2 1 year-old daughter and grandmother stayed for a few months and then became "annoying" and "annoying". What happened?

The relationship between mother and daughter is not determined by the delivery process. The grace of nurturing is greater than the grace of bearing, and the affection that accompanies you day and night is stronger than the relatives in the topic. The granddaughter raised by grandma is far closer than the mother who is negligent in discipline.

The most lasting expression of my love, is choosing to stay by your side. After watching many programs to find relatives, the media searched in many ways and finally found the child's biological parents. Often, when a mother sees her lost child for more than ten years, she will hold the child in her arms and cry when she comes forward. The child will only hide from the foster mother, can't accept this sudden sweet maternal love, can't feel the sadness of the biological mother, but can read a look from the foster mother. Even if she knew her relatives, she could only nod.

Strange birth mother, strange home, lost children can't find their way home and have nowhere to put their hearts. Many children found by their relatives finally fled back to the home where they were raised, to the arms of their adoptive mothers, and to the land where they were raised.

The tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the disharmony between husband and wife will lead to the family rejecting the mother, and the children will even refuse to obey the mother's discipline. I grew up eating grandma's cooking. Every child's laughter and crying is accompanied by grandma's joy and sadness. A man caught a cold and scraped his skin a little. It was also his father who brought money back to treat him, and his grandmother fed the wound with a medicine bag. The weak and absent mother has disappeared without a trace. How can you ask your daughter to love this title without temperature and to love this person with the title of mother from the heart?

I believe this 2 1 year-old daughter loves her grandmother and her father, otherwise she would not be an enemy of her mother. Grandma's daughter-in-law is definitely not a good person, and Dad's daughter-in-law is a worthless humble woman. Brainwash your daughter from morning till night to make sure that her mother is not a qualified mother. Therefore, the daughter stood on the side of her grandmother and father, accepted that the image of her mother was demonized by two closest relatives, and thought that it was more difficult to change her daughter's bad impression of her mother than to ascend to heaven.

The fait accompli is there, because the three of us don't love ourselves, and the relationship is too tense to ease. Therefore, this mother should also check herself more. There are four people in a family, and three people are against themselves. Even the closest daughter beat and scolded herself and didn't respect herself. Think about what a failure she is as a mother!

Daughter's rebellion and irritability have a lot to do with the lack of maternal love. What is lacking is the waiting and warmth day and night. What is lacking is the debt of years and the nourishment of maternal love. As a result, family ties cooled and blood ties were as light as water.

A cold-hearted mother wants to dissolve her daughter into a cold person, not to indulge her daughter blindly, nor to impose all her thoughts and practices on her daughter to make her yield, in order to prove that her mother is good to her daughter. Strong maternal love, the daughter refused to accept, and finally attracted her to hate, disgust and violence.

If you want your daughter to accept you, you have to change yourself from the source. The root of family discord lies in the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the disharmony between husband and wife. If we want to completely stabilize the good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we must try our best to improve the family tension and disharmony into a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and husband and wife.

When both mother-in-law and husband change their bad views on themselves, love themselves and praise themselves, the daughter will treat her mother as a person, and then she will truly accept herself, support herself, cherish herself and love herself.

What you can say is not as good as what you can hear. Stakeholders are fascinated, but bystanders see clearly. Through your description, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, husband and wife are not harmonious, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also very bad. There are four people in the family * * * You have conflicts with three people, so you must reflect on yourself and don't blindly find fault with others.

In the harmony of a family, women play the role of anchoring the sea. Don't lift yourself too high at home. Home is the harbor of love. How gentle a woman is! Love her family with kindness, and the children will follow your example!

The relationship between children and mothers is not completed through the birth process. The relationship between children and mothers is more often the interaction and communication in infancy.

Your children are basically brought up by your grandmother from the age of two, which shows that as a mother, you don't have much time and opportunity to communicate with her emotionally. Naturally, she is not very close to you.

Secondly, why does grandma like grandma so much when she brings up her children? It shows that grandma is very gentle and patient when facing the children, and there is no conflict with the children. Even if you think grandma dotes on her children. At least in the eyes of children, grandma is better than you.

You remind her to eat breakfast, which shows that you are very controlling. When everyone doesn't like breakfast, she is already at work. She is an adult and no longer a child.

Mother likes to talk and thinks she is taking care of the children. In fact, I didn't bring my children when I was a child, but I want to take care of them when I grow up.

In life, some mothers go out to work for a year or two, and the children are not close when they come back, not to mention that your grandmother has been taking care of the children for many years.

Children are willing to be close to grandma, which shows that grandma is very good to children. Your mother-in-law didn't dislike her or treat her badly because she was a girl. What's wrong with such a mother-in-law

In fact, the reason why you have such a question is nothing more than hoping that everyone will answer: the black hand behind the scenes must be the mother-in-law.

