Mothers should pay attention to the reverse eccentricity of the second-child family, which is easy to raise two children and abandon them.

In the past, boys were born in rural areas 1, and they could not have another child. If the first child is a girl, he can have a second child every four years.

Therefore, Lili and Honghong have two girls. Living conditions in those years were not as good as they are now. Therefore, in order to raise two children, the mother should not only work hard, but also live frugally at home.

Because they are two sisters, they are all about the same size, so my mother buys clothes according to the height of her sister Lili every time, because she can give them to her sister when she is dressed.

So Honghong grew up in her sister's old clothes. Seeing that her sister has new clothes to wear, she is envious and wants to wear new clothes herself. Mom said the clothes were for her sister, too long and too big for you to wear. It will be two years before you can wear them!

Later, both sisters grew up and got married, and Hong Hong became a mother herself. On the second day after giving birth, my mother-in-law excitedly brought a bag of clothes from her hometown (that is, some clothes worn by children of relatives and friends). Because children grow up quickly when they are young, the clothes they buy are usually worn several times, which is relatively new. My mother-in-law said that she washed them at home and dried them, which is very clean.

Hong Hong also knows that there is such a custom in her hometown. It is meaningful for her children to wear hundreds of clothes when they are young: children will be healthier when they grow up, and hundreds of clothes have been washed several times. Some formaldehyde or dyes left on the clothes have basically been washed clean, and the clothes are soft, which is also good for newborns. But when Honghong saw her mother-in-law excitedly holding hundreds of clothes and trying to clean up hundreds of clothes to bathe her children, she suddenly broke out. Why do my children wear them? Can't my children wear new clothes?

At that time, my mother-in-law was stunned. She quickly packed all the clothes and went to get the new clothes prepared before Honghong. Hong Hong also thinks that she seems to be too impulsive. Why is she angry with her mother-in-law? Later, she found the answer in the book "Controlling Emotion". It turned out that when she was a child, she was particularly envious of her sister's new clothes. When I was a child, I always wore my sister's old clothes, which caused her to have a desire for new clothes. Now that she has given birth to a child, she wants to give her best things to the child, and she doesn't want her injuries to appear on the child again. Therefore, the mother-in-law will collapse and get angry when she puts old clothes on her children.

There are many families with two children. In order to be frugal, my mother will dress the second child in the old clothes of the boss. This seems to be all right, and there is nothing wrong with it. After all, there are two sisters, but it is easy to raise two children.

Generally speaking, we all find that in the second-child family, mom and dad will be more eccentric, because we think that my sister should be sensible when she grows up and should let her younger brothers and sisters. In fact, there is a reverse quirk, that is, buying new toys, clothes and books for my sister, and then giving them to my brothers and sisters when she runs out.

The boss thinks that everything that is new and good is hers, which forms the boss's overbearing character.

For example, when Lili was a child, she felt that as long as she bought new clothes at home, the new ones were mine, because I always took the old ones to my sister. Such children will take it for granted that all good things are their own children and will become more overbearing and rude.

When a child grows up and leaves the society, he still thinks about his boss, and his colleagues will give him the best, which is very easy to offend people. It is also difficult to be liked by others in work and study.

The second child will feel inferior and unworthy.

Although my sister's clothes are not worn out and there is nothing wrong with them, her personality is different from her. My sister and I like different colors and styles of clothes. Always wearing my sister's old clothes will make my sister very resistant, because I can't wear what I like and what I don't like. Over time, my sister will think that I don't deserve good things. I just want to wear other people's old clothes. These children will become more inferior when they grow up, and feel that they don't deserve good things, new clothes and a good life. People who have a sense of worthlessness can't be happy.

Some people will have revenge compensation for their childhood. For example, when I was a child, my parents always dressed themselves in old clothes, and when I grew up, I worked and got paid. More than half of their monthly salary is spent on buying new clothes, and not saving money is also a very vicious consumption habit.

Therefore, the mother of the second-child family must pay attention to the fact that the family economy is too difficult. It is very important not to let the younger brothers and sisters pick up the old clothes and toys of their brothers and sisters every day, and buy new clothes for two people if they buy less.

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