Say no to mental internal friction

Reject justice and learn to reconcile with yourself.

How to get rid of mental internal friction

0 1 Learn to be an imperfect person: First, lower your expectations and don't give your brain too many presuppositions.

02: Do what you can control, don't give yourself too many presuppositions to do what you can control, you can bring yourself positive feedback, and you will become more confident and cheerful because of these positive feedback incentives.

03: Be an honest and frank boy. Ask questions if you don't understand, use "straight thinking" to solve doubts and bypass the "internal friction" link. If you don't know anything, it is wise to communicate clearly face to face and eliminate misunderstandings from the beginning.

04: Communicate with the outside world in time ① Communicate with family and friends. (2) Pour out your thoughts by writing a note.

05: It's no use thinking too much. Learn to enjoy the present happiness.

06: The process of doing aerobic exercise, meditation, traveling and running is pure happiness. When the body is in motion, it will automatically secrete dopamine and endorphins, and people will naturally become happy.

07: Reading, watching movies and documentaries, and enhancing the cognition of those high-quality books or high-scoring movies are actually a collection of the author's valuable experience, which contains a lot of philosophy of life. The more ways you know, the less trouble you have, and you won't fall into internal friction.

0 1. Play straight in love.

Express your needs directly! Don't imply that you don't have to be weird. Men and women have different thinking logics. Say whatever you want. [A sister asked me: I want my boyfriend to buy me a bag. I asked him which one looked good. Didn't he buy it for me on purpose? ] Just say it if you need it, baby! Boys' brain circuits are not so tortuous!

02. Don't deliberately change each other's habits, give him advice. You can't change anyone unless he wants to. Don't be each other's mother. If you really can't stand it, score! If you don't like smokers, don't find smokers; If you don't like drinking, don't look for a drinker. Unless the other person is willing to change, you can only suggest and never say "you can't change for me" or "I'm doing it for your own good".

03. Don't look at the poisoned chicken soup on the Internet. Everyone's love is different. Don't compare with others. Don't test the other half with poisoned chicken soup on the Internet! Don't think that the other person doesn't love you just because the other person's circle of friends doesn't send it. Your feelings are the most accurate. Did he take you to meet your friends? Did you let your family know about your existence? Do you usually spend time and money?

04. Lower expectations, don't ask for gifts, and don't give things in return! If you don't really want to give it to each other, don't give it to each other. It's meaningless if the other party doesn't really give it to you? Why not be the one who pays back? [520] I bought my boyfriend a ring with a price of 10000, but I always hinted that he would not return the gift! I suggest not to give such an expensive gift easily unless you are sure that the other person has the ability and will return the gift. After sending it, I am worried that the other party will not return the gift, and it is still uncomfortable to spend money.

05. Don't over-interpret each other's behavior. Don't be too sensitive and over-analyze the behavior of the other half. Be insensitive, don't keep reading comprehension, it will make you more tired. [My boyfriend didn't reply to my message all morning, telling me that he just woke up at noon? Are you kidding? My boyfriend forgot to say good night to you last night. Doesn't he care about me? Why doesn't my new circle of friends like it? Is there a problem? Sometimes you may think too much. Listen to his explanation and rational judgment. The more I think about it, the more I doubt him, and the worse I feel.

06. Don't be the one waiting for the other person to reply. It should be easy to talk. Try to concentrate on your career and don't rely too much on the other half on the screen. I shared a lot of daily life with him today, and he didn't reply to me much, saying that he was busy. Doesn't he want to share it with me? ] The other party doesn't reply to the message, or is busy or doesn't want to reply to you. These two reasons are not worth your anxiety. Try to do your own thing to enrich yourself, don't wait in vain!

7. Don't fall into an emotional black hole, know how to communicate and respond, and solve any existing minor contradictions and current minor emotions in time. Don't hide them, it will explode more violently next time! He has been playing with his mobile phone at dinner in the evening. I always ignore me when I talk to him. Should I say it? Will it make me narrow-minded to say it? There is no right or wrong in love, only you like it or not, just say it if you are unhappy, and don't doubt yourself!