Are you willing to quit your job to take care of your sick mother-in-law? What should I do as a daughter-in-law?

There is an old saying: Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. This sentence clearly appears in life when the relationship between husband and wife encounters the problem of supporting the elderly. It should be the duty of husband and wife to support both parents, but there are always such men who unilaterally ask their wives to be filial.

Today's society is the same as in the past. After marriage, most women live with men in their in-laws and live together. Nowadays, many men and women will become one-sided, on the one hand, in order to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, on the other hand, it is also caused by the pressure of life, but in the past, they would not sever contact with their in-laws, especially when the elderly are sick and need care. In today's high prices, it is normal not to raise idle people at home, as long as

In this world, although the employment pressure of women after giving birth is particularly great, you are not allowed to be idle in reality, especially if you have children, which means there will be shredders. Therefore, even if you earn only 1000 yuan a month, many women want to go out to work. However, what if there is a contradiction between a woman's work and her sick mother-in-law?

Supporting the elderly is the obligation of husband and wife, and work is the guarantee of life. Filial piety means losing your job, and ensuring your job means destroying your conscience. When you are in trouble, your husband asks you to quit your job to take care of your mother-in-law. Would you like to?

Sister Wang is in her forties. Her child has just entered middle school and works as a cashier in a supermarket. Like many women, Sister Wang had a good job before marriage, and her house was mortgaged because of that job. However, after the child was born, Sister Wang derailed from society. Since Sister Wang got married, her mother-in-law has looked down on her, so she thinks that her income is no more than that of her son, which is of great significance. Therefore, after Sister Wang gave birth to the child, her mother-in-law refused to take care of the child. I'm sorry.

The child is a little young. After sending the children to kindergarten, Sister Wang found a job. She has been silent at home for four years, and she is very old. Her former unit almost doesn't want her. So, she had to work as a cashier in the supermarket and earn 3000 yuan a month to subsidize her family. Recently, grandma suddenly fell ill, and the old people are most afraid of getting sick. Once sick, all kinds of physical discomfort swarmed in, completely ruining the health of the old people who had improved.

As for Wang Ge's son, her mother-in-law needed Wang Ge's care when she was ill, so Wang Ge took her place and asked Wang Jie to resign and stay at home to take care of her mother-in-law. Sister Wang originally wanted to hire a nanny to take care of the elderly, continue to work by herself, leave this unit and take care of her mother-in-law. If she wants to work in the future, she must clean the road. What's more, my mother-in-law didn't look good before, but looked down on her. Therefore, combined with the difficulty of finding a job, Sister Wang thought of it.

However, this idea told Wang Ge that Wang Ge was unhappy on the spot. "It's my mother, who are you? Please find someone to prevaricate. I'm just saying you have to quit your job to take care of your mother. Sister Wang panicked when she heard this. So this is a consultation, not an order. Sister Wang is angry. Frankly speaking: what if I don't quit anyway? Wang Geqiang insisted: If you don't take care of my mother, I will divorce you. I want to find a woman to take care of my mother.

Sister Wang was immediately stunned, and then packed up and prepared to go back to her hometown. Before going back, Ge Wang said that if you dare to go back to your hometown, this marriage will be over. Sister Wang never imagined that Brother Wang's tone was so simple. After sister Wang returned to her hometown, she repeatedly said on the phone that you would divorce if you didn't come back, not because of coaxing, but because her husband was threatening. Sister Wang was disappointed and finally agreed to brother Wang's divorce request.

Wang Ge quit her job after she got married and found a job with low salary and free time nearby. He took care of his sick mother while working and asked her to introduce blind date. When he divorced, his middle school son was raised by Wang Ge. Shortly after the divorce, Wang Ge sent her children to her hometown, and it was difficult to take them to marry a wife. This means that Wang Jie must take care of the child. I heard that Wang Ge has been wandering between taking care of her mother and working recently, and can't find a woman who is willing to take care of her mother.

If you get married just to let a woman take care of your parents, then the purpose of this marriage is definitely not feelings, but interests. This kind of marriage is not to form a new family, but to support the elderly and have children by the way. People's hearts and feelings have changed. Mother-in-law is not good to her daughter-in-law, so don't embarrass her. Don't blame her for being selfish when her husband treats her as a nanny.

People are animals with flesh and blood and feelings, and all care is based on love. This kind of love does not necessarily require the mother-in-law to love her daughter-in-law, but also requires the husband to love his wife. Cousin suffered a stroke last year and has been taken care of by her. It is very hard to turn over and wipe her body all day. To tell the truth, my cousin's mother-in-law didn't treat her cousin very well a few years ago and didn't do anything worthy of her cousin's gratitude, but she resigned happily. This is all her husband's fault. Her mother-in-law used to be.

To tell the truth, my cousin doesn't want to take care of it either. It's depressing to resign and care for the elderly at home for many years. Her husband looked at her and directly expressed his opinion: anyway, one of the two people is going to resign, depending on the fucking situation, you can't leave without anyone, and you can't rest assured to hire a nanny. I know your worry, it really doesn't work, and I don't think my sister can respect her idea. Then the next day, her husband resolutely resigned.

Unexpectedly, my cousin's husband never complained about my cousin during the month when he took care of his mother. After he came back, he was as good as usual and didn't care that she didn't take care of her mother-in-law.

When my cousin saw her clumsy husband doing housework, wiping her mother-in-law and waiting for her cousin's work to be finished, she couldn't stand it. After thinking about it, she still thinks it is more appropriate to take care of herself. The second time, because her mother-in-law had many physical problems, her husband was inconvenient. I care what my sister says. When you went to work, her husband gave her a deep hug.

After my sister retired, her husband understood her cousin's hard work and did housework after work every day. Hearing that cynicism was in action, he felt very happy and married such a sensible wife. For more than a year, the husband and wife have taken care of the elderly with stroke. Their feelings are stable and their families are harmonious, and the elderly have also received special care.

You see, as long as you really pay for women, it is not a problem to provide for your in-laws. No matter which woman is afraid to take care of her mother-in-law, it is not a man's selfish fault. She gave no love, no respect, no money, and asked her wife to take care of her mother like a nanny. Who wants to?

When a woman marries a man, she is basically prepared to have a stormy idea with this man all her life. However, when there is a storm, the man who always makes every woman do what he doesn't want others to do to him. As the head of the family, we should stand up bravely in the face of problems, instead of threatening each other with divorce at home, so as to solve the problem, but husband and wife should unite as one.

When his mother was ill, the man ordered his wife to give up taking care of the elderly. He doesn't know his position or what his wife means. When ordering his wife to resign at home, the man should also pay more attention to his own efforts. What you can do for his wife determines what she can do for the elderly. When a man really respects his wife's thoughts, understands her difficulties and the price she pays, I believe that this woman will want to take care of her mother-in-law, but the other way around is hard to say.