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What do you think of "many poor people don't want to have children because they don't want to owe money to the next generation"?

I have suffered more than other children since I was a child. Others wear new clothes, but I don't. Others ride mountain bikes, and neither do I. I was only 28 years old and I was not tall. When I grow up, I am very painful. I have no job, no knowledge and no skills. Am I stupid? No, one day I watched If You Are the One, part of which was to show my talent. I wonder, if I go on stage, what talent will I have? Looks like I'm gonna smoke and drink. Is this a gift? As I was born in a poor family, I spent time and money to learn these things.

Therefore, the next generation is like its own mirror. The poor will feel that being born is a burden, but they can't give back their children's happiness. I will feel guilty and secretly say to myself that I have worked hard to make money and earned enough to have two more children, but in a blink of an eye, I will be 38 and still owe a debt. I don't want to do it again, feel my own experience and live.

I am a girl from a single-parent family. Tell me my opinion. In my opinion, parents with children are not necessarily really good to their children. On the contrary, those who don't have children may not be bad for them.

I remember my childhood when I first went to school. I was only three or four years old. My parents took me to Xinjiang. They were working when I went to school. There, I rented a house of about 7 or 80 square meters. Next to the hut is the landlord. Their family is very rich and has their own big yard, in which many fruits and vegetables are planted. I was envious at that time. In my memory, my father likes smoking and often hits me. They often love me in front of me. I am young, and my heart is very uncomfortable. I always feel that they don't want me. I don't know why, but I am angry and annoyed that they did such a thing. Worst of all, one afternoon after school, I went home and knocked on the door again and again, but they just couldn't open it. I know, they love each other in it. I was so helpless (I wanted to cry when I wrote this) that it took me at least an hour to finally open the door. Angry and annoyed, I told my mother to go back to my hometown and tell my grandmother. My mother said not to tell anyone. Although I really want to tell others what they did, it's hard for me to say it so many times. I just entered school and went home from school to start doing my homework. My father got off work, and when he came in, my heart was shaking, and I didn't even dare to breathe loudly, as if the devil had come to me. He read my homework, and I wrote the numbers wrong. He flew into a rage and immediately accused me. Then he started twisting me, slapping me in the face and spanking me. I couldn't help sobbing loudly in pain. He asked me to hold it, otherwise he would hit harder. My mother can't stop me. I cried for my mother, hoping that I could save me, but she wouldn't listen. Finally, I was beaten by him and my mouth was bleeding. He took me to see a doctor. The doctor said, I dare not hit the child like this. Because my father often hits me, my psychological shadow on him is not as deep as usual. At the same time, I hate my mother's cowardice. Why can't I even protect my own children? Beaten countless times, they quarreled endlessly and broke things. What should I do? I cried. I was really helpless. Then my mother took me away quietly. On the day we left, my mother and I were afraid that he would find out, that he would know that we had left, that he would catch up with me, and that we would not be able to leave, and that we were even more afraid of being beaten. I'm sorry, I have a lot of experiences later, so I can't write any more for the time being, and my tears are flowing down.

In short, over the years, I have experienced more than girls of my age and suffered more injuries than girls of my age. Growing up in this environment made me have obstacles to love. Even if that person is really sincere to me, I will always think about what I don't have. For example, he will cheat and fall in love with others in the future. Maybe he has a crush on someone else now … but I know he doesn't, but I just can't accept myself. I'm so tired. I hate myself and want to commit suicide, hang myself and jump into the river ... Once, as soon as I climbed over the guardrail and wanted to jump into the river, my grandfather in charge of this field immediately called me back. He said that they were in charge of someone who wanted to jump into a river or something, and this was their job. Helpless, I didn't die. I just want to tell parents or parents-to-be that giving their children a good life is not only material, but more importantly spiritual. Enough companionship and love, giving children enough patience and teaching will make them happier, and they will be more optimistic, confident and positive in adulthood, which will have an impact on their lives. Giving birth to children is not only to feed and clothe them, but also to educate them. Don't live just to be supported when you are old. The correct concept should be: I gave birth to a child to cultivate a beautiful flower for the country, care and water it with my heart, and let them grow healthily and sturdily. If you have enough ability to give these to children, please rest assured!

I once had the same idea, not because I am poor (though not rich), but because I don't want to be in debt. But although we don't owe ourselves, we seem to owe our parents and our families. This time, it seems that everyone has committed a crime except ourselves.

Whether the poor don't want to have children is because they feel indebted to the next generation. I don't think so.

