How to be a smart wife

1. Most women who don't complain after marriage don't have a good life. Life after marriage can't be all right, and it's understandable to complain occasionally, but if you habitually complain about trivial things in life all day. It will only make people around you feel uncomfortable. Want to ignore their own existence, together is a kind of torture, want to escape. Therefore, a smart wife will not complain in her married life, but will enjoy life more and enjoy the beautiful feelings brought by life. 2. Trusting each other's trust is the foundation of the relationship between husband and wife, but women are naturally sensitive, which is more reflected especially after women get married. As long as there is a little trouble around her husband, it may lead her to question her husband, and she must get to the bottom of it. As long as a person drinks late, he must ask who he drank with. As long as he doesn't take you out to dinner, be sure to ask if the other person is a man or a woman. Some wives have to check each other's cell phones to determine whether their husbands are loyal or not. The result is that her husband will often lie to you, and if a stupid woman is cheated by him, she will live a lie woven by her husband every day. If she accidentally discovers her husband's lies, the two will be torn apart and quarrel endlessly. Therefore, a smart wife will trust her husband in her marriage life, and her husband will be honest with her because her wife trusts him, so as to hold a man's heart more firmly. 3. Give each other face. For a man, in front of outsiders, especially friends, face is very important. If his wife is outspoken in public, he will think that this woman is too timid. The attitude towards you will also change, which will easily lead to emotional breakdown. The last thing a man likes is that someone damages his image. Only a stupid woman would do such a thing all the time. Therefore, a smart wife will give men enough face in public places and in front of friends outside, and wait until they get home, and be good at controlling their emotions. Such a woman won't lose anything in marriage, but is more likely to get happiness. 4, will manage money If the family originally earned just enough money for daily expenses, and the wife still spends a lot of money and doesn't know how to save, then the family is likely to have a quarrel because of the money problem. Even if a family earns more money, it is very dangerous to spend money without restraint. Therefore, a smart wife needs to learn how to manage money. In daily expenses, she will not only spend money indiscriminately, but also invest money in places worth spending, such as children's future education funds and so on. Marriage is like a shop. Only by knowing how to operate can you make a profit. Otherwise, it will make ends meet until it goes bankrupt. In marriage, we should all be smart wives, so that our family life will be happier. How to be a smart wife 2 How to run a happier marriage 1. Learn to face shortcomings. The road of life has ups and downs, and so does marriage. It is unlikely that every day will be as sweet as when you are in love. The first marriage is a bottleneck. It's just that the solution is different in method and time. If you encounter shortcomings in your marriage, you don't have to avoid and hide them. You can solve the difficulties in many ways. When many married people encounter shortcomings in their marriage life, they always avoid them. They were completely strangers before, but they came together because of love. There will inevitably be friction between the relative necessities of life, there will be all kinds of problems, and all kinds of differences will break out. But the problems that can be solved are not problems, and the differences that can be solved are not differences. Faced with such problems and differences, they will deal with them heart-to-heart, instead of avoiding the existing problems, so the problems will become more and more, snowballing. When you are no longer so easy to bear, your marriage life will be in crisis. 2, less complaining, more tolerance, regardless of the reality of love can be brilliant, but after marriage, I began to worry about food, clothing, housing and transportation, and the' bits and pieces' of daily life will make everyone complain. Many families, especially after having children, are generally male protagonists and housewives. Boys are responsible for bringing home the bacon and women are responsible for reasoning. Boys wandering outside will inevitably feel wronged and tired. If they go back to China and have to deal with all kinds of complaints from their wives, will you be happy if it is you? Similarly, it is not easy to take care of the baby and do housework at the same time. If you work hard, you will bear the contempt of your husband, and all women will not accept it. If you complain too much, your feelings will get weaker and weaker. Less complaining and more praise can promote the harmony of married life. To understand each other's marriage life is to tie two people who love each other together. From now on, everyone means relatives, which means that the world is no longer your own world, and the other person's emotions