Why is it said that women chase men's spacer yarn? What does yarn mean?

In traditional Chinese concepts, there is a familiar saying: When a man pursues a woman, there is a mountain between them; when a woman pursues a man, there is a veil between them. This means that it is more difficult for men to pursue women, but it is extremely easy for women to pursue men!

Today, let us put aside the question of who is easier to pursue whom, and focus on two major issues, that is, when a woman pursues a man, how can she break through the face barrier and can she pursue happiness?

The first question: How to break through the face barrier

Women are mostly feminine and quiet in character, and they are also relatively reserved and passive emotionally. Even if they meet someone they like very much, they will show off their behavior. Must be more reserved, preferring to wait or hint, and rarely take the initiative. The reason for this is not only influenced by the personality characteristics of the female group, but also closely related to some untimely concepts in traditional culture.

Nowadays, society is becoming more and more enlightened, some old thinking is gradually being broken, and the phenomenon of women chasing men is becoming increasingly common. However, some women still have psychological barriers and cannot break through the face barrier. It is actually not difficult to break through the barrier of face. Women only need to ask themselves a few points:

1. Does the other person like me too? Even if you can't confirm it for the time being, you can still test it by making insinuations. If you want to succeed, at least the other party doesn't hate you.

2. Is the other person worth boldly pursuing? The so-called worthwhile means that you have a preliminary understanding and assessment of the man's personality, type, etc. in the early stage, and then you start taking action if the other person is suitable for you, instead of pounce on him as soon as you see a handsome guy. Character and ability are the key.

3. What should I do if I am rejected? Since you are taking the initiative, there is definitely a possibility of failure, so you have to let go of the thought that if you are rejected, you will feel embarrassed or even intolerable.

After thinking clearly about the above issues, go for it boldly!

Case: Xiaoxia, a college classmate, met her husband during the process of her active pursuit. Now, the two have been married for ten years, their daughter is 5 years old, and their relationship is relatively stable!

Second question: Can you pursue happiness?

Many old ideas believe that women chasing men is an act of subversion and is easily looked down upon by others. Even if they chase men, they will not be taken seriously by men. . The chief emotional engineer would say that this kind of thinking should have been thrown into the trash heap of history long ago.

Today is a fast-paced era, and it is also an era that pays more attention to equality. Even if men are still dominant in many cases, at least they are completely equal in terms of personality. If that's the case, why can't women pursue men? Will you be discriminated against if you chase me?

Besides, the key to a happy relationship is not who is more proactive, but whether the two are suitable and have a tacit understanding of temperament, hobbies, etc.

Some men are excellent themselves and have many admirers around them, but they may be less expressive. Women with a little more courage can take the initiative and educate and train the men after success. Wouldn’t it be a good marriage? ?

I once read an article saying that some single women over 30 years old have actually met men they like very much, but because they want to save face and don’t want to give in, they end up single and helpless. A pitiful ending. Although there is no way to verify how many such women there are, there must be some!

What do you think about this topic?