A man secretly bought 3000 new year's goods for his parents. What does his wife do?

When I was working in Beijing, a male colleague and his girlfriend rented a room with a cubicle of 18 square meters.

His monthly salary is only 3000, and his girlfriend's monthly salary is 6000, which is twice as much as him. Two people spend 5000 yuan on renting a house every month, and the remaining money is just enough for them to survive.

At that time, I always thought his girlfriend was a very good girl. A good girl who can bear hardships with men and support men with her own salary. But the man is still dissatisfied with his wife.

His dissatisfaction is: "Every time I want to buy something for my parents, she won't." But shouldn't I honor my parents? I just want to buy something for my parents and give them face in the village. At this time, the old man is fighting for the children. "

I had a very bad impression of this man at that time. You still can't afford to support yourself, rely on your girlfriend to support you, and even ask your girlfriend to satisfy your parents' vanity.

Later, after getting along for a long time, I found that this man is an extremely selfish person. He thinks his girlfriend should pay the rent. And the 3000 yuan he earned can be used by himself and his parents.

There is nothing wrong with a man's filial piety, but if your filial piety is based on harming the interests of others, then this filial piety is not true filial piety, but vanity.

Zhang Ming is such a vain person. When he married his wife, his family was poor and nothing happened. So far, he has taken his wife back to his hometown and lived with the elderly.

This injustice makes Zhang Ming's wife Li Yu eager to buy a house of her own. In order to save money to buy a house, Li Yu is afraid to have children, let alone buy good clothes for herself. She doesn't even dare to buy anything good for her parents during the Spring Festival. Every time she goes back to her mother's house, she takes a box of milk with her.

Li Yu's parents know that their daughter is embarrassed. Not only do they never blame Li Yu, but sometimes they secretly give Li Yu money. This made Li Yu feel very uncomfortable, and she also had vanity.

Especially in the countryside now, when my daughter goes back to her parents' home on holiday, she always takes one car and one car. When she went back to her parents' house, not only could she not buy anything for her parents, but her parents also had to pack things for her when she left.

One year, she was reluctant to buy a down jacket. Her mother felt uncomfortable when she saw her daughter wearing a down jacket for three years, so she took Li Yu to buy a down jacket.

Li Cheng suffers from the efforts of these parents and her own difficulties. She married Zhang Ming in order to have a good life with Zhang Ming.

Although Zhang Ming has no money, he is still very kind to her. Two people rent a house outside to earn money and go home from work. Zhang Ming always cooks and she washes the dishes. Zhang Ming is the kind of man without any male chauvinism. He knows how to love a woman and help her.

But Zhang Ming is just as bad, especially good face.

His good face began with his marriage to Li Yu. In their first year of marriage, Zhang Ming had to buy some new appliances for his parents. Zhang Ming said: "I don't want my parents to know that we are not doing well outside." Buy something for your parents. This is our filial piety and will not embarrass the villagers. "

Li Yu disagreed. She wants to save money to buy a house and change at least tens of thousands of electrical appliances, so their savings this year are gone.

However, she did not agree. Zhang Ming sighs all day, doesn't sleep at night, tossing and turning.

Li Yu is distressed by Zhang Ming and doesn't want to see him embarrassed. She knows that Zhang Ming has a lot of face. When they got married, they were so shabby that they didn't even have a wedding. Zhang Ming wants to let the villagers know that they are doing well outside by buying electrical appliances.

Although Li Yu felt wronged, she also understood Zhang Ming's vanity as a man.

That year, they took out all their savings and bought an air conditioner, a refrigerator and a big TV for Zhang Ming's parents.

When I came home for the Spring Festival, the family really looked at them with new eyes. Zhang Ming's parents always say, "We knew that Zhang Ming was promising, and our family will depend on Zhang Ming in the future. Your eldest brother's family is poor, and we can enjoy the blessing of Zhang Ming in the future. "

The villagers also exaggerated Ming's filial piety, and all thought that Zhang Ming was doing well outside.

But people only saw the charm of Zhang Ming at that moment, but they didn't know what price Li Yuhe Zhang Ming paid for this charm.

After they returned to the big city, the rent went up. They have no money at all. Zhang Ming refused to lend money to his relatives because he didn't want them to see his plight. But they are outsiders and have no intimate friends in big cities. Zhang couldn't borrow money, so Li Yu had to talk to her family.

No one knows Li Yu's pain at that moment. During the Spring Festival that year, they bought all their money to Zhang Ming's parents. In order to avoid having no money to go back to her parents, she even lied to her parents that she could not go back to her parents because of something. Now, she has no money and has to borrow money from her parents.

Li Yu borrowed money from her parents. After she hung up the phone, she slapped herself in the face. She felt unfilial and sorry for her parents.

After that, Li Yu began to save money. She knows Zhang Ming too well. Zhang Ming has the money, and he will take it out as long as his parents ask. He took out the money not because of filial piety, but because of shameful vanity.

