she said that she would remarry for the sake of her children. I told her not to be wishful thinking. Your parents said you could find someone better than me. Go find it. ...

She persisted for several months, often pestering me, and I tried to avoid her. She said she could break up with her parents and live with me in the future.

I still have a heart of stone, and she gradually became disheartened and married a man who was willing to accept her. If I had been brave and stopped them in advance, we could have been together.

However, we can't talk about love because of personality conflicts. We are all blx. After she got married, I also had a serious relationship, married a divorced woman, and now my child is 2 years old.

My first child is 3 years old, calling others Dad, and living a poor life with my ex-wife. I still love her, and the more I think about it, the more guilty I feel, but I can only bless her. This is our lifelong regret …

Fourth, insincere love cannot be pulled back. After seeing his ex-wife that day, Dazhi could have asked her to find a job with a word, but he didn't show up. Don't want to disturb or upset each other.

At the end of the story, Dazhi told a insincere dialogue, which should be his deepest understanding of marriage:

Divorced for four years, it's too late to say anything. Although I still love my ex-wife, there is nothing wrong with this one now. She is also a poor woman who was abandoned by her ex-husband. As her current husband, I can't hurt him because of his ex-wife.

When I got home that day, I ate a casual meal and went into the house to comfort her. She kept crying and asked me if I couldn't forget my ex-wife.

I said something against my will again. Forget it. I really only love you. I just feel guilty for my ex-wife, because she raised 1 children for me, and I suffer for her. From now on, I will never forget this and love you forever. Don't cry, we have children, too. We are very happy.

She wiped her tears and threw herself into my arms, tears streaming down her face.

She said that if I hadn't insisted on entanglement at that time, maybe my ex-wife and I had remarried, and your most sincere people should be together, but I ruined it. Although I love you very much, I know you have never loved me. You only have an ex-wife in mind, and we only have marriage.

I quickly said, don't think about it, just don't blame you, I really only love you. Fate makes us appreciate each other. This is love. I swear, the past is completely forgotten, and there is no ex-wife in my heart from now on, only you.

She cried again. She said thank you, and I knew you loved me the most. You have a sense of responsibility and love. You help me out of my misery, and we will live a life full of love.

In fact, we all know that it was not intentional that day. I don't love her and she knows I don't love her. But in order to survive, even if you lie to yourself, you must have an attitude. What is marriage? This is the responsibility of life.

This is my past and foreseeable future. When I divorced, it was all over. ...

This case is over. Dazhi and his ex-wife divorced for four years, but they can't go back to the past. Although remarried, people's minds are strange and they are lost in thought in guilt. Feeling a lot sorry is love.

In fact, in the world of marriage, this irreversible thing is very common, and everyone who has been there knows it.

I remember someone asking, can divorce be happier?

The answer is yes, there is no absolute conclusion about feelings. But if you miss something after the divorce, it is likely to be a lifelong obsession. Divorce in anger is the stupidest way. Even if someone loves themselves in the second marriage, they may not be able to get back their original happiness.

An experienced person once said: divorce is not happy, but many people can accept it calmly. This should be the so-called life, since you have chosen, don't say regret.