I've had a natural delivery and a caesarean section. Let me talk about my feelings.

I have two babies, my eldest daughter, Xiao Tangyuan, and my youngest son, Xiao Peanut. They are five years apart. Small dumplings are delivered naturally, and small peanuts are delivered by caesarean section. In order to let them grow up and tell them how I gave birth to them completely, I want to record all this in words.

1, Caesarean section, God, it hurts!

Peanut, with a birth weight of 6.6 kg and a height of 50cm, is a standard weight.

I have been pregnant with peanuts for 3 months. I can feel the fetal movement and show my stomach very early. It's amazing. It should take the eldest daughter 5-6 months to feel the fetal movement. I asked the doctor, and the doctor just said it was normal. Your stomach has lost weight, and you can feel him moving faster. But I always thought that peanut must be an active baby, because he did somersaults in my stomach every day during the whole pregnancy.

Because it is a second child, I will pay attention to the difference between small peanuts and small dumplings. There was nothing when I was pregnant with peanuts, but I was sleepy and tired all day. I think the appearance, body shape, belly shape and so on are all the same. I used to watch many boys and girls online. Personally, I think it is not very accurate. It really varies from person to person. When I was pregnant with dumplings, many people also told me that it must be a boy, but in the end it was a girl.

When I was pregnant 1 month, I got a particularly serious skin allergy (also called urticaria), which was particularly itchy. The whole person is swollen like a pig's head and can't sleep all night. Later, I couldn't help asking the doctor for an injection, and I regretted it as soon as I hit it. I am afraid that there will be side effects leading to fetal malformation, so I am particularly worried throughout pregnancy. I even did all the screening abnormalities and genetic mutations suggested by doctors at my own expense. I finally understand the old saying, "100 years old to raise a child, 99 years old to worry." The baby hasn't been born yet, but he's already worried. I have heard many mothers discuss it, and it is normal to worry during pregnancy. There was a prenatal examination, and the doctor said that the blood sugar index was abnormal, there was an abnormality in routine blood examination and an abnormality in genetic screening, which worried pregnant mothers.

In the third trimester of pregnancy, it happened to be an epidemic. I like eating at home every day, and I have a good appetite. Then my stomach went into a period of soaring. When I went to the physical examination, the doctor reminded me that your stomach was quite big. At this rate, you may weigh 7-8 Jin when you were born. It is suggested that I control my diet and exercise more. What the doctor said startled me. I am a person who wants to give birth naturally, so I will do as I say, walking for 40 minutes every day, twice a day, combined with squatting. Although I am very tired, I am also trying to get the baby to start soon.

There was too much amniotic fluid (normal 1000ml, I was 2755ml) when I went to the prenatal examination at 40 weeks. The doctor checked that my fetus might weigh more than 7 kg and it was not so easy to give birth. In addition, the delivery process of my fetus is difficult, and the doctor suggested caesarean section. I suddenly collapsed, thinking that the first child was born naturally, and the second child must be born naturally, and tears fell. Fortunately, my husband was called for a checkup and cried in the waiting area for a long time. Calm down at once and cut it open. What if there is another scar on his body for him? When I got home, I discussed it with my family and asked my sister-in-law who was the doctor. Their suggestion is to listen to the doctor and cut the body another day. Husband and grandma immediately went to the master to choose a good day and "take out" the peanuts.

I remember clearly that the day of caesarean section was Monday. The master said it was a good day, and Aunt Xiang said it was the champion's day. I went through the admission formalities early on Sunday, and I need to sign a lot of names and do nucleic acid testing. There was also an episode in the admission process. Another doctor in the inpatient department checked my fetus again on Sunday. She said that my vagina is quite soft and the conditions for natural delivery are good. Plus, she also said that my fetus is actually not big. I can feel that the doctor advised me to give birth naturally and let me try to give birth. I discussed with the attending doctor, and they also gave us the risks and suggestions of two situations, so we can choose. I got excited at once. I want to try to give birth naturally. After discussing with my husband, he didn't even listen to the explanation and insisted that I have a caesarean section. I also explored the tone of my family, and they all disapproved of my attempt to have children, because they had psychological shadows and were worried that they would be as scared as I was when I gave birth to my daughter (this classic experience will be discussed later). No one supports me. I really dare not bet the life of little peanut. I can't afford to lose Then the best result is that peanuts will start working tonight and give birth automatically tomorrow. I also told Peanut to cooperate. I had contractions when I was doing fetal monitoring in the afternoon ~ I was so happy, and it really got stronger and stronger. Then the nurse told me that there was a chance to start tonight. Later, after returning to the ward, the contractions disappeared and were irregular. I don't know if peanuts are deliberately teasing me, or my own psychological function and self-love. Anyway, I was pushed into the operating room on Monday morning.

