What is the old man's "not caring about his children when he is young, but not being happy in his later years"?

Parents are biased against their children, have no ambition, and always live like parasites, and they will not be happy when they are old.

When I saw this topic, my first thought was Fan Meisheng in Ode to Joy. Fan is a white-collar worker in a company. After working for many years, she has no savings. She wants not only foster parents, but also her younger brother and family. She is reluctant to invest in herself. Sadly, her family actually took it for granted. After Fan went to college, her mother thought Fan was her own ATM. This is to train her, so that when she is old, Fan can take full control of her life. Her whole family is waiting for a 30-year-old unmarried woman to raise them, and they are completely incapable of survival. It is pathetic to rely entirely on the parasitic behavior of others, but their families are even more hateful.

Fan's family is a very obvious patriarchal family. The influence of patriarchy on women in that era was that they lacked self-confidence. Now that the status of women has improved, this patriarchal phenomenon is less. I remember a female classmate with a younger brother at home. Her mother is a typical patriarchy. She and her brother did well in the college entrance examination in the same year, but her mother wouldn't let the girl go to college. The girl didn't think it was unfair. She got good grades, but she didn't have a chance to go to college. Maybe she has been treated unfairly at home. Maybe she's used to it. I feel unfair for her.

For parents, I can only say that I am as responsible as possible for my children.