My best friend was abused by her husband. The wife consulted with her husband. Husband: I envy her husband. What happened afterwards?

But what do men think of domestic violence?

I once interviewed a man with a history of domestic violence: "Men's domestic violence is forced by women. You stopped her from talking, and she kept talking there, giving you a headache, and she was still talking. At that time, you didn't have to use force. She couldn't stop. Many times, I beat my wife to shut her up. "

A man who has domestic violence thinks so, but what about a man who looks after his family?

I interviewed such a person. His answer is: "Domestic violence can't be entirely blamed on men, sometimes it is also related to women." Some women betray their marriage, don't do housework, quarrel every day, and are unfilial to their in-laws. Men are forced to a certain extent, and it is understandable to hit them twice. "

I went to the restaurant yesterday and witnessed a domestic violence. I wrote it down. I hate the man who was abused by domestic violence, but I am more angry with the woman who was abused by domestic violence.

After I finished writing this story, I received many readers' messages backstage.

A divorced woman once said, "Don't say that I tolerate men's domestic violence, but I can't tolerate men who don't oppose it."

Her ex-husband is not a domestic violence, but he is a supporter of potential domestic violence.

She has a very good girlfriend. After marriage, she was often abused by men. She hates that violent man. Every time her best friend is violent, she will scold him.

But her best friend is like the woman who was beaten yesterday. She is used to domestic violence. The man hit her, said a few nice words and coaxed her back.

Because after a man's domestic violence, there are no adverse consequences. Therefore, domestic violence has become a common phenomenon. Finally, every time a man wants to hit her best friend, her best friend will tell him, "Don't hit him in the face. People are embarrassed to see him."

So, the man and she finally reached such a tacit understanding. A man wouldn't hit her in the face unless he was particularly angry. But if a man is angry, he will deliberately hit her in the face as punishment.

There is such a couple around her, which has greatly influenced her view on domestic violence. She hates domestic violence, but in the end, her husband not only doesn't object to domestic violence, but also thinks that he can beat his wife when he is angry, which is too Japanese.

At first, she thought her husband was just talking. However, once they quarreled, the man tentatively threw a chair at her.

Just then, she suddenly woke up. She suddenly realized that it was a temptation. Once she put up with it, the man will gradually evolve into a violent man.

She said: "At that moment, I suddenly woke up. A voice told me that I must not forget it easily and I must divorce. Because I don't divorce, it means that I will become my best friend. "

She said that's how she got divorced.

At that time, many people around advised her that men didn't really have domestic violence. He was just testing. But this woman said, "I never regret getting divorced. Luckily, I didn't have children then. I have to put up with it for another two years. When he really has a domestic violence, we all have children, and my life will be even more tragic. "

Many people told her that she was too radical about it. She told me: "I witnessed my best friend's domestic violence life with my own eyes. I am not only afraid of domestic violence, but also afraid that I will become an insensitive person in "Patience" again and again. " I had only one thought at that time, and I would never put myself in that danger. Even if you are divorced, it doesn't matter if you live alone for a lifetime. But absolutely, I don't face a man's fist every day. "

I really want to applaud this woman's bravery.

Because she didn't gamble on love all her life. In fact, many women can find that men are prone to domestic violence before they get married.

However, they didn't leave this person at once.

I once asked some women why. A woman said, "I think he can change." I feel that as long as I am good to him, he will be good to me. " I don't think he is a bad person, and he hit me because I went too far. As long as I don't quarrel with him, he won't hit me. "

You see, this is a woman with a "love brain", humble in love. It's not that she doesn't know that being with men is dangerous, but she still chooses to believe in so-called love.

Treating domestic violence is a matter for psychologists. Women, in marriage and love, don't take themselves too seriously.

In marriage, a woman should never have a virgin heart. Never get married with the idea of saving anyone. Because I'm so tired.

Even if you work too hard, you may still accomplish nothing. You can also do as the woman says, I don't quarrel with men, I endure men for everything. But that long time, how hard you should be, how wronged you should be, and how bitter you should be inside.

Is it really worthwhile for you to spend your whole life healing a man who punched you?

I sincerely advise all women not to do such a thing. Really, it takes professionals and even psychologists to cure domestic violence, which is difficult to do. You are just an unarmed little woman. You really want to find a normal man and live a normal life. Don't spend your whole life with such a domestic violence man.

Whatever the reason, domestic violence is wrong. Please also ask men to understand that this is the bottom line of your life and the lever line of your character.

A man's wife betrayed his marriage.

He chose domestic violence instead of divorce. I hit my wife in the street in front of many people. While fighting, he publicized his wife's bad things. He beat his wife, but still unconvinced, he spread bad words about women everywhere. Suddenly, the whole village knew about women.

A woman's reputation has been ruined all her life, and finally she has to let it go.

But will it really be understood that men do this?

People do not sympathize with the woman, but also "stay at a respectful distance from others" to the man. They think this man is too vindictive, and beating his wife is widely publicized. His character is really bad.

After this incident, few people are willing to associate with men. Because when he destroyed that woman, he also destroyed himself.

Many people have told me that if one person is very bad, you have to be very bad.

Really, don't be so stupid. Don't ruin your life for those who betray your marriage.

She betrayed her marriage. You don't need to hate her. The best thing you should do is to leave, live your life well and never associate with such people.

Women must have zero tolerance for domestic violence. Because only zero tolerance can shock men and make them afraid to raise the hand of domestic violence.

Yesterday I wrote about the woman who was abused by domestic violence.

No one wronged her, but everyone knew that she would forgive the man who abused her.

It is she who allows this kind of injury, which is why men are so unscrupulous.

What if you were like that brave woman from the beginning?

Seeing that men are prone to domestic violence, she immediately chose to leave. Then she will never be hurt like this in her life.

Really, the best way to avoid domestic violence is not to be with such people in the first place. If you don't know before you get married, if you don't know until after you get married, stop at once.

When all women have zero tolerance for domestic violence, men will hesitate at the moment they raise their hands. Because, he knows, this is a point of no return. But if this slap goes on, the woman will leave him completely.

Domestic violence should be zero times, and once is the most. Endure again and again, how cowardly women are.