When you find your own reasons in advance, don't put the blame on others. Do you respect your daughter as an adult, give her space, understand her and encourage her?

I can't find a job at this time, and I am already very anxious. As a mother, you do not encourage encouragement, but you still dislike it!

This incident is really not the result of the epidemic for several months. Rome was not built in a day.

Mother chose a more important job, so she can only benefit from it. Where time is spent, there will be flowers of surprise.

There are too many demands on women in this era, to make money and raise children. The two can't take care of each other, at least let the couple have a good relationship and a good family atmosphere. The previous generation helped to take care of the children, so they should take them in front of their parents.

If my mother is not around after the age of 4, then this relationship can't be good, and it doesn't need others to sow discord, and it won't be good. Feelings are cultivated day by day. You didn't give birth to her, so she naturally fell in love with you. This is mutual. You love her and she loves you, which was established when you grew up with her.

Nowadays, many mothers can't love each other because of the wrong way around their children, not to mention that you are not around at all and miss many important stages of her. She didn't remember you from childhood, so naturally she wouldn't kiss you.

If mom and dad don't add anything nice in this process, there is reason to hate it. See you and dad quarrel every day, and your relationship with grandma is not good, and your hatred is deeper.

A family with a good relationship between husband and wife will have a more complete personality.

Your girl is in adolescence, so you should pay close attention to her. Love well, be calm and communicate more, and then slowly build feelings and remedy. I can't help it

After reading your description, as a mother, I am a little distressed by your experience. But I have to say, you have to bear a lot of responsibility for what the children did today.

1, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law affects children's cognition.

The child has been brought up by his grandmother since he was 2 years old. Children spend more time with their grandmother than with you, and naturally they have established a deep attachment and affection with their grandmother.

The establishment of this deep affection has narrowed the distance between children and grandma psychologically and emotionally, and they will agree with grandma's views and ideas invisibly. Unfortunately, you happen to have deep conflicts with your mother-in-law.

Then your mother-in-law's dissatisfaction with you will definitely be revealed in her words and deeds. For a daughter who grew up with her grandmother, the image of her mother has long changed in her mind.

Grandma is her closest relative, and you are her enemy, so naturally you are her enemy. If you had been alert, reflective and adjusted when your child began to show hostility to you at a very young age, the relationship between mother and daughter would not be so bad now. It's a pity that you missed the best opportunity.

Frequent quarrels between husband and wife set a bad example for children.

Violent and frequent family quarrels bring negative emotions such as anger, anxiety and fear to children. Being in such an environment for a long time is extremely lacking in sense of security and trust.

Children's repressed anger accumulates more and more, and over time, they will have rebellious psychology, and their behavior is silent, inactive, aggressive and puppy love. Today's child's behavior is related to your husband and wife's frequent quarrels.

3, the husband's disrespect and your blind concession make the child more arrogant.

The quarrel between husband and wife and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, your husband's rudeness, strength and contempt from beginning to end, your daughter sees it in her eyes and remembers it in her heart.

Although she sometimes feels sorry for her mother, who has always been unprincipled and humble, she is also despised or even looked down upon by her daughter. Otherwise, how dare she do it to her mother? This is her fault, but it is also your encouragement!

Water under the bridge. I can only suggest you:

First, re-examine the feelings of husband and wife, and can't live a life of quarreling all the time; Second, the husband and wife sincerely apologize to their daughter, who has neglected her inner feelings for so many years; Third, you should be principled and have a bottom line, and dare to say no.

In the final analysis, only when you are truly independent, principled, self-respecting, self-respecting and loving yourself will children follow your example, identify with you from the heart and change their behavior. It is never too late to mend. Blessing.

At first glance, the problem of the subject is that her daughter's grandmother said that she was not good in front of her daughter. What seems to be a daughter's problem is actually accusing the child's grandmother.

After reading the subject's more explanations, we can see that this "helpless mother" is not only full of complaints in her life, but also has little contribution to her family:

My mother has been working since she was 2 years old and has hardly taken care of her daughter. Until now, she is 2 1 year old and wants to have intimate relations with her daughter. I don't think it's very likely.

As the saying goes: the grace of nurturing is greater than the grace of birth. Therefore, when a grandmother brings up her eldest daughter, she will listen to her more because her mother is absent.

At home, my mother has a bad relationship not only with my father, but also with my grandmother. As a mother and a son, we must unite as one, and our daughters will not just keep in mind.

You don't get along well with his parents. In his daughter's eyes, the problem lies with you, but in her eyes, grandma is a close relative, not the kind who hangs the name of "mother" and doesn't raise much.

Grandma devoted too much effort to every step of the child's growth. Therefore, if you want to get along well with your daughter, the first step is to "buy off" her grandmother. If you want her to put in a good word in front of your daughter, you need more respect for the elderly, instead of the elderly helping you bring your child to 2 1 year old and accusing her of "instigating" your daughter to "hate her mother".