Little peanut seems to have been programmed, and was born around 1 1: 30, which is what the master said. On Monday morning, I got up after seven or eight, but I didn't feel much. Because I can't eat for 8 hours before the operation and can't drink for 2 hours, I don't do anything in the morning, just check my mobile phone and watch TV, waiting to be informed to be sent to the operating room. 10 began to go to the battlefield. Caesarean section is a little more comfortable than I expected, unlike the previous labor, which hurts like hell. I was pushed into the operating room and felt a little cold. When you are on the operating table, you will be anesthetized immediately. The anesthesiologist asked me to roll up like a shrimp, which was the most painful part of the whole process, but the pain was quick and tolerable. The anesthetic hit the lumbar spine. The anesthesiologist is the only male doctor. He told me in advance that it hurt a little. Let me talk. About 1 second, I let out a cry, "It hurts." . He replied that he could bear it. There are two doctors (whom I have met), three nurses and an anesthesiologist (whom I have never met) in the operating room. It is estimated that after 5- 10 minutes of anesthesia, there is no feeling in the lower body. It's amazing. I can't even feel the doctor moving the knife and pulling BB out. During the whole production process, I talked to the doctor, talked about the experience of having my eldest daughter before, talked about where I worked, what I did, and so on. Listen to a case that two doctors are discussing. The attending doctor later told me that there were still a few minutes before my appointment, but my blood pressure was low and I needed to bring BB out earlier, so safety was the first. I said "yes". At that time, I didn't tell the doctor either, for fear of disturbing them and causing them to make mistakes. After all, my life is in their hands.

When I heard that loud voice crying, I was moved ~ ~ This is the most beautiful voice in the world. My daughter didn't cry when she was born, so she gave first aid. ) I am particularly comforted and excited. The anesthesiologist came over and said, don't get excited yet Blood pressure is a little low now. BB, I'll show you later. After a while, a nurse held BB in front of me and showed me his little handle specially. Confirm with me whether it is a boy or a girl. He weighs 6.6 Jin. I said it was a boy. Then I will introduce BB to my family first, and then send it to the newborn area to keep warm, and I have to go through some formalities. I will always ask the doctor to sew me up.

In this way, I gave birth to a baby and thought it was that simple. Then, the fun is yet to come. After giving birth and returning to the ward, the whole process is awake. I fell asleep after seeing the baby. I let Xiaohua eat my nipples raw at night, and I really have milk to eat.

I didn't feel very painful at that time because there was an analgesic pump. I heard that it will hurt when it is removed. I feel pain after removal, but the pain is acceptable.

The next day, the doctor said he could try to get out of bed. Wow, it really hurts. I can't stand up at all. The tiny movement of getting out of bed was really difficult for me at that time. I have to summon up courage to get up. I can walk from the bed to the bathroom in 15 minutes, just a few steps. At that time, I thought, my life is over, will it get better in the future? When I was in the hospital, I was particularly afraid of going to the toilet. I couldn't bend down when I went to the toilet. The wound hurts when it moves. That kind of pain is different from the pain of natural childbirth and can't be described. Yue Yue still encourages me to get out of bed and walk more, otherwise it will be more difficult to walk in the future. Pain is good. Whenever I have time, I will get out of bed and sit for a while, trying not to just lie in the hospital bed.

