Children learn to wear shoes by themselves.

Childhood is a critical period for children to establish independence and learn to take care of themselves.

Usually when children are 3 or 4 years old, they have developed the characteristics of self-confidence and independence, and they want to do many things by themselves.

At this time, parents should pay attention to encouraging their children to exercise their basic self-care ability in time.

You can let children try to do some small things that they can, and give appropriate encouragement after success.

"Eat cookies by yourself", "Eat by yourself", "Wear clothes and shoes by yourself", "Lose your diaper by yourself" and so on. Children will spontaneously show their self-care ability when they grow up. In addition, they are curious and like to imitate the behavior of adults, which makes them find it interesting to complete these actions!

In fact, if parents can give timely guidance and help, accompany their children to practice repeatedly and form good habits, not only can they build their confidence, but also make them willing to face more challenges and cultivate better abilities.

The most direct influence of self-care ability is children's self-confidence and initiative. If children can't do their own things, such as eating, dressing and wearing shoes, it may lead to poor initiative and long-term lack of responsibility. However, Zhang, a professional occupational therapist, pointed out: "When a child's self-care ability has problems, it is usually not only a unilateral lack of ability, but also a slow development. 」

Therapist Zhang cited an example. He once met a two-and-a-half-year-old child who couldn't eat with a spoon. He further added, "Generally speaking, a two-year-old child has developed the ability to eat with a spoon, but this child has not developed this ability at the age of two and a half because he develops very slowly. 」

After the evaluation, it is found that the children's big muscles lack stability, the small muscles lack flexibility and poor coordination, and the food is easy to fall when scooping food with a spoon; In addition, it is not easy to put the spoon in the mouth in a short time when the food is scooped up, and various factors make it difficult for children to eat food.

Because parents only want to train their living ability, Zhang's therapist said, "When training children to eat, put a 300-gram sandbag directly on their elbows to increase the stability of their big muscles, make their hands more stable, and use their wrists more flexibly. At the same time, let them operate their big muscles with a heavier spoon so as to scoop up food smoothly. 」

Next, the child is trained to put the spoon in his mouth. Therapist Zhang explained: "We put a mirror in front of the child so that the child can practice putting the spoon in his mouth while looking at the spoon in the mirror, instead of letting him feel the position of his mouth. 」

Although it seems to have successfully solved the problem of eating, it actually only temporarily eased the situation of children eating at home. Therapist Zhang still advises parents to help their children strengthen the training of basic skills, otherwise sandbags, mirrors and exclusive spoons should be prepared every time they go out, which will not only bring a lot of trouble, but also attract strange eyes.

Another case is that a 3-year-old girl can't button up yet.

Although she can dress herself, she will never learn to button her own clothes.

Parents feel very strange. They have prepared some Montessori teaching AIDS at home and have to practice threading and buckling. The girl is doing well. Why can't she button her clothes?

After evaluation, I found that girls really don't buckle their clothes.

Therapist Zhang explained: "Usually, children will start to practice buttoning when they are two and a half years old, but parents will let girls practice buttoning dolls or family members when they are two years old. But if you change your position and button your clothes, the girl's fine movements will not be completed. 」

Although the child has been repeatedly trained in this aspect, the mother always fails to buckle when she sees the child, and sometimes she is in a hurry to lose her temper, which also makes the child feel blamed and leads to tension between parents and children.

Therefore, Zhang, a psychologist, suggested parents: "Give children more time to practice. 」

If you plan to go out, you can let your child practice dressing 1 hour in advance and button up slowly.

At this time, the mother can do some housework and even leave the scene to let the children try it themselves.

When the child presses a button, remember to encourage him: "Wow! You're great. You deducted one. Praise your child's good performance, and the child will not only get better and better, but also get faster and faster.

Self-care, comprehensive display of a variety of abilities

On the whole, self-care ability is not a single ability, but a comprehensive display of various abilities, including coarse movements, fine movements, cognitive ability, language expression ability, social ability and so on.

Therapist Zhang pointed out: "Weak self-care ability does not mean that you can't concentrate on your study, because it involves whether you need to use self-care ability in your study. Moreover, self-care ability is mainly used in daily life, and it is impossible to determine whether it is related to concentration.

Parents will be relaxed if the children come by themselves.

Self-care seems simple, but it is the most basic life ability and responsibility cultivation. When a child can "do it by himself", it also improves his independence and initiative. He won't wait for his parents to help him finish what he should do. He will avoid raising a "mother treasure". And parents will be more relaxed when raising their children, and they don't have to help them finish it. In order to establish children's independence and sense of responsibility, we should start with the cultivation of self-care ability! ?