Parents' correct educational methods

Parents should educate their children well when they are young, especially they should not let them do some incorrect and inappropriate behaviors. Parents are their first teachers. Let's share with you the correct education methods of parents.

Parents' correct education methods 1 should set an example.

Children can see their parents' words and deeds and have strong imitation ability. Empty preaching is far less widely known than personal practice. There is no such public service advertisement video.

My mother washed my grandmother's feet, and my son saw it and learned to wash his mother's feet decently. Similarly, in fish begins to stink at the head, if the parents are of poor quality, it is hard to say that the children educated by culture are not an unsuccessful imitation. This shows that it is really important for adults to set an example.

There is no need to take extreme measures.

Some parents think that it is not easy for a child to become a useful person without scolding. Therefore, every time a child makes a mistake, he doesn't make sense calmly, but scolds before he speaks. Is this good or bad? Treating children rudely like this will not only make them not really know that they are incorrect, but also leave a shadow in their hearts, and their temperament will easily become more and more paranoid.

Attach great importance to the efficacy of mentality

Different characteristics of mentality have different effects on psychological process. A proactive attitude makes people happy, confident and happy in their daily lives; Depression makes people feel depressed, lack of self-confidence and depressed in daily life. Similarly, different characteristics of mentality do different harm to parents' psychological state and personal behavior.

A proactive attitude can arouse parents' expression of love, take the initiative to master children, care about their growth, educate and encourage children in a democratic and scientific way, thus making parent-child communication close and harmonious and the atmosphere at home harmonious and warm. In parenting education, parents should attach great importance to the efficacy of their own mentality, diligently shape and maintain a proactive mentality, and get rid of and eliminate the depressed mentality.

Adults' suggestions should be unified

Sometimes, parents should exchange needed goods, agree on the same thing and have a unified mentality. Don't think that you can't blame each other in front of the children in public because I say something, you play the white face and I blush. Otherwise, children usually can't agree and don't know who to listen to.

Over time, the influence, prestige and authority of adults in children's minds will also disappear, making it more difficult to teach children.

Don't kill children's hobbies.

Although schoolwork is the key, hobbies are the driving force to stimulate children's imagination. Today's social development needs not reading equipment, but a leader in all-round development. Therefore, if the child mainly shows a certain degree of preference, then don't interfere, just encourage him, and maybe it will become a professional skill of the child.

It is better to let the child respond than to speak.

Sometimes parents will say the same thing to their children many times, which is very like a mother, for fear that the children will not understand and do what they mean. This is what people often say. For most children, the last thing they want to listen to and contradict is their parents' nagging.

The more they don't listen, the more upset their parents are. On the contrary, they will talk twice as much, which becomes polarization. Parents often feel sad and anxious: rambling is not good for their children? Don't tell them how to obey! It seems that the best way of parenting education is to explain one truth after another to children without restraint.

In the case of nagging, why not use a new method: turn nagging into asking questions. If you find a difficult problem, turn what you are saying into asking a difficult problem and let the children tell it. Maybe children speak better and more vividly than their parents. When asking questions, you don't have to put on your parents' iron airs. You should be sincere and enthusiastic, and listen carefully to your child's reaction.

If the child is wrong, you don't have to talk about it in a hurry. You can ask again. Even if it is wrong, there is no need to issue an authoritative answer. Just ask appropriate questions to hint at his incorrect attribution and let the child rethink.

Combat power punishment is not as good as motivation.

When the anger in my heart finally broke the moral bottom line of tolerance, from verbal accusation to physical accusation, combat effectiveness punishment appeared! Combat power punishment can't deal with all the problems, but only intensify the contradictions between them, so that the study and training that might have persisted will give up halfway.

Under the fists clenched by parents, the child's self-esteem is also shattered, and it is very easy to have a psychological state of self-abandonment. Even all the accusations are invincible, and it is really mutually assured destruction.

Therefore, if a mother wants to be punished for her fighting capacity, she can't replace it with encouragement and let her children accept criticism happily. In more practical praise, children must be aware of their differences. If parents have no doubt about their children's exam results, they will have the confidence to correct their mistakes.

