Mom, tell me.

1, talk about the facts and avoid using emotional words or personal attacks.

No matter who you are talking to, it's not a good idea to criticize, laugh at or compromise the other person's self-esteem. For example, "Are you still a man? This is a huge baby and has not grown up yet. " This emotional word is too radical and can only make your conversation impossible to communicate. Therefore, when communicating with the other half of the horse-haired male type, we should avoid personal attacks.

Don't let your husband think you are jealous of your mother-in-law.

Ma Baonan has received endless love and support from his mother since he was a child, and he has a strong sense of worship for his mother. When he found his wife questioning and criticizing his mother's words and deeds, he would instinctively defend his mother. The more you question it, the more he thinks you are wrong and biased against his mother. When Ma Baonan has this preconceived idea, it is difficult to communicate with him rationally. Back to the method mentioned above, we should avoid those too strong communication, so as not to distract the focus.

3. Incorporate the mother-in-law's opinions into the discussion of the plan and expand the range of choices.

Ma Baonan is used to taking his mother's words as his only point of view. Discussion in the form of a plan can make him think that his mother's opinion is "one" rather than "only". You can say, "Your mother's advice is very good. This is the information I found on the Internet. We can add your mother's opinion and compare the advantages and disadvantages to see which is better. What do you think? " The clever development of denominator can avoid turning mother-in-law's opinion into one sentence. This discussion form can also remind Ma Baonan that he is an adult and must make a decision according to his own needs.

4. Encourage her husband to express his opinions and help him build up confidence.

Ma Baonan will be criticized by his mother once he expresses his opinion. Long-standing habits suppress a person's thoughts. Communicate with this type of baby boy and guide them to express their opinions.

Ma Baonan grew up in an overprotective or controlled family. When I grow up, I am still used to relying on my parents and will not take responsibility before I get married. In the face of such an immature partner, we must cultivate enough patience and give him more space and encouragement when making mistakes. It takes a long time to train Ma Baonan to "grow up". As wives, we must be prepared for a protracted war.