Cui Cui's New Year speech in 2022-Find the most important thing for you.

The road that belongs to you is different for everyone.

Even a road that looks narrow at first, slowly, has undergone a qualitative change because of my love, and the narrow has become wider.

The certainty in your mind can keep you from living for comparison. Be yourself, as long as you are yourself seriously, you can have food by spreading pancakes.

Life is no longer a 100-meter sprint, but a marathon, running better than others. It's long-term practice and correct posture. Let's win this marathon instead of the initial 100 meter sprint.

In this era, the once vast roads are constantly blocked, and opportunities seem to be less and less. For ordinary people like you and me, the best opportunity is to find their own unique survival gap.

What is the survival gap?

It is to choose your own determined and passionate field, even if it is small and not fashionable, but you are good at it and persevere. In the process, you will continue to create value for others until you win a lifestyle that belongs to your own world.

Because doing what you like, the shop is small, but it can also be regarded as "the king of a country and the master of a city."

You will certainly see that there are some people around you who are constantly improving on one thing for a long time, satisfying themselves and influencing others at the same time.

Perhaps in this era, living in the cracks is the best choice for ordinary people.

Because it can maximize personal value.

There is a saying on the Internet that if one person works hard, the score will be improved, and if a group of people work hard, the score will be improved. Used to say involution. In fact, the biggest loss in this process is that your value as an individual is shrinking. Because you spend the same time, the value of your actual output becomes smaller.

Finding your own survival gap may not be wide at first glance, and it is not a secular definition. You will hear all kinds of questions from the outside world, including your own.

But those voices are not important at all, because only you know that there is your advantage and your yearning in that gap. You go in and walk slowly, and the gap will get bigger and bigger for you.

In the future society, the comparison between people is "difference".

The value of a person in ten years is not how much higher your position is than others, but how different you are from others.

It requires us to have very refined professional ability and "unique" innovative spirit.

Life is short, so you should spend your time on the most important things. Polishing your favorite and best things with long-term doctrine day after day.

"You must go deep into yourself and know what you really believe. You really believe in something and do something for what you believe. As long as you are willing, you may not be bound by the general trend. 」

This is the best logic to deal with the turbulent times, and it is also the best opportunity for us ordinary people in this era.

This is the best, not the fastest, nor the widest, but this crevice road belongs only to you. If you keep going, it will be more and more valuable to you. If you put your time into the place where your natural advantages lie, the reward of time will be seen.

"We tend to overestimate the changes in one year and underestimate the achievements in ten years. 」

It is good for a person to do one or two things well in his life, that is, to be an excellent ordinary person.

1. How to find it?

Ordinary is not synonymous with mediocrity, but the vitality of the world rolling. What do you really want to do with your life? The answer lies in yourself.

You have to satisfy yourself before you can succeed.

Things you like since childhood, once you start, you will enjoy the flow of heart and forget the fact that time flies.

When you do something that makes you feel strong and no longer fragile, it makes you tough rather than something you can give up at any time. And it should be noted that strength is not greatness, but something you feel every day.

Please remember these descriptions, or you can prepare a notebook and record these moments often in the future.

It will help you find out who you want to be and what you want to live for.

That important thing will give you a sense of strength, fill your emptiness and find your own rhythm in the chaotic external environment.

Besides, it will make you very firm.

Many people have a misunderstanding about this. After finding that thing in life, they can lie flat and enjoy the gift of fate.

No, "every unique and beautiful thing is actually based on extremely lonely diligence, either blood, sweat or a lot of elegant and beautiful youth."

"True happiness is a by-product of your devotion to one thing and your staying out of it. 」

Many people think that the most important thing must be to point to a job, a position, no, the most important thing is the embodiment of an advantage, such as what kind of things you focus on and under what circumstances you participate.

Finding the most important thing in life is not an easy task. We need patience and may suffer some setbacks.

Have a clear understanding of yourself, understand your mental model, know your own advantages and strengths, and understand your relationship with the environment and society. It is necessary for any adult to find the most important thing in his life.

To put it bluntly, it means what you want to do, what you can do, what you can do.

Your profits must have deep humanistic concern. Without profit and humanistic care, it is unlikely to create truly meaningful value today.

Successful picture method:

I found it, but it's hard to do.

It's not that I don't know my most important thing. My difficulty is that I can't get close to it and I can't do it.

You want to do it, but you can't move. All kinds of heads are tied to your hands and feet.

It's like two little people living in your heart, arguing and fighting all the time. You have experienced an earth-shattering experience and are exhausted.