On the other hand, if parents take a rude approach to their children's mistakes, he is likely to push his luck and become more rebellious. In fact, children's sensitive hearts are very much looking forward to gaining the trust of their parents, which can also make them accept criticism happily. The art of criticism relies on positive reinforcement, not negative reinforcement.

To strengthen children's shortcomings or completely deny them, it is better to see, remember and talk about the signs of children's good test scores, strengthen their good side, give necessary guidance, let children see their development potential and improve their self-confidence.

The correct way for parents to educate 2 how to educate children who love to linger?

Does your baby love to dawdle? This is a headache for some parents, and they are really at a loss.

"Most children don't deliberately dawdle. The more you argue with him, the more nervous the child becomes. The more he can't concentrate on it, the more he muddies along. " Xu Hui, an associate professor in the Department of Psychology, School of Education, Zhengzhou University, reminded that children should never be severely punished for their idleness.

For example, some children are naturally dull and insensitive to external reactions and exploring new things. Other children grinned when they saw the new toys, but it took a while to show their love for them.

"A child like this, if left unchecked, is likely to form the problem of muddling along." Xu Hui said, however, although his innate character is relatively stable, the acquired environment can still be improved, especially the younger the child, the greater the influence of the environment on him. We should meet their material and emotional needs in time and create more opportunities for them to accept external information.

It is not the child's fault to dawdle, so parents should review it from the perspective of education. In addition to the innate character, improper family education is an important reason for procrastination. Xu Hui suggested that parents should always introspect from the following aspects: parents are slow to do things, and children are more susceptible. The family environment is noisy, and children are easily disturbed, forming an unspecific habit, which is manifested as behavioral procrastination.

When a child is doing something, his parents love to tell him what to do or scold him, which makes him feel nervous when he is distracted or reprimanded, and it will be slower to finish things. Some parents always think that their children are too slow to do things, and they are eager to help him. As a result, help will only get slower and slower. In the long run, children will form a mindset: I will do it slowly, but someone will help anyway.

Some parents think that children can't do things well, so they take the place of their children and let them lose many opportunities for exercise. Because of my weak ability to do things, I naturally muddle along. Some children are perfect and will be slower, which is related to the fact that ordinary parents are too strict with their children.

Some parents think it's best to learn more before their children go to school.

So every day when children come back from kindergarten, they still have to learn a lot or receive a lot of training. Children have no free space, sometimes they will be soft-hearted, deliberately slow down, and after a long time, they will form the habit of dawdling. Do what you can and face the consequences of delay. If your child has not developed the habit of procrastination, please remember to avoid the above parenting behavior.

"According to the child's age characteristics, let him learn to concentrate on doing one thing in a certain period of time." Xu Hui said that preschool children's concentration time is short, about 10 ~ 15 minutes. Parents should give their children an appropriate amount of learning tasks, and they can't resist fatigue, otherwise their attention will be easily distracted and muddled along after fatigue.

Encouraging children to do what they like at ordinary times can cultivate their attention and help reduce the occurrence of procrastination. For children who love to dawdle, parents can also try the following methods: First, teach children to do what they can.

Get up a few minutes early in the morning and let him get up, get dressed, put on shoes and have breakfast by himself. If he dawdles, he will resolutely put away the table. This is also a small "negative punishment (negative punishment, that is, depriving children of the right to do what they like, such as watching TV)". Next time, in order not to be hungry, he may eat faster.

Secondly, if the child is criticized by the teacher for being late, let him face the criticism himself. Afterwards, the parents will tell him the truth and guide him to speed up his work and arrange his own time.

Finally, in some things, parents can create some scenes to compete with their children, on the one hand, to improve their interest in doing things, on the other hand, to speed up their work. "Children aged 2-4 are in the first rebellious period of their lives, which is mainly manifested in rebellious behavior.

For example, they should dress themselves and eat by themselves to show their autonomy. But limited by ability, sometimes it seems to be muddling along. "Xu Hui said, this time, parents don't think that children are deliberately aimed at you. Even if time doesn't allow him to "linger" like this, he should reason with him in a way he understands and create more opportunities afterwards. Let him do things independently.