In the Spring Festival of the following year, Li Yu proposed not to go back to his hometown for the New Year. Two people are so poor, so they stay in big cities and work overtime to earn more money. Zhang Ming also feels that he has no money. If he can't go back beautifully, he might as well not go back.

Neither of them went home for the New Year. Zhang Ming's parents asked for money several times, but Li Yu refused on the grounds that all their money was investment.

By the time of the Spring Festival in the third year, Zhang Ming and Li Yu had saved 80,000 yuan. Zhang Ming suddenly felt rich. He offered to buy a new tram for his parents. He said kindly, "The car is still ours. Parents can use it at home first. We can use it ourselves when we get back. "

Li Yu wanted to slap Zhang Ming. They go home for a few days all the year round. Zhang Mingming wanted to buy something for his parents and put on a show, but he said such hypocritical things to her.

She resolutely disagreed with Zhang Ming's pet face again. She said to Zhang Ming, "I don't need a tram, and I won't buy it." If your parents want to use it, they can buy it themselves. It's not like they don't have jobs or money. They are richer than us. "

Zhang Ming began to sigh and toss and turn again. However, Li Yu is cruel. As long as Zhang sighed and tossed and turned, she would go out directly, preferring to stay outside until dawn rather than be in the same room with Zhang.

Zhang Ming began to adjust his mood and stopped talking about buying a tram for his parents. He began to take the initiative to do housework, and offered not to go home for the New Year and stay in the big city to work overtime to earn more money.

Li Yu thought he finally figured it out. I don't know that Zhang Ming secretly bought more than 3000 yuan for his parents behind Li Yu's back.

When Li Yu's aunt called her to thank her for the toy clothes she bought for her children, Li Yu was completely stunned.

Li Yu didn't come home after work that day. She also lost the strength to quarrel with Zhang Ming. She went to the shopping malls in big cities, bought clothes for her parents and herself, and gave gifts for the New Year.

When she came home with a bunch of things, she suddenly felt ridiculous: "What's the use of saving herself?" Filled the self-esteem of Zhang Ming's parents and Zhang Ming. Don't Zhang Ming's parents are parents, and her parents are not? Since you can spend tens of thousands of dollars to buy furniture for your parents and 3000 dollars to buy new year's goods for your parents, then I can spend 30 thousand dollars to buy gifts for my parents. "

When Li Yu came home, she took out what she had bought. Zhang Ming was a little shocked. He asked Li Yu how much he spent. Li Yu said it cost 30 thousand.

Zhang Ming was in a hurry. He scolded Li Yu: "Are you crazy? It needs 30 thousand yuan. You will feel distressed if you spend 3000 yuan on my parents. It won't hurt to spend 30 thousand yuan on your parents. Are you such a woman? "

Li Yu's accumulated grievances for several years finally broke out. Pointing at Zhang Ming, she scolded, "I only married you when I was sick. It is normal for you to spend tens of thousands of dollars to buy things for your parents. Is it abnormal for me to buy things for my parents? Don't forget, my salary is twice as much as yours. You didn't save the money at home, I saved it by scrimping and saving. Your money has filled your parents. I earned this money. I will buy my parents what I want first. "

Zhang Ming ignored it. However, he still doesn't feel wrong. He slammed the door and left Li Yu alone in the rented room.

He felt that Li Yu would suffer because of his departure. But what he didn't know was that Li Yu had no feeling at all about his behavior. She called the courier and sent the things home to her parents. She quietly locked the door and began to live her own life.

Li Yu said, "When a man brings you pain, he won't be sad if he leaves you. You will lock the door and you will be indifferent to what he does. "

Who is unfair?

In one year, Zhang Ming spent 3000 yuan on his parents, and Li Yu spent 30 thousand yuan on his parents. Many people may think that Li Yu's behavior is irrational.

From the beginning, Zhang Ming has filled in more than 30,000 yuan for his parents over the years. Some people want to say that Zhang Ming is filial to the elderly. What's wrong with Li Yu's filial piety to his parents?

The same parents, Zhang Ming's parents got it, and Li Yu's parents should get it. Even Li Yu's parents deserve more, because Li Yu's parents helped Zhang Ming in Li Yuhe.

As for Zhang Ming's filial piety to the elderly, it is also right.

Yes, it is right to be filial to the elderly. Unfortunately, Zhang Ming's excessive filial piety is not filial piety, but vanity. Just like my selfish colleague, he bases his filial piety on the pain of the other party, only considering his own vanity and never considering others.

How selfish.

Ignorance is not filial piety, doting is not love.

I hope some men will not be confused by selfishness and vanity. Look at this woman with you. Whether it's my colleague's girlfriend or Zhang Ming's wife Li Yu, what a good woman.

When you don't cherish it, once it is lost, it will never belong to you again.

Do not oppress your wife with your filial piety. It is your responsibility to honor your parents. If you have no ability, don't force others.

If your parents are still young, if your parents can support themselves, if you can't support your family and give your wife a good life, please correct your "filial piety".

You can be filial, but don't exceed your ability, and don't let your filial piety become the pain and burden of your wife.