can hurt you immediately. If the left hand and the right hand don't get along well, sometimes there will be a little friction, not to mention two multi-faceted living people. Food, clothing, housing and transportation, and living together are indispensable for them. At this moment, they must learn to understand each other well. Sometimes, they will be angry and drool at each other and even attack each other with vicious language when the other party does not give in. This is completely unnecessary. Between the two, it is better to regret later than to say nothing at that time. My best friend and her husband have always had a good relationship. They have been married for so many years that I have never seen them blush because of quarreling. Unexpectedly, I poured out my envy and jealousy to my best friend, but I got a burst of laughter from her. He said that where couples don't quarrel, people also quarrel, but every time we calm down in a unique way. It turns out that every time a good friend quarrels with her husband, it is an "exchange quarrel." When people are angry, they simply can't tell the harm their words have done to each other. I quarreled with my husband several times and found that it was not good. No matter how emotional I was, I promised to take back each other's statement and attack each other every time I quarreled. As a result, they felt that they could not quarrel without saying a few words. 4. Don't doubt each other casually. The most important thing in getting along with others is mutual trust. Don't doubt others, especially emotions. The most important thing between husband and wife is mutual respect, and we should not doubt each other casually. Once suspicion is mixed in marriage, this feeling will also cast a shadow of distrust. All day long, I am sensitive and suspicious, wondering whether my lover is cheating after marriage, whether he is plotting to divide his assets, etc. After all, this kind of person's marriage life is unsuccessful and unhappy, because her suspicion will eventually destroy all her love. Happiness is not so taken for granted. Happiness is actually hard-won. When two people come together because of love, they must be convinced of each other's love for themselves and have confidence in themselves and their lovers. There is no direct evidence to doubt each other, which is not only a doubt about this kind of love, but also shows from another level that he has long disliked each other. 5. Understand that sharing obligations means choosing food, clothing, housing and transportation together and treating each other as your lifelong lover, which not only means sharing weal and woe, but also means sharing weal and woe. This involves the difficult problem of obligation. The obligation in marriage life is not only reflected in the burden of major events, but also in the whole process of food, clothing, housing and transportation. As far as housework is concerned, two people often have their own jobs. Both husband and wife should do their own jobs well, and at the same time, do housework for each other and create a warm home for each other, instead of doing it alone. Husbands should not blindly recommend the obligation of cleaning to their wives, but should protect themselves. A man and a beautiful woman in a happy marriage know how to share housework voluntarily, or how to be a smart wife. How to solve the contradiction in marriage life? 1. Pay attention to solving the problem, don't magnify the problem, and don't preach the contradiction between husband and wife everywhere, which is not good for you to save your marriage. First of all, men need face. They don't want their husband and wife's affairs to be known and paid too much attention to by others. Secondly, the problem between husband and wife, only the husband and wife know the root of the problem best, others can't really understand it, and they can't make very useful comments on it. Second, if there is a problem, we should control the emotional conflict between husband and wife. Even after an argument, don't enlarge the problem, which will lead to the deterioration of the relationship between husband and wife. We should stop blaming each other and other behaviors as soon as possible. Don't bring up the past because of this problem, arguing endlessly, and the emotional crisis can't be effectively solved. Every time there is a marriage problem, both sides should be reasonable and learn to talk about the matter. We are solving the problem, not expanding it. Third, effective communication In the process of marriage, communication is a necessary bridge to maintain the feelings of husband and wife, and it is also one of the most direct and effective ways to promote the feelings of two people. Husband and wife should be honest with each other. In any case, what we should do most is to tell each other the truth, not hide it. It is much more useful to speak out on your own initiative than to be discovered by the other party at last, and it can also avoid many unnecessary disputes in time. No matter how busy you are at work, husband and wife should take some time to be alone every day and talk about problems or interesting things in their work and life. It can also be a conversation between two people.