Rural people raise children to prevent old age. What about the son now?

Raising children to prevent old age is an ancient idiom, which comes from Chen's "Shilin Guangji".

In rural areas, families with only daughters are really rare. But it is not without it. My aunt's family only has daughters, and the clinic opposite my family is all daughters. I feel that they are all very happy. In fact, a family with only daughters will not be worse than a family with sons, but will be more moist.

In fact, it is not only in the countryside, but everywhere. The concept of raising children for old age is still decaying in the minds of China people, but it is more serious in rural areas. Although family planning in China was quite strict before the opening of the second child policy, for rural people, family planning is nothing compared with such an important event as giving birth. People's concept is only "there are three kinds of unfilial, and there is no big after." For fathers, sons should follow in their father's footsteps. For mother, she needs children and grandchildren to celebrate her knees. But this is not the case.

My mother often tells that joke to my father: "If you love a man, give him a daughter, and when he is old, he will have a little cotton-padded jacket to make him happy;" If you hate a man, you should give him a son. When he is old, another person will challenge him, patting the table to ask for a car and a house. "Although I always say that I will be abused by them, I am very happy every time my mother says so. This is also the case. Even as the old saying goes, the burden of raising a son is really super heavy (parents should have a deep understanding). When I was a child, I was quarreled with him every day. When I grow up, I have to worry about the wedding car and the wedding room. What if you find a girlfriend in a big city?

My grandfather's neighbor, son, works in Shanghai and finds a Shanghai girl. As a result, his family sold all the houses except his parents and got him a down payment for a house in Shanghai. Now that they have children, my grandfather and his wife have to take care of them? The antonym of raising children to prevent old age is raising tigers as a menace. Is raising children to prevent old age or raising tigers to be a menace? (Of course, there are also very filial sons, such as my father)

Knock on the blackboard and draw the key points. It's just that you must see how happy your daughter's family is.

* * * Grandma has four children, the eldest, the second and the third are all daughters, and the fourth is a boy. To tell the truth, my uncle's ability is not particularly strong. When building the house, the three sisters didn't help or get less money. My uncle is equivalent to a shopkeeper of cutting. My uncles and aunts are all working outside, and my five children are brought up by my grandparents. Now the children go to school in the city, with the help of several aunts, and grandma's tea, rice, oil and salt are often taken home by her daughter. Let's talk about my first half of my life, which was particularly hot some time ago. Luo Zijun's mother has no son, except for the little son-in-law, who is particularly troublesome.

All kinds of examples tell us that raising children to prevent old age does not necessarily prevent old age. It is not as warm as a small cotton-padded jacket.

In fact, we can't decide whether to have a boy or a girl just by looking at the examples of the public. All the same. Whether children are filial depends largely on whether they are filial. It's better to lead by example and see how other people's homes are doing now. I think it's good for parents to do this, so it's really important to tell everyone the right education! )

Netizen story

A couple in my group, for various reasons, only have one daughter, one year younger than me. Because there is only one daughter, I have loved her very much since I was a child. When we were in primary school, she used magic silk. Her hair is particularly beautiful and her clothes are better in the class. Although her family is a farmer like mine, she is particularly willing to buy what she wants and what she can afford at home.

Later, when I was in high school, she went to a technical secondary school. After graduation, she went to work in Zhejiang, where she met a boyfriend and got married three years ago. Before getting married, she promised her mother that she would send them back 2000 yuan every month. Yes, it was sent back most of the time in recent years. The man bought them a house with all his money, and both of them work, so they can save it and send it back. However, this year, she became pregnant, resigned and raised a baby, and then she never sent money again. Her parents didn't dislike it, and sent her the 1000 yuan she had sent back before.

Her father planted some land and passion fruit to earn some living expenses. My mother is 50 years old and still works in a porcelain factory. The monthly salary is about 1500, which is enough to survive, as long as there is no serious illness. Usually she comes back two or three times a year, but now she can't come back, and I think she rarely comes back in the future. 1000 kilometers away, she has her family, and it is impossible for her family to move to our side. She is also an only child. In the countryside, a daughter's marriage belongs to someone else. If the son is not well now, he is also a family member. If he has no money, he can cook you a bowl of rice. This is the case in the countryside. Most people have no old-age insurance. My grandfather has five children, three sons, two daughters, and all the daughters are married within five kilometers. They will walk around during the Spring Festival holidays and birthdays. When I was sick, my three brothers or my younger brother and I were taken to the hospital for care, and the three brothers shared the money. My daughter will be interested. No compulsion. Grandparents and their three brothers receive 1800 living expenses every year, and the three brothers take turns to send them rice every month.

Netizen story

I'm from a rural area in northern Jiangsu. There are three brothers and sisters in my family. My brother is four years older than me, my sister is four years younger than me, and my parents are over 60. In my hometown, I still pay more attention to my son. Although girls are named according to their generations, they are all named after their children and grandchildren, and there are no girls' names. Due to the previous family planning, the ratio of male to female in village primary schools is seriously unbalanced. There are more than 30 children in a class, only five or six girls. There are still some childless girls who leave their daughters at home to recruit sons-in-law. Of course, they have to build buildings, buy cars and give bride price at home, just like marrying a daughter-in-law?

My parents were born in the fifties and sixties, and their bones are very traditional. My brother didn't like learning since he was a child and dropped out of school. My sister and I both went to college and settled down in the provincial capital, so my sister-in-law has always felt that her parents are biased over the years and made a scene all day to raise a daughter instead of a son! My brother's family has two sons (the second should have been a daughter, but it turned out to be a boy. In recent years, my sister-in-law wants to have three children, but my brother doesn't agree. Because my sister-in-law gave birth to two sons, she swaggered at home all day and was not filial to my parents at all. My mother waited on her for two months, but she talked about it every day. My mother is old, so she doesn't take care of it. Find a daughter to raise? They have been married for more than ten years, and all the utilities at home are paid by my parents. Their clothes are all washed by my mother, and the daily cooking and farm work are all done by my parents.

When I was studying, my brother and sister-in-law would make a scene every time I went home on holiday. After we got married, we quarreled even more, saying that it is good to send money back at ordinary times, and we are not allowed to buy clothes for our parents, and we are not allowed to go back. We said that going back to eat and drink is a disgrace to our parents, but our parents were sick and called us to scold us for not going back to take care of our parents, baiwenhang. She said that after the demolition of her hometown, all of them belonged to her, and none of us, because their parents raised them? There are so many rooms on the third floor of the house. Parents are not allowed to live in temporary sheds in the vegetable garden when they are free. When we go home, we will go to a hotel in town.

For more than ten years, I have given red envelopes to my two nephews every New Year, but when my son was born, she refused to pay a penny. So in recent years, my sister and I have been chilling and don't know how much money to give my parents, because no matter how much money is given, my elder sister will buy insurance for her parents in private, save a month's living expenses, and give them a pension when they are old and can't earn money.

Although the elder brother and sister-in-law are so harsh on their parents, every time they are asked to come to Nanjing to live with us, their parents refuse, saying that there is too much work at home, and it will be deserted if they leave the land. Grandchildren are too young to leave and their daughters-in-law can't take care of them. They always feel that they still have to rely on their sons when they are old. After all, their daughter is married, and her husband and mother-in-law will be looked down upon by their son-in-law to live with them, which will cause trouble to their daughter. Perhaps it is in their deep-rooted thinking that raising children to prevent old age.