There are so many mothers and daughters in this world. Why do you and your daughter have such a special situation? Don't always try to put the blame on others, please check yourself first. What's wrong with yourself? Why doesn't anyone in your family talk to you and have a good relationship with you?

That's what you should consider.

If you are willing to look at all the problems and relationships from a different angle, the world will give you a surprise in return.

If you change, the world will change with you!

There are many situations of mother and daughter, and the reasons are different. It's your family's fault that the father failed to maintain the image of his mother since he was a child and became the only punching bag in the family that can let the children vent their anger.

Don't doubt that grandma intends to "teach bad" children in recent months, and don't doubt that children are still not sensible. Children who are depressed and introverted are generally psychologically poor. Being with grandma for a few months has evoked memories of childhood habits, which are all beautiful; When I came back, I was depressed ... and the cautious mother had to "lie down" [cry].

Two to four years old is the key period for children to know the world and establish the closest relationship! Subconsciously will affect life [tears]-it's a pity that you missed it.

Coupled with years of discord between husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's intransigence, and your unprincipled echo, it has aggravated disgust-perhaps not really annoying or suspicious, mother and daughter are blood relatives, but "mourning their misfortunes and angering them" [pie mouth] ..

More than forty years old, there is still time to reshape the image of mother and find her daughter's heart [tears].

After living in my grandmother's house for several months, 15-year-old daughter became "hating her mother" and "hating her mother", which was all caused by her own reasons. She can't blame her children, much less her grandmother.

The reason why children are like this is because they lack maternal love since childhood and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious. Grandma may have instilled in her children ideas that they shouldn't have, so the children will "hate their mothers" and "hate their mothers".

If a child is brought up by a grandmother, and parents are very concerned about the child and are also very kind to the grandmother, then the child will not hate his mother when he grows up, and will live in harmony with his parents and grandparents.

There is a 90-year-old grandmother in a city who has raised an only child all her life. The old couple are both veteran cadres. When their son graduated from college, he was assigned to a hospital in the provincial capital as a doctor. In 1950s and 1960s, college graduates had to obey the national distribution, and everyone had no right to choose their profession and region freely. So although there are two old people in the family, both of whom are only children, they have to leave their parents and go to work in other places.

In the first year of marriage, my father died, leaving my mother alone at home. Her mother was still working in a government department. He was very worried about his mother's life, so after his son was born, when he was a little over one year old, he discussed with his daughter-in-law to send him back to his hometown to accompany his mother.

Mother hired a nanny at home to take care of her little grandson and help with housework. After his mother retired, his son went to primary school.

The couple can't see their son at ordinary times, so they can only contact by phone. During the Spring Festival, the couple went home to visit their mother before they could reunite with their son for a few days.

My son graduated from college and wanted to work in Guangdong. He resolutely opposed it and let his son go back to his grandmother and continue to accompany her.

He has grandchildren now. After retirement, he returned to his hometown and continued to work in a hospital. His son works in a government department in grandma's city, and he is already a leading member of the unit.

But the young man can still handle the relationship with his parents and grandparents. Usually when his parents are not at home, he walks with his grandmother, visits the park and cooks for her. Daughter-in-law goes home to help grandma do this and that, and never gives up.

Only when parents go home will he take his daughter-in-law out to play.

The boy lived with his grandmother since he was a child, and he still lives with her now, but he never hated his parents or abandoned them.

Parents, from small to large, give their children more love. More importantly, parents should live in harmony with their children's grandparents, so that children will love every elder.

If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, the relationship between husband and wife is tense, and grandparents are a little nicer to their children, the children will feel disgusted with their parents. Therefore, don't blame children, give them more love, give them the love of their elders, and influence them with practical actions.

In fact, the daughter's dissatisfaction with her mother was formed at an early age, and the main source was the relationship between her mother and her grandmother. Because grandma replaced her mother's parent-child feelings, her daughter formed close feelings with grandma when she was a child and alienated her mother. After the child grows up, although the relationship with his mother has improved obviously, the concept formed since childhood has not been eliminated. After the epidemic, the children went back to their hometown to live with their grandma, and naturally their feelings with grandma deepened, but they were alienated from their parents. In fact, it is not difficult for the subject to solve this problem. It can repair the feelings with mother-in-law, achieve harmony between the two sides, and repair the feelings between daughter and mother.

Don't say it's grandma. No matter who lives together for a long time, they all have feelings. Maybe grandma and mom have problems. Maybe grandma will tell the children, or maybe grandma will talk nonsense and not be realistic, which will lead the children to think that their mother is too much, so you have a problem with her. Don't get angry when such a thing happens. There is a saying that real gold is not afraid of fire. You still respect grandma in front of the children, and the children are considerate. She will think that her mother never speaks ill of her behind her back, which is still very good for her. It was grandma who made a mistake and always said that mom was not good. I think her mother did a good job. She said behind her back that her mother was wrong!