Don't explain to others.

"In the past, I always explained and reasoned. I am afraid, afraid that I will offend others, afraid that I will be destroyed, and afraid of those small feelings that are constantly moving.

"I don't explain now, I don't go to theory, I'm still afraid, I'm afraid of wasting time, I'm afraid of blurring my focus, and I'm afraid of affecting my appetite for worldly life."

We live in this world, from birth to death, we have known countless people and experienced ups and downs. Some people work hard all their lives, stick to their love and beliefs, live their own lives, have their own personalities, and never bother to explain their right or wrong to others.

And some people have been muddling along all their lives without clear opinions and goals. No matter what they do, whether right or wrong, they are always eager to explain themselves to others.

For example, what you hear most often is:

I'm sorry, it's really not my intention, I mean ...

I'm sorry, I did it for your own good. You can't wrong me. ...

I'm sorry, I just think it will bring benefits to everyone. ...

Explain and explain, and finally make it more and more unpleasant. I didn't express myself clearly, but it gave people the feeling that there was no silver here. Why?

A truly mature person will not explain himself to others. It doesn't matter what others say, what matters is to live your life in your own way.

There is a saying in the Book of Songs Feng Wang Collection Li Shu: "Those who know me are worried, and those who don't know me are eager."

People who know you don't need to explain, and people who don't know you don't deserve to explain.

That's true. Two people with the same frequency, soul mates in everything, communication becomes particularly easy. Whether it's sadness or joy, one look is enough without unnecessary language.

For someone who doesn't understand you, when you encounter great sadness in life, the other person will think that you are making a mountain out of a molehill. When you are happy for the little luck in life, the other person thinks you are too naive.

The joys and sorrows of the world are not connected. Everything you do is realistic in front of people who know you. In front of people who don't understand you, everything you do is hypocritical.

Mr Jiang Yang once wrote:

There is no need to let everyone know the real you, and there is no need to tell others what kind of person you are all the time. People who know you will naturally understand, and people who believe in you will naturally believe. What do you look like if everyone understands you? Time is a moment of peace, chicken feathers are daily life, scenery is far away, and life is near.

Some explanations only make sense to those who understand, don't you think?

Haruki Murakami said: "There is a kind of sadness in the world that you can't cry. This kind of sadness cannot be explained to people, and even if you explain it, people will not understand. "

For example, if you stand on the top of a mountain and tell him that there is a Wang Yang in front of you, and he is halfway up the mountain, he can only see the desolation everywhere.

There are different levels between people. People at the same level don't need to explain if both sides can communicate easily. People at different levels, because of different cognition, can't get your point, or can't * * * love, then the explanation becomes meaningless.

Hegel once said: "If you concentrate on your career, you will forget a lot of troubles and find happiness in the process of hard work. People who work silently are actually the smartest people. "

What's the point of explaining? Can you change other people's perceptions? Can you turn what others understand as "black" into "white" in your eyes? Since you can't, why explain.

A truly mature person, it is best to live in his own world, and don't rush to explain it in others' mouths. A person's life is only 30,000 days, and life is really precious. Don't waste precious time on explanations.

"Zhuangzi Qiushui" has a cloud: "The well frog can't talk to those who are in the sea, but is confined to the air; Summer insects can't talk to ice or time; Qu's family can't talk to Taoist priests and is bound to religion. "

In this world, no matter how excellent you are, there are always people who hate you, no matter how kind you are, there are always people who slander you, no matter how much you cherish, there are always people who misunderstand you.

Remember, life doesn't need too many explanations, never explain yourself to others, just be yourself!