First of all, simple poor people don't want to have children, because for them, having children is their own continuation. For them, only having children is the way out. If they are too poor to have children, there is really nothing they can do. I'm afraid those who don't want to be born have a certain social understanding. They have seen the bustling cities, feel inferior, have a good heart and can't afford to raise them. Because they see the prosperity of society, they can live in it by themselves, but it doesn't mean that they can still support a person to live in it. They don't want to give up their only prosperity, so I'm afraid selfishness is also at work. My aunt, who gave birth to seven children in the countryside, has the best junior high school education. It is conceivable that she went to junior high school during the nine-year compulsory education. Of the five sons, only the eldest son has a wife and nothing else, so she can't afford a house, only a shabby little building in the village with few neighbors. Therefore, the real poor, their belief is that only when they have children can they be productive. Those who don't want to have children, not because they are poor, think they can't afford it, and give up some responsibilities and obligations that human beings should have fulfilled on the long road of reproduction.

I wonder if I can accept this?

She said that Yang li Ping had no children. She came to this world all her life to see how flowers wither, how rivers dry up and how stars flow in the four seasons.

Everyone has the right to decide how to spend his life. In fact, it is not only the poor who don't want to have children, but also more and more intellectuals and the middle class don't want to have children. Therefore, there is no absolute relationship between having children and poverty.

It may be some people's choice not to owe money to their children, but I don't think most people owe money. Modern fast-paced and intensive information has made us feel that children are not the continuation of our lives, and the development of the world provides more choices for everyone's life ending.

On the contrary, I have met many poor people (only for this topic, not to belittle people, I think the rich and the poor are not the standard to distinguish human beings, let alone the rich and the poor). They prefer to have children because there is nothing to pursue in life. They believe that dating, getting married, having children and taking care of children are the processes of life and should be experienced.

We don't want children, perhaps because we know the world better and hope to have another life different from our parents.

Because of our differences, society will develop and civilization will progress.

"Feeling" is not only "feeling by yourself", but also "social thoughts make you feel".

Traditional social thoughts make many people feel that not having children is a debt.

Seven reasons that can be used to divorce a wife are recorded in the ritual book "The Monument to Life and Nucleus" compiled by Dade in the middle of the Eastern Han Dynasty, which is called "Seven Directions" [1]:

There are seven ways for women to go: disobeying their parents, not having children, whoring, being jealous, getting sick, talkative and stealing.

And made a further explanation:

It is against morality not to go with your parents. No children, for its peerless also; Yin, for its disorderly race also; Jealousy, for its disorderly home also; Got a terrible disease, because it can't flourish with * * * *; Many words, for their separation from their loved ones; Theft, as its antonym.

"No children and no daughters" means that a wife without a son will make this pulse extinct, and a husband can divorce his wife accordingly.

Some interviewees mentioned that "there are three unfilial things and no great future", which also belongs to this "traditional social trend of thought". Whether you admit it or not, it really makes many people think:

After a woman marries her husband's family, if she cannot have a son, she is in debt; If you are not born, you owe it even more!

This kind of debt is not only a debt to her husband's family for raising their children, but also a debt to her family for failing to raise her daughter's reputation.

Every family has a difficult experience, and happy people are in a state. Unfortunately, there are thousands of species in Qian Qian. In rural areas, many families can only support their families, and their savings are almost zero all the year round. However, the concept of having children is deeply rooted, and poor families who cannot make ends meet will choose to have children.

But there are exceptions If poor and lazy people only think about themselves and can only support themselves, such poor people will not consider having children, because they will think that children are a burden and share food with them. If they are such people, it is better not to have children, because children will not be loved by their parents when they are born!

I'm glad to answer this question.

"Many poor people don't want to have children because they don't want to owe money to the next generation." I agree with this situation, but I still want to add some information and opinions.

First of all:

For example, many poor people working in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen can't afford to buy a house and live a hard life. After they have children, the situation will get worse. Whether you are raising yourself or raising children, you will be overwhelmed. So it is cruel to tell the poor that they don't want to have children.

I believe that many poor people don't want to have children, but the practical problems they face make them decide not to have children for the time being. For the next generation, it is not a question of abuse or not, but a question of whether you can bear it.

For example, there are many rural families here for their children to go to college, graduate school and find jobs after graduation. Basically, the whole family is overdrawn, and there are even many holes.

After their children choose jobs, many people are dissatisfied with their jobs. In big cities, they just meet their daily expenses. Many people have to borrow money, get married and buy a house. Married to buy a house, their monthly expenses are fixed, but their income is not fixed.

Mortgage, car loan, daily expenses, debt repayment, so that they become real moonlight family, insecure poor.

