Men shouldn't be relatives. Tell me about it.

Never treat your husband as a relative, the consequences are "terrible", especially which three? When we treat our husbands as relatives, we lose the mystery of love. We can easily say "I like you" to our lover, but if we put the same words on our parents, no one will talk. That's because our parents are our relatives. We stayed together for so long that we all lost these strangeness. We can buy a lot of things for our parents, but "I like you" means that we are embarrassed to say the entrance. But married life is different. It has no blood relationship as a support point, but only feelings for each other.

If we treat our lovers as relatives, we will become more and more familiar with each other after a long time. In other words, we dare not say sweet words to the other half, nor are we embarrassed to pretend to be cute with each other, let alone have other intimate behaviors with others. Compared with married life, if you feel guilty, it is a more dangerous thing. Because all relationships must be seductive, and the origin of seduction is mysterious. Everyone regards his lover as a relative, and in the case of communication, he will be too close and discover all the mysteries. In this way, marriage will become a stagnant pool, it will lose its mystery and it will become more and more fragile. Therefore, if we want to make our married life more and more energetic, we should avoid the idea of "treating our lover as a relative".

Their female thinking mode is emotional, and they are very easy to feel wronged, so it is easier to give themselves in a relationship, which also means that they will give up a lot in their feelings. In the TV series "Golden Wedding", Sister-in-law Zhuang regards Dazhuang as her own relative and returns home to wait for the steaming food that Dazhuang has already prepared.

Da Zhuang smokes as soon as she throws wooden chopsticks after dinner. When her sister-in-law is busy, she won't let Da Zhuang help her with housework, and it's not hard to educate her children. Because sister-in-law Zhuang is heartbroken about Zhuangzi, she regards Zhuangzi as a relative and is reluctant to let him do housework. She thinks it's hard enough for him to earn money outside. But Mrs. Zhuang's kindness was rewarded with a push from Zhuang. I feel that Mrs. Zhuang is useless, has a bad figure, and is always ruined; When depressed, take it out on Zhuang Sao and yell at her; Not doing housework feels that this is what Mrs. Zhuang should do, and she never understands that it will hurt her. This often happens because Mrs. Zhuang is too kind to him, which makes Zhuang feel that this is a matter of course and he should not invest.

However, this situation made Mrs. Zhuang feel very wronged. She must be worried, too. She must also be taken care of. She must also be loved. Strindberg said: "The most beautiful and painful thing is love! The most expensive and embarrassing thing is marriage and family. " Women should not always think of others, but also think of themselves more.

Treating husbands as relatives will bring difficulties to married life. In the gold medal mediation, Hu Jianyun, a famous people's mediator, said: "In traditional families, there seems to be a wrong concept of rights. You will unconsciously feel that you are mine because you have lived together for a long time. I want to possess you and control you more. " When we treat our lover as a relative, we will be confused about the boundaries between husband and wife.

For example, everyone will feel confidently that no matter what they do, the other party should accept it and should not argue; For example, everyone will take it for granted that all their negative emotions should be accepted by the other party. Every time they quarrel, the other party should be the first person to bow their heads. For example, everyone will confidently feel that they are doing it for him, so the other party should unconditionally obey any influence that everyone does. However, people will ignore other people's experiences, ignore the differences between husband and wife, and forget that the most important thing between husband and wife is mutual understanding. If we ignore the differences blindly, the negative emotions in boys' hearts will gradually accumulate until the situation is particularly full, which will lead to differences.