Anxiety is a very illusory emotion. When you start thinking about something specific, keep your feet on the ground. The fog of anxiety will automatically disperse.

The emotional internal friction of many people is that they have jobs they want to do, but they just stay inside. There is a direct method of action called finding a springboard.

"What should we do when we realize that the most important thing cannot be carried out for various reasons?" ""give it a try. 」

You don't have to jump directly into a brand-new field, but find a springboard job that can connect your future career with the present.

Let yourself try every specific thing bit by bit.

You will find that that very erratic idea is actually slowly beginning to support our lives.

In this concrete thing, you will gradually get closer and closer to the abstract position in your heart.

Perhaps you have found that whether you are turning anxiety into concrete or looking for a springboard, it all points to a key word:

Do it, not think.

Thinking is a question, doing is an answer.

Doing things is the most reliable way.

When it comes to the word love, I don't know who you will think of at the first time. It may be your other half or your parents.

In fact, we often overlook the fact that most of our lives are actually at work, and we spend more time with our colleagues than with our families.

So in this part, we love specific people, and we want to talk about work partners.

In reality, there is always conflict between managers and employees.

Managers feel that subordinates are not active: pushing around, subordinates feel that managers have too long hands: strong desire to control, too much management;

Managers complain that subordinates are disobedient, opinionated and difficult to convince, and subordinates protest against managers' blind command and ignorance of pretending to understand;

Managers don't understand the silence of their subordinates, so why not just say something? The pie of the subordinate tucao manager will change for a while and be useful for a while.

The moment you get up in the morning, whether you are high-spirited or brave has a lot to do with interpersonal relationships in the workplace.

Whether you have healthy interpersonal relationships, fight side by side, are willing to give up, or push things very hard and don't want to communicate, to a great extent, determines your workplace efficiency.

Many times, a person resigns, not necessarily because he doesn't love the job, but because he has lost the desire to communicate in this organization.

He gave up his desire to advance anything through communication.

1. Manager: Why are people getting more and more expensive?

People become expensive, not necessarily because of the increase in personal direct labor costs, but because of the increase in personnel turnover rate and high personnel mobility. All kinds of hidden costs add up, and the result is that people become more expensive.

It also shows another phenomenon, people become more expensive. The cost of cooperation has become higher, and so has the cost of communication.

Managers can no longer simply and rudely exercise the "management power" they once thought. It seems that the matter of manager has changed from a logically separable mathematical problem to an artistic problem that should pay attention to abstract meaning.

Times are changing, and the groups we face are different. If you really want to accomplish something, then you need to improve cooperation. Then you must first understand the new human group we are facing.

If you want to convince me, you must think what I think, feel what I think and say what I say. 」

2. People in the workplace: I am very expensive.

Young people think they are unique, which means that their personal values need to be recognized. They need to do things through internal motives, not just external instructions. It's no use beating the table with me. They need to know:

Who am I? Why would I do that? Is it meaningful, valuable or simply interesting?

This is also a reflection of the increasingly difficult management. The cost of persuading the younger generation has become higher, and simple instructions are useless. You should tell them why, not just what and how.

But once you understand and agree with the rules of young people, many things become incredibly simple.

In the mouth of young people, they say that this is called generating electricity with love. They say that emotional value is the primary productive force.

They even used a very literary saying that when we are loved, we will become better.

I want to give a more specific definition of love here:

In an organization, we pay close attention to each other.

So, we see each other's differences, understand and admit that you and I are different people.

We study hard how to cooperate with different people, so as to achieve our common goals and realize each other.

First of all, love is not to discipline others, but to appreciate differences.

Many people don't appreciate others. We are used to the threat that pride makes people backward, but we never realize that pride makes people progress.

Secondly, love does not change others, but changes itself.

The task of managers is not to change people. The task of managers is to make use of everyone's talents and put her in the right position.

It is better to pursue passion than to pursue dreams.

Many times, dreams are just to get rid of what is in front of you and get rid of the predicament in front of you.

For example, if you live in a big city, it will be my dream to move to the suburbs; If you live in the country, you will think that my dream is to enter a big city.

Dreams are characterized by escaping from immediate pain. I even went to extremes. If a person is always standing, my dream is to sit down and have a rest, right?

So dreams are not something that will definitely make you happy, nor something that you really pursue.

What do you mean by heat? Enthusiasm means that you will be happy when you do it. You see, it's not like a dream. The dream is that I am in pain now. I have a dream that I can get rid of the pain now, but my enthusiasm is just the opposite. Enthusiasm is that doing it itself will make me very happy.

Try to discover that what you do in life will make you feel excited, motivated, eager and curious. That's called your passion.