My son is 7 years old and is in the first grade this year. He is slow in doing his homework and has no interest in doing things. As a parent, I am worried about him.

I am in the same situation as you. My son is six and a half years old. He has just entered the first grade and lives with the elderly. My child used to be slow in doing things and lacked interest in anything. Much better now! Tell me about my experience.

First, full of interest in things.

1, as the saying goes, there is motivation only when there is a goal. As long as my husband and I are free, we often take our children out to "see the world" and see how wonderful the outside world is! Stimulate children's interest, let children set up lofty ideals from an early age, and understand that if they want to realize their ideals, they must work hard on their own!

2, subtle guidance. In front of children, show what adults are interested in, envy * * *, and attract children's attention. Don't be too deliberate, children sometimes have rebellious psychology.

3. Let children set an example. The power of example is infinite. With an example, children will be interested in their study and life. A child's role model can be a real person or an anime character. However, adults should never laugh at children's role models and respect them. My son envied President Hu Jintao since he was a child (at first he thought he could travel around the world). Adults will tell children stories about President Hu's childhood (of course, most of them are based on the children's situation), so that children can be motivated.

Second, get rid of the habit of slowness.

1, instill the concept of time. You can play games with children-how many questions can you do in three minutes? How many words to write? Adults give 100 addition and subtraction questions (not too difficult, so that children have confidence), so that children can understand that they can do a lot in three minutes, and thus learn to be in a hurry.

2. praise more. As long as children make a little progress, we should praise them loudly and deliberately, see their progress and complain less. And in front of relatives and friends, we should deliberately praise children for not dragging their feet and becoming more and more sensible, and children will form a virtuous circle.

Third, poor self-care ability.

1, let the children tell the old man: I can do it! I can do it! Old people like their children very much. As parents, sometimes we feel that the old people spoil their children too much, but when we say it from our mouths, it hurts the old people's hearts and causes some unnecessary misunderstandings. My solution is: first tell the child that he has grown up and can do many things. If some things need help from others, it means that he has not grown up and will be laughed at by others. Children have strong self-esteem, so let them say "I'll do it myself" the next time the elderly help.

2. Deduction system. My son has always wanted to go to Beijing. I lured my son to attend the summer camp in Beijing. However, the summer camp requires children to take care of themselves, so we will calculate it according to the scale of 100. If they should do it by themselves in life but fail to do it, they will be deducted one point until they fail (there is no extra point, lest the children feel that there is a way out), that is to say, the children are not independent and do not have the conditions to go to Beijing. So now, as long as the child asks the old man to do things, I only say two words "deduct points", and my son will do it himself immediately.

These are the methods we adopt according to the children's situation, which varies from person to person. Some concepts and ideas take time to form slowly, not for a while. Parents should have lasting patience.