Mothers who are alienated from their children when they are old usually have these characteristics, which may be the bane of childhood.

"Children don't think their mothers are ugly, and dogs don't think their families are poor." In children's hearts, mother is the most beautiful, because it is mother who gives children life and is connected with their blood. However, some children become more and more alienated from their mothers as they grow older, and some even die of old age. In such a family, it is mostly because the mother planted a curse on the child's incorrect education method when the child was young.

Aunt Wang has been paralyzed in bed for several years, but her daughter hasn't come back to see her once, and she doesn't even have a phone call. It can be said that she can't contact at all. People who don't know the inside story think people are "cold-blooded", while those who know the inside story just shake their heads and sigh.

Yun Yun is the oldest child in the family. She has two younger brothers. Everyone has done well in school since childhood, but her mother won't let her study. At the age of 7 or 8, she has to take care of her brother and do housework. Later, at the age of 10, she went to the first grade, graduated from junior high school and was admitted to high school. Her mother once again stopped her from continuing her studies and asked her to drop out of school to work.

A girl goes to work in other places, and her mother never asks her if she is doing well outside and whether she is tired from work. She only cares about how much money people earn this month, keeps some living expenses, and quickly sends the money back to her brothers for school.

Later, people met a person they liked very much and planned to get married, but her mother stood up and opposed it for too many reasons. Her mother said: Her two sons are not married yet. If my sister gets married, who will earn money to buy a house for her family and give a bride price? If the man can promise to buy a house for their family, it can still be considered.

Later, Yun Yun and her boyfriend left and never came back. She completely cut off contact with her family! Even if her brother tried his best to find her, she didn't want to look at her mother again and only gave her some money.

Originally, children are related to their parents by blood, and they have the nurturing feeling of getting along day and night. Generally do not alienate their parents. But those mothers who are alienated by their children usually have the following similar characteristics, which are usually the bane of childhood!

First, my mother is particularly "eccentric".

In many families, there will be conflicts between mothers and children because mothers can't treat their children fairly. Mothers who prefer sons to daughters or especially like one child are likely to make other children collapse.

Children in the same family are the mother's own flesh and blood, treated differently and hurt their hearts, so the relationship with their mothers will become more and more alienated, and conflicts between brothers and sisters will easily occur.

Second, mothers often beat and scold their children, leaving a psychological shadow on them.

Some mothers educate their children in a simple and rude way, and their children will be beaten and scolded when they make mistakes. Chen Qiaoen, a famous actress, once said that she would tremble with fear when she heard her mother's voice, because she was often beaten when she was a child and had a serious psychological shadow.

Young children live on their parents. If someone beats him, he can complain to his parents. But if his parents beat him, he has no ability to resist. Children are often beaten, and their inner security will be completely destroyed.

Children are beaten when they are young. When he grows up, he can't wait to leave his mother at once. How can he be close to his mother?

Third, the mother didn't grow up with her children.

Some mothers give their children to the elderly after giving birth and go out to earn money by themselves. Children are born to mothers, but people's feelings need a little training and accumulation. Who is the closest person to the child? This has little to do with blood relationship. Whoever brings the most children is closest to the children.

So many parents desperately go out to make money for their children, but when their children grow up, they will kiss their grandparents and treat themselves as strangers. This is really the sorrow of parents.

Fourth, some bad qualities of the mother disgust the children.

There was an old mother who disliked her children's poor care and the food was not delicious. The child replied to her: "When you were young, you only cared about playing cards every day and didn't give us food. I wish you had food now. " Some bad qualities in the mother will make the child feel disgusted. When children are young, they dare to be angry and dare not speak. He will alienate his mother when he grows up.

Envy the kindness and filial piety of other people's mothers. We should use snacks to raise children, take good care of them and educate them well. This is the most important career for parents in their lives.

Mothers should spend more time with their children and give them selfless love.

Although mothers and children are interrelated, mothers need to spend more time with their children. Taking care of children from an early age will make children feel dependent on their mothers, which is also the emotional basis between children and parents. Mother's company and selfless love will make children feel safe and make them confident and brave.

B between parents and children, we should establish an equal and democratic parent-child relationship.

Beating and scolding children is what the most incompetent parents do, and the educational methods of beating and scolding children are not necessarily useful. The best parent-child relationship is to get along well as friends and communicate on an equal footing. Children trust their parents and will believe in their teaching.

Mom and dad should be role models for children.

Children are our replicas, and their morality, words and deeds will have a shadow on their parents. Therefore, to educate a child well, parents should first make themselves an example for their children to learn. Children believe in their parents and of course want to be close to them.

Children are our closest and independent people. We and our children are destined to go further and further, but we hope that no matter how far away, our hearts will always be together.