Tell me about a woman who gave up a stable job.

My niece Zheng Xiao called me, and the first sentence was: "Aunt, in my mother's eyes, my life is over."

I was startled. Two years after I graduated from Zheng Xiao University, I worked as a market operator in a famous new media company in Beijing. She is smart and outgoing, and she is the "star of tomorrow" that the company focuses on cultivating. One month's salary is more than my three months' salary. Why does cousin feel that her daughter has no future in life?

Because in my sister's eyes, it doesn't matter how much money you earn, but finding a stable job is the most important thing. When a girl has a stable job, she can find a good husband, and then get married and have children step by step. Only in this way can life be regarded as the right path.

Not only my sister, but also many people have the same idea. From elementary school to university, Zheng Xiao was once called "someone else's child". She not only studied well, but also served as a class cadre for many years, ranking first on the school bulletin board all the year round.

Such a girl with high IQ and EQ is considered to have no future in life just because she didn't take the postgraduate entrance examination and didn't take the civil service examination. Every time she mentioned Zheng Xiao, someone would show her contempt for "Big Boy".

My sister called me many times, asking me to persuade Zheng Xiao to go home and take an exam as a teacher or something, but I never made this call.

Zheng Xiao and I had similar experiences. After my master's degree, I did not choose to go back to my hometown to find a stable job, but resolutely joined the North drift army. As a fresh graduate, I believe I can create my own sky in Beijing.

Of course, reality hit me in the face I stayed in Beijing for several years, but I didn't get ahead. I am still a "three no products": no hukou, no house, no boyfriend. There is no hope in the future except getting old.

Although I still love Beijing, I find that I can't stand in Beijing by my own ability. After learning this lesson, I decided to pack my things and go back to my hometown to stop losses in time.

Back to my hometown, I got a stable job through my own efforts, and later I found a husband with a stable job and lived the life my family hoped.

The so-called stable job is only known to me, but it looks glamorous and decent in the eyes of outsiders. In fact, our monthly salary is limited. We have to pay off the mortgage for 30 years, raise children and help the elderly. The economic pressure is actually very great.

But I think, although the income will be reduced, it is better for girls to find a stable job in the end.

When I was working in an enterprise, I saw women over 30 being forced to resign by the company. Middle-aged women are actually in an awkward position in the workplace, and capable people have long been promoted to management, but we have to admit that most people are actually of average strength and will be bound by their families, making it difficult to make achievements in their careers.

In this way, middle-aged women are not very competitive in the workplace, and they are easily replaced by young people, and then join the army of "middle-aged unemployment".

The advantage of having a stable job is that no matter whether you do it well or not, you will not face the sense of crisis of unemployment. At least a stable cash flow can be guaranteed every month. Although it is not much, it is still enough to maintain basic survival.

Especially after having children, children are prone to headaches and brain fever. If you take three days off at both ends of the company, it won't be long before you can take a long vacation at home. The advantage of a stable job is that it is relatively convenient to take time off, which can free up more energy to take care of the family.

Of course, I'm not saying that working in an enterprise is not good. I still miss my time working in the enterprise and my beautiful youth.

For a capable and enterprising girl, a stable job may be the shackles of her life. But for most girls, they will eventually return to their families and be dull. I think it would be a relatively good career choice to find a stable job.

Therefore, women can make a living outside while they are young, but they must have a relatively long-term plan, just like our country's five-year plan, focusing on the present and looking to the future. If you have the opportunity to take the civil service vocational examination, you might as well try and add an option to your career choice.

Sometimes, no matter what others say, you have to walk by yourself, feel the bubbles on your feet and feel the scenery you have seen.

Everyone may eventually return to the ordinary and live an ordinary life, which is a rare perfection in the world.