By this time, they have reached the age of having children, but if you ask them to stop working and have a child, some units can apply for maternity leave, while others can't. Without maternity leave, having children means unemployment, which they can't afford. At this time, they can only choose to wait until economic conditions are better.

Second:

If you don't have children, let your parents talk about it, and future pension is also a problem, so many people have children when their economic conditions are not good.

As parents, we must try our best to provide conditions for our children. However, due to poor economic conditions, their children are different from those with good economic conditions from birth.

Conditional families prepare imported milk powder for their children, and children can only drink cheap milk powder, wean early and start drinking porridge.

In primary school, other people's families began to ask tutors to cultivate their children's skills, making it difficult to maintain their children's normal schooling. This situation is more obvious in children's junior high school and high school.

So when I saw this, some people backed out and didn't want children because they were afraid of losing money.

Third;

Poor families are prone to conflicts. Hundreds of dollars may lead to unhappiness, thousands of dollars may lead to discord, and tens of thousands of dollars may lead to brothers turning against each other.

A bad family atmosphere will also make many people hesitate to have children. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and the daughter-in-law is not pleasing to the eye. It will also make young people not want to have children.

In short, the poor don't want children, some people don't want to owe children, and there are other things, but the biggest reason is "poverty".

Poverty is the reason why many things are sad, not only having children, but also overcoming poverty. Many things are not things.

first

Not wanting to have children is a common phenomenon.

That is, high probability events.

Have something to do with the poor and the rich.

But it's not the main reason.

second

Not wanting to have children is mainly due to the change of people's minds.

From raising children to preventing old age to dink, it is the evolution of a society and the change of people's thoughts, values and outlook on life.

In today's society, people begin to pay more attention to their own needs, both spiritual and material.

In other words, as a person, the greatest value is self-interest or altruism.

Being more popular is good for yourself or giving.

When we no longer need to raise children to prevent old age, when we pay more attention to our quality of life.

It is very important that childbirth is not spicy.

third

Finally, because of environmental reasons, rising prices, great social pressure, difficulties in survival, fewer children and less burden.

To sum up, changes in material conditions and thinking have made many people not want to have children or have fewer children.

Thank you.

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Hello, I'm glad to answer this question. Many poor people don't want to have children. This problem is two-sided. If you are like a city, it is true that you are too poor to have children, but some rural areas are poor and there are many people with two or three lives. It seems that some people in rural areas don't take this concept seriously, but urban people feel that they really owe it to the next generation. Let's analyze this problem: our home is a typical example. His father is going to have two children, and our first one is a girl. Rural traditions are very heavy. Not having a son will be looked down upon by our neighbors, so we gave birth to another son. I could have gone out to work, which was good. There is also a 2-year-old who can't go out to work and take care of the children at home every day. That's why I don't want to have children, and there's also a belly plan. Both my children are very fat. I was really heartbroken at that time, and it was too painful. Talking too much is all tears. First, it's not that many poor people don't want to have children, but that many rich people don't want to have children, and the burden of having a child is very heavy. Second: How much effort does it take a child from birth to marriage? Third: once a child is born, it is okay to have money, but if there is no money at home, the child will suffer. Fourth: When you reach the generation of children, you will be rich, and the children who are not rich will start to complain about you. Business is still in the countryside: want to be rich, have fewer children and plant more trees. What's your opinion? Please leave a message.

Hello, I am an unsuccessful scholar, and I am glad to answer this question.

I am poor, and I have a say.

First of all, having children must meet several conditions:

One, two people must be in good health. Otherwise, deformed children will suffer themselves and their children.

Second, we must have a certain economic ability. Nowadays, children need money from birth to marriage for studying, training, getting sick, finding a job and getting married. They have to fulfill their parents' responsibilities, need money everywhere, and have to spend money to close their eyes.

Third, there are family members to help take care of the children. It is difficult to have a child in three years. If there is no family to take care of, the woman takes care of the baby, and the family only relies on the man to make money to support the family. Life is not good, and the man is under great pressure, which is not conducive to family harmony.

Fourth, I have the ability to raise children. This ability not only refers to economic ability, but also shows irresponsibility for children who are not hungry or frozen. There is a saying in the countryside that raising children without teaching them is like raising pigs.

These four conditions are indispensable, or you really owe your child!

Of course, there are many rich people in this society who follow the Dink family and don't have children. They think that their energy is limited, and they should take time for themselves, manage themselves well and make their lives more exciting! If you have a child, you will be wronged and owe it to your child!

To sum up, it is my opinion on this title. This society is pluralistic. The poor are afraid to have children, and some rich people don't want to have children, but they don't want to owe them! Thank you!