She worked as a nanny for 5 years and was proposed to by 3 employers. Why is this?

Some time ago, a mother named Su Min went on a self-driving trip and became popular on the Internet.

As more and more things like this happen, it becomes more and more obvious that women are awakening. They are gradually realizing the unfair treatment they have suffered in marriage, and they are choosing to break up.

Although giving up will make them feel guilty for a short time, what they will get in return is a vast blue sea and sky.

Unlike Su Min’s escape, Ms. Wang Ying was forced to leave, but whether actively or passively, she finally ushered in her own bright life. Next, we will talk about Wang Ying in detail. Ms. Ying’s story.

Wang Ying is 43 years old this year. She had to divorce her husband five years ago after discovering his cheating. She and her husband were a couple in need. When she married her husband at the age of 24, he was just a small businessman with little income.

Wang Ying has a great business acumen. With her advice, her husband's business is getting better and better.

Later, Wang Ying became pregnant, and she became a full-time housewife with peace of mind. The arrival of the child overturned Wang Ying's living conditions. She was busy with housework and taking care of the children every day. In the trivial life, Wang Ying gradually degenerated into "Yellow-faced woman".

Her husband's income increased rapidly, but Wang Ying had no job and needed to rely on her husband. Her husband's attitude towards her gradually became bad, and Wang Ying could only choose to endure it. She encouraged herself in her heart: "Even if it's for the sake of the child, just bear with it."

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when Wang Ying discovered her husband's affair. Her husband, who was reluctant to buy it for her, kept a mistress. The mistress's food and clothing expenses were completely different from his own.

Wang Ying was devastated when he discovered the truth. He just wanted to stay away from them and never see them again. Even though her husband had tampered with the property, resulting in her not receiving much property at all, she accepted it and just wanted to escape quickly.

In order to survive after the divorce, Wang Ying started working as a nanny. Nearly 20 years of experience as a housewife has made her very comfortable in doing this kind of thing. Therefore, she is particularly popular in the housekeeping market and has saved a lot of money in the past five years.

During this period, three employers proposed to her, but after some consideration, she saw their true nature clearly. These men are just looking for a free nanny, not a wife. Being their wife is worse than being a nanny.

As time goes by, we have to admit one thing: marriage has become more and more useless and low value for women. Women are becoming more and more aware. Many older unmarried women are not unable to get married, but they can live quite well alone.

Marriage cannot bring them a better life, and may even lower their quality of life. There is no reason for them to go through this inexplicably just to cater to society.

A good marriage is a high-quality exchange

"Exchange" is not a shameful thing, it is human nature. Because many men are not qualified for exchange, they will hold high the banner of "morality" to denounce women and exaggerate the meaning of selfless dedication.

But the loftiness of morality cannot bring substantial benefits to married life, and it no longer has utilization value. Both men and women should recognize one thing. If today's marriages want to be maintained for a long time, they cannot do without the word "fairness".

In a high-quality marriage, each person’s benefit must be positively correlated with his or her contribution. Whether it is objective facts or subjective psychology, her contribution must be adequately compensated and benefited, otherwise There will definitely be an imbalance inside.

Once one party's heart is out of balance for a long time, he will definitely look for balance elsewhere, withdraw his efforts and reduce his contribution, thus forming a vicious circle and eventually leading to the demise of the marriage.

Su Min's escape and Wang Ying's unmarriage were essentially the result of the inability to form a direct ratio between effort and reward.

Nowadays, the marriage rate has dropped significantly, also because the benefits brought by marriage to the parties involved are far lower than the investment. The ambiguous times and the difficulty of finding true love are just a beautiful surface.

Of course, there is no need to lament the reality of human nature, because people naturally seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and many choices are made without even realizing it. The so-called morality is purely the result of domestication.

After such an accounting, women are certainly not willing to put their energy into a marriage where input and output are not equal.

For a long time, Chinese men have gained much more benefits from marriage than women. They are used to "only doing good to themselves" in marriage. This is applicable in a traditional feudal environment, but in most cases The environment has changed.

Men who only pursue personal interests in marriage and do not put themselves in women's shoes and understand their needs and situations will eventually destroy their marriages.

A high-quality marriage requires both men and women to work together to nourish the marriage and continuously create sources of mutual benefit. Only in this way can the warmth in the family flow, and both parties can gain more from it. Good yourself.