After reading the journey of raising a baby, you may understand those who don’t want to have a baby.

The results of China’s seventh census came out a few days ago, and the birth rate has dropped again. Now many people don’t want to have children and raise them, because it’s easy to give birth but not to raise them. Let me briefly talk about my journey of raising a baby.

Raising a baby is like raising a game account, constantly fighting monsters and upgrading. Before I had children, I worked in a private company. I had to look at the computer all day long and sometimes travel for business. After becoming pregnant, I had a lot of inconveniences at work and for other reasons, so I quit my job, raised my baby at home, and started a new stage of my life.

Looking back, I probably lost my original self from the moment I got pregnant and became one of the many ordinary mothers who always put my baby first in everything. Even raising my baby at home failed to bring my baby to full term. I still gave birth prematurely. I thought it would be fine once I gave birth, but on the contrary, it only started after giving birth. I experienced the pain of uterine labor; I endured the pain of the incision, the pain of breastfeeding, and the pain of breast enlargement; I saw that my figure was out of shape and my face was haggard; I also had to endure the psychological gap before and after delivery, and I was on call 24 hours a day to look after the baby; Try to learn to be a good mother, but even if you try hard, you may not be able to raise your children well. Experts say you shouldn’t raise children across generations. Society says women should be financially independent. Grandma says mothers should wash, cook and take care of their children. Dad says I’m so tired from working. This is why many women don’t want to have children, because they give birth to and take care of the children by themselves, and they are solely responsible for anything that happens. So what’s the point of getting married and having children? Find one for yourself or The ancestor of a family gave birth to their flesh and blood? No wonder girls nowadays are unwilling to get married and have children. There is also a reason for China’s low birth rate.

Let’s talk about what children have to go through at each stage. Children have difficult things to go through at every stage. Due to premature birth, my baby was difficult to take care of in the first month. He ate little and had diarrhea. His jaundice had not gone away even after he was one month old. Finally, the first month passed. In the second month, the endless crying and colic appeared again. I hugged her for a whole month, even sleeping at night. It's been a hundred days and he still can't roll over. I'm starting to get anxious again. Do I practice lying on my stomach every day? Four months later, he developed aversion to milk. Seeing that his little face, which had finally gained weight, was now a little thinner, I began to feel anxious. At the early stage of teething at five months old, my baby's gums were itchy and he kept pulling and biting me while he was breastfeeding, which made me scared when I thought of breastfeeding. I started adding complementary foods at six months, and I started a new study, fearing that my child’s nutrition would not be comprehensive enough. There is still a lot to go through after this. The one-year-old can walk and dare not leave his sight at all times; the two-year-old is a scary stage when the child begins to have self-awareness; the three-year-old has separation anxiety when entering kindergarten; the four-year-old prepares for a school district room and considers enrollment matters; the five-year-old When you start studying at the age of six, everything is difficult at the beginning; at the age of seven or eight, the dog becomes bored. Then came the official start of primary school, various remedial classes and interest classes. The children were tired and the adults were tired but did not dare to relax. I finally went to junior high school, worked hard to get into a good high school, went to high school and worked hard to go to a good university, and then found a job. I watched my children not being anxious to start a family, but then I became anxious again. After I got a family, it was the cycle of taking care of the children again. Oh my God, I thought about my life, or more specifically my mother’s life.

Some people say that who doesn’t come here like this? Yes, for most women and most parents in China, this is how they raise their children. When I say this, I am not complaining, but stating the facts. It is a good thing that some people like children and are willing to have more children, and it is understandable that some people do not want to do this. We cannot judge those who do not want to have children from our own perspective. Of course, there are many happy moments in the process of raising a baby. A complete life is when you are happy or unhappy. Raising children is not easy, but they need to be raised and cherished.