On the wedding night, the mother-in-law forced her daughter-in-law to wash her feet and demanded a bride price. She will wait on me in the future. What do you think of this?

Sometimes I have to sigh that getting along with people is really complicated and it takes too much energy. People often say that a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, but where do so many gentlemen come from in real life? Most people are just ordinary people, and ordinary people have to consider too many things when they get along.

What is considered is mostly self-interest. Does not involve their own interests. Hello, I'm good, everyone. If it involves self-interest, it will immediately turn against others. Therefore, the older you get, the fewer real friends you find around you. Most of them are small groups gathered for the benefit.

In marriage, some family relationships are even more difficult to deal with. Since the wedding day, the relationship between husband and wife has been subjected to various temptations and blows, as small as daily necessities can make the relationship between husband and wife tense.

Not to mention some difficult family relationships, the first one is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Some people say that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies If you think about it carefully, this sentence really makes sense. In so many families, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is rarely harmonious. More families will have conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more or less. Only some contradictions broke out, and some were just undercurrents.

Over the years, I have mediated the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law many times. I found that some contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law accumulated little by little because they had been together for a long time, while some contradictions had already laid the roots of contradictions just after they met.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mostly a trivial matter in life. Some may be because the daughter-in-law bought new clothes and the mother-in-law felt that she was spending money indiscriminately. Some even have daughters-in-law who eat more food at the dinner table, which will cause her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction.

These trivial things sometimes make people feel ridiculous, but in fact they have caused conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Later, it was discovered that these trivial things were just an introduction. What really causes the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, only mother-in-law and daughter-in-law "compete for favor" and compete for who is the hostess of this small family.

Mother-in-law wants her daughter-in-law to understand that she has the final say in this family and her son listens to her, not to mention you, the bride who just entered the door. Most daughters-in-law think that they have formed a small family with a man, and the mother-in-law can't control herself at all.

Contradictions thus arose, and from the beginning, two people were doomed to be incompatible.

In fact, I think to solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, first of all, both of them should put their positions right. As mother-in-law, they should learn to let go and not interfere too much in their son's marriage. Daughter-in-law should also have her own principles and bottom line, and show her own principles and bottom line from the beginning, so that her mother-in-law can understand what to do and what not to do. Only in this way can the contradiction between two people be reduced.

Li Juan got married not long ago, and has been taking wedding photos in a circle of friends, and friends have sent blessings. Because her two-year love run with her husband Wang Bin finally came to fruition, family and friends were happy for them.

But soon after I got married, Li Juan confided in me and said, "I want a divorce."

I was shocked. I don't want to divorce after just getting married for a few days. I quickly advised her not to be impulsive. You can tell me what happened.

She cried and said, "I can't stand my unreasonable mother-in-law." I have never seen an old man like her! " "

Li Juan told me her story in detail, and I was very surprised. I didn't expect this kind of thing to happen to her just married.

Li Juan and Wang Bin were classmates in high school, and they parted ways after graduation. After graduating from college, Li Juan chose to return home, and happened to meet Wang Bin who also chose to return home.

At that time, both of them were single and classmates, and they were close on weekdays. After a long time, it is inevitable that we have feelings for each other, so we are together.

Both of them were admitted to the civil servants in their hometown, but they were neither rich nor expensive but stable. On weekdays, both of them like to travel, so they go to the surrounding cities for a holiday.

Wang Bin always wanted to marry Li Juan, but Li Juan thought she was too young to get married in a hurry, so she never agreed. Wang Bin had no choice but to accommodate her.

In this way, two people talked about love for more than two years. During this period, both parents urged them to get married countless times, but they were all pushed away by Li Juan. Finally, Wang Bin's mother was unhappy and gave an ultimatum: If you don't marry my son, you two will break up at once. Don't delay my son's youth to accompany you!

In desperation, Li Juan had to agree to get married. Now the two families just sit together and talk about the details of their marriage.

These two families belong to the right family. According to local customs, it is ok for the man to buy a house, and the two sides discussed the dowry.

Li Juan watched other friends get married, and the bride price was 50,000 to 80,000. Her vanity came up and asked for a hundred thousand bride price.

Wang Bin's family is a little unhappy, and100000 bride price is almost unheard of in the local area. Wang Bin's mother even refused. In her words, my son's condition is not worse than yours. Why did he spend so much money to marry you?

The two sides were very unhappy, and Li Juan lost his temper. She died in one bite, the bride price100000, not a penny less married!

Wang Bin likes Li Juan very much and has proposed to her many times, but all of them were rejected. Finally, Wang Bin begged his mother that she still had some money in her hand, and her mother would add more, so I would give her a bride price.

Mother reluctantly took out the money, but she had secretly hated Li Juan.

Li Juan is also happy to get a hundred thousand bride price. She made a lot of friends to show off, which greatly satisfied her vanity and the wedding was held as usual.

On the wedding day, everyone was very happy. Li Juan and Wang Bin were busy all day and didn't return to Wang Bin's house until evening. Because the house hasn't been decorated yet, I live with Wang Bin's parents for the time being.

As soon as I got home, I saw my mother-in-law sitting on the sofa as if waiting for two people.

Li Juan said good morning, just going back to his room, was stopped by her mother-in-law. Mother-in-law said to her, "Daughter-in-law, you married my son today and have been my family ever since. Today I will tell you the rules of my family. "

Wang Bin saw her mother like this and quickly stopped her, but she stared back with her mother's eyes. My mother-in-law continued: "Our family rules are very simple. As a daughter-in-law, you must treat your husband well and be filial to your in-laws. In this way, on your first day in the door today, practice first, bring me foot washing water and wash my feet. "

Hearing this, Li Juan immediately became anxious: "What did you say? Ask me to wash your feet? "

The mother-in-law opened her mouth and glared. "Yes, I tell you, you asked me for a hundred thousand dollars as a bride price, so you must wait on me in the future. Otherwise, you are worth 100 thousand yuan? "

Li Juanyi understood that her mother-in-law had always hated herself for asking for a bride price. But she also took all the bride price back, just as a scene. Her mother-in-law was so cruel to herself that she got angry and had a big fight with her mother-in-law directly.

On the wedding night, the daughter-in-law quarrels with her mother-in-law, and if she says it, she will be laughed at by others. Later, her mother-in-law deliberately made things difficult for Li Juan, and the contradiction between them continued to heat up. Li Juan couldn't stand it, so he went back to his parents' house in a rage.

In fact, in my opinion, both sides are at fault in this matter. If Li Juan was not vain and insisted on a high bride price, it would not cause her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction. Her mother-in-law actually chose to make trouble for Li Juan on her wedding night, which is also wrong.

Sometimes, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law comes too suddenly, which makes people feel ridiculous. But in the hearts of two people, these are the other's faults.

The causes of contradictions may be inconspicuous, but the outbreak of contradictions is very difficult, and sometimes it is easy to affect marriage.

Therefore, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should share a bowl of soup. Both sides should have a sense of boundary, and don't take each other's kindness to themselves for granted. Only in this way can we put ourselves in the shoes and reduce contradictions.