On the fourth day, the wound healed well and I was discharged from the hospital. Everyone has to push in a wheelchair, because according to my turtle speed, it is estimated that it will take half an hour to walk to the hospital door. It is estimated that the pain will last for 3-4 days after the analgesia pump is taken out. That kind of pain is actually acceptable The first day after delivery is the most painful, and the pain will gradually decrease. But the biggest problem is: I really feel devastated. Later, when I was confined, a friend asked me with concern how my recovery was going and whether the wound still hurt. She also watched a video of caesarean section, saying that being a mother is really great. Out of curiosity, I searched the video of caesarean section on iQiyi. After watching it, I was excited and sighed: If I had watched this video earlier, I might not have chosen caesarean section. It's really scary. In the video, the doctor first cut open the stomach with a knife, about 12- 15cm, which is similar to the length of my wound. Then drag the child out, and then sew layer by layer, layer by layer, and you can also see the fat layer. It is no exaggeration to say that you will get goose bumps.

I didn't dare to neglect my health for a whole month because I felt greatly weakened. I bathe and wash my hair 7 times a day, disinfect the wound every day, apply scar cream and scar paste, soak my feet, sleep when I am sleepy, and eat when I wake up. If you miss the first month, you will have to do nothing in the second month.

Up to now, when writing this article, Little Peanut is almost 3 months old. I am repairing my body according to all the procedures of postpartum repair, but I obviously feel that my body is still not as good as before, and it may take some time.

When the first child was born, nothing was repaired after delivery. When giving birth to a second child, you should raise your body and repair the pelvic floor muscles, rectus abdominis and pelvis.

2, a natural birth, it doesn't matter if it hurts again, as long as the baby is healthy

Xiao Tangyuan, born with the same mother, weighs 6.6 kg and is 50cm tall.

I was 26 years old when I gave birth to dumplings. Once I thought it was nothing to have a baby, but later I found out it was because I was pregnant with an angel baby. When I was pregnant with small dumplings, I didn't have morning sickness, especially tired or other reactions. Even in the third trimester, I can sleep soundly. When I was pregnant with small glutinous rice balls, because of Guangzhou social security, I chose Clifford Hospital to avoid the trouble of reimbursement. At that time, Tang Yuan's father had just joined a startup company and was very busy and tired. Basically stay at home after work, and go to the maternity check-up on weekends. Sometimes my father-in-law will accompany me. Because Tangyuan is very good, I also support Tangyuan's father to start a business. At that time, my work was not particularly busy, and the days passed as slowly as a stream.

It turns out that the real test for me is in the production process. The expected date of delivery is 16 April, which is already 4 1 week. Calm down. The baby may be too comfortable in my stomach to come out. The doctor told me to do more exercise. Remember to take a vacation in 39 weeks, and stick to a brisk walk of 1-2 hours every day. Sometimes when it rains, I go up and down the stairs at home, but there is no contraction at all.

After 4 1 week prenatal examination, the doctor arranged for me to be admitted to the hospital to start induced labor, and it was right to do as instructed. The next day, I got everything ready and arranged for admission, and this was born. I was admitted to the hospital in the morning and was urged in the afternoon. My amniotic fluid broke quickly. You can't get out of bed after your amniotic fluid breaks. You can only lie down and wait for regular contractions before the baby can come out smoothly.

I still remember that night, I couldn't sleep at all. My husband, grandmother and Yue Yue sleep in a double room. Snoring comes and goes, and it's very difficult until dawn, and there are no regular contractions, only occasional bursts. The next morning, a nurse took a look at it for me and opened the 1 finger. And then I've been lying in the delivery room Anyway, it hurts a little at first, and it's not particularly painful. I don't know what happened after that day. Watching pregnant women in the waiting room cry and pull them into the delivery room one by one, I can still see my watch.

It was after 6: 30, and there were 7-8 delivery rooms that were all pregnant women, and I didn't give birth. I'm looking forward to the nurse's internal examination (that is, seeing how many fingers I have opened). Someone told me that I was particularly depressed when I only opened three fingers. When do I come out? Because the amniotic fluid has been broken for 29 hours, I am worried that the amniotic fluid in the fetus will become turbid and make BB's living environment worse. Later, a doctor came to teach me how to push hard, which can speed up the labor process and also let my husband help me and encourage me.

