Children like to compare with others. How should parents educate him?

As parents, we must remain vigilant. What is the reason behind children's comparison? ? 1, cognitive ability and self-confidence

There are many reasons for children's comparison, but most of them are related to children's cognitive ability and self-confidence.

Children who like to compare and show off often want to get the attention of others, and this feeling can satisfy their own hearts.

2. Adult's "subtle influence"

It is often mentioned in children's ears that the children next door are great, 1 year-old will recite poems ... or adults are discussing who bought the villa and who drove the luxury car. After a long time, children will inevitably not be affected.

In fact, comparison is a child's instinct. There is nothing wrong with children wanting to gain the attention and envy of others. However, if everything is competing for comparison, it should be changed.

So, what should parents do in the face of children's comparison behavior? ? Method 1: Tell children about the hardships of making money.

Let children know the hardships of parents making money from an early age and don't have to give them too much consideration.

Method 2: keep a normal heart.

Parents should put an end to the idea of comparing their children from the heart, don't put pressure on their children by taking other people's children as examples, treat their temporary shortcomings with a normal heart, and give them more encouragement and appreciation. Children want respect, appreciation, applause and recognition. Did you give it?

Mode 3: Guide attention to study.

Children have a psychological state of keeping up with competition, which shows that children have the concept of market competition in their hearts and want to reach the same level as others or surpass others.

Parents need to grasp their children's enterprising spirit, change their concept of food and clothing and consumption, and correctly guide their children to compare with others in learning, training, talent and perseverance.

Tell children that children who study well get more praise than children who dress beautifully.

Mode 4: Respect children's nature.

Parents should respect their children's nature and don't blindly follow suit. Their children should learn what others have learned. If others go to Peking University, my children will go to Tsinghua. This is not desirable. In fact, parents can only achieve success and happiness if they find a development path suitable for their children, cultivate them according to their nature and let them grow up according to their own personality.

Method 5: Parents set an example without comparing themselves.

Some children love to keep up with the joneses, usually because of their parents. If parents often say to their children, see which child is better than you and which student studies better than you. Gradually, children will often compare with others, and parents should pay attention to their words and deeds.

I don't think parents should associate praise for their children with their appearance. Praise for children should be fully reflected in quality, such as who loves labor, who loves cleanliness, who loves helping others, and so on. In this way, children will have excellent values invisibly.

In daily life, parents must stop meaningless behaviors, pay more attention to their babies, see their own development, objectively evaluate their test scores, and let them treat themselves correctly.

Abandon "other people's children ..." and let their own children leave. Don't talk about expectations, just make suggestions; There are no rules, just hints. What should children do if they have a comparison mentality? Helping children know themselves, find themselves and love themselves is the serious thing parents should do.