The first half of my life was about matching.

"People with great differences in living habits, values and consumption levels are really not recommended to be together."

Even if they are together, if they don't run in well in the future, new problems may arise. The reason for this conclusion is the real experience of friends around me.

My friend was born in a business family, and the economic conditions were good since childhood. When we were in middle school, she had time to spend 1 0,000 yuan in pocket money every week. When she goes to college, the family will give her more money.

In addition, when my friend was a child, he began to be influenced by the art of music. He was very temperamental and graceful, just like the actor Qin Li.

Of course, my friend won many scholarships on his own. It can be said that she has never been troubled by the problem of money.

In the process from acquaintance to marriage between her and her husband, Mr. Li, our circle of friends is not very optimistic, because the family backgrounds of the two people are too different, and there is no question of who is right or wrong, just a question of fit.

When Mr. Li was a child, his family might be very poor. When he grew up, his view of money was distorted and stingy, and he could not accept a slightly better life. It seems that as long as he spends money, he feels that he is betraying his past self.

Like a Valentine's Day date, friends set the date place in a western restaurant with more atmosphere, and friends pay the bill. But Mr. Li thought it was too expensive, so he asked my friend to refund the money and said, "Isn't it just a meal?" As for eating so expensive? It is better to go home and fry a few dishes yourself, which is full and affordable. "

My friend didn't want to make trouble with Mr. Li, so he listened to his words and returned the ticket to the restaurant. The two of them do their own shopping, which is not bad.

Moreover, on Mr. Li's birthday, a friend bought him a watch to facilitate his work, social occasions and town venues.

But after knowing the price, Mr. Li asked his friend to return the watch, saying that there was no need to buy such an expensive watch, and he was tested.

Similar things often happen, which is quite critical. We judge that if these two people come together, there may be a crisis in the future.

However, it is difficult for people in love to listen to other people's opinions. My friend thinks that her boyfriend cares about his family and spends money sparingly, which is an advantage, and he is still willing to spend money for her.

When we first established our relationship, Miss Li heard that my friend likes flowers and sent her a bunch of flowers to the office every week.

Friends like to eat breakfast in a fixed store, and Mr. Li tries his best to help queue up to buy it. You can say that he is persistent.

In this way, after a period of pursuit, my friend officially confirmed the relationship with Mr. Li. From their love to their marriage, there are always all kinds of strange problems that make them unhappy.

At the beginning of marriage, Mr. Li gave my friend the salary card to take care of. However, due to the consumption concept formed since childhood, my friend pursues the quality of life more. As a result, Mr. Li soon ran out of money, which he felt unbearable. At home, he either sighed or accused his friends of spending money like water, and he lost his enthusiasm for my friends when he fell in love.

From the initial appreciation and admiration, to half a year after marriage, it has become profligacy and squandering money. My friend is also lost in thought about this marriage. I don't know what went wrong and why their feelings cooled so quickly.

They have been married for only half a year, and they have already met with waterloo. My friend is disheartened and doesn't know whether to continue.

Before marriage, I appreciated my husband's advantages, but after marriage, it became a factor affecting their feelings. For a time, they quarreled, and neither of them would let anyone.

In marriage, a marriage without understanding is doomed to failure. Think carefully, why do we feel complaining and angry?

It's simply because we don't agree with each other's ideas, we don't think from each other's perspective, we don't solve problems, we don't have the patience to communicate with each other, and we don't listen carefully to each other to explain the reasons and purposes of our actions.

In fact, both married men and women need to learn to understand and recognize each other. Now that you have become a husband and wife, don't always think about yourself, but consider each other's attitude in everything.

In marriage, learning to empathize and understand each other is actually designing a filter for two people's lives, which can filter out the unhappiness between them.

Tell me about me and my husband. We also have funding problems.

But my husband's attitude makes me feel very gratified, and makes me believe that he is a reasonable person, and I have not married the wrong person.

Years ago, my family was decorating the house and needed a lot of money. My mother didn't ask us for money because she knew we didn't have much money.

When I went back to my mother's house that day, my mother said that my two younger brothers were very angry. Big brother invested 10 thousand, and he won't get the money until the end of the year. My brother accidentally put the money on death row and couldn't get it out before it expired.

I thought that the house would be built soon with the contribution of two sons.

However, if the money is not in place, the house will naturally be unable to continue construction. According to my mother's original plan, I will build the house at the beginning of the year, and then worship God, and I can move into a new house in the middle of the year.

However, according to the reality at that time, the new house may go away.

I accidentally told my husband about it when I got home. My husband said that he should find a way to do it. He said that he got tens of thousands of bonuses two months ago and the company hasn't paid them yet. He can pay the company in advance.

Soon after, he gave me 50 thousand yuan, saying that my mother would turn over as much as she needed and leave some living expenses for herself.

My mother said that the money should not be paid by her son-in-law. She felt unreasonable, so she wrote an iou to my husband and promised to pay it back at the end of the year.

To be fair, my husband has no obligation to pay such a sum of money for building a house, but I am very grateful for his understanding and indifference.

He also said that if he had money, he would provide more help and he would do whatever he wanted. He is a family, so he doesn't have to be so picky. He also said that my parents are his parents and should be filial.

Thinking of the movie Love Letter, the old man said to the old woman:

"Old woman, you don't love to move in my life. You are sitting in a chair knitting a sweater, and your health is not as good as mine. Don't blame me for not speaking well. Probably, you will walk in front of me. That's not bad either. You are timid and stupid. If I go first, how will you handle everything at home? You love to cry, I don't trust to leave you there alone.

If you don't want to, you can find someone with a better temper than me, I promise. "

Deep affection is not as good as long-term companionship, and great love needs no words. True love means that someone is willing to understand you, understand your thoughts, and treat you well without asking for anything in return.

The person who really loves you is not necessarily the person who often says that he loves you, but the person who has been paying silently with his actions. He will never leave you, because he knows that he is kind, so he is willing to accompany you.

In marriage, can people with different views on money still run in?

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