It took about 2 hours, a little after 8 o'clock. A doctor stretched out his fifth finger during the internal examination, and then said, your labor is very slow, and now your amniotic fluid is beginning to muddy. You can choose caesarean section, or you can continue to insist. If you choose caesarean section, I will push you into the operating room now; If we choose to give birth naturally, we will closely observe the baby's fetal heart rate. Once the fetal heart rate drops, there is no need to consider caesarean section immediately. But if you still want to have a natural delivery, stick to it and start squatting on the delivery ball to help the cervix open quickly. I remember I was still a little worried and scared at that time, but I decided to work hard because I really wanted to give birth naturally. I still remember that even though I was very tired, I still insisted that a healthy and smooth birth of the fetus was the most important thing.

As time goes by, 10 has passed, and the contractions are not getting stronger and stronger. The labor process has been really slow, and it will go very fast after 5 fingers. In fact, my heart is suffering, and the doctor has been monitoring the fetal heart by my side. That was the longest night I ever spent. Later, I don't know how to get to 65438+ 0 am. The doctor said it would exceed 8 fingers, so I can try and see if it can be born. I was sent to the delivery room, and the doctor taught me to exert myself. Soon, I gave birth to a small dumpling at 2: 55. I thought it would be all right if I gave birth naturally, but fate would really joke with me. She never cried when she came out and never cried when she was hung up by the doctor and patted her ass. That's why it's so beautiful for me to hear the cry of little peanut. The doctor was still sewing me up. I've been watching her, worried to death. Others say that stitches are more painful than life. Although I have been born for nearly 40 hours, I don't feel tired at all, and my heart is gone. I will always remember what the doctor who sewed my needle told me, and even now I can't help crying: you gave birth to a daughter, and now you are being rescued. It should be brain suffocation, and the doctors in the neonatal department came down to help save her. No matter what she becomes in the future, you should stick to her and take good care of her. At that time, I remembered that there was a mother and daughter in the community. My daughter knew at a glance that there was something wrong with her brain and her feet were shaking. Her mother often drags her around. For a new mother, it will be a kind of harm. Crying and crying, I fell asleep.

Later, five years after peanut was born, my husband told me that after I slept, my daughter was sent to the neonatal department for rescue. After I was pushed out by the nurse, I had to sleep in the utility room temporarily because it was too late to arrange the ward at night. My husband stayed up all night, accompanied me until dawn, and found a deserted ward and chair to sleep for a while. I feel so miserable after listening to it. It was almost dawn and I was sent back to the hospital bed. I got up at 7 o'clock and began to worry about my daughter. I cried again when I remembered it. Grandma recalled that she waited for me outside for so long without giving birth and was worried. She wanted to come in, but she wouldn't give in. When she heard that BB was like this, she couldn't stand up. ?

Soon, I will be discharged from the hospital, and bb is observing in the incubator. Look at her only through monitoring, and don't even give her mother's milk. Xiao Tangyuan lived in the incubator for 15 days, and I was basically in Lacrimosa. The only thing I could do at that time was professional attention, so I chased Wu Zetian, and then I sucked. Breast milk is the best gift for dumplings.

God bless, Xiao Tangyuan is not serious, healthy and discharged smoothly.

Although the whole production process was painful, I felt my body recovered well.

3, personal summary: you can listen to the doctor smoothly, but you can't listen to the doctor.

Having a baby is like walking through the gates of hell. I went through it twice. I'm lucky to be alive. For pregnant women themselves, it is natural to choose a natural delivery. Although the process of natural delivery is so painful, many precious mothers can give birth quickly and smoothly, and the harm to their mothers is minimal. Of course, if the doctor says that the baby has a condition and suggests caesarean section, then put your mind right and do as you are told.

Share it here and record that in order to make better progress, I hope all the babies in the world are healthy and healthy, and the baby mother will give birth naturally.