Now there are hundreds of thousands of bridesmaids in the countryside, and houses and cars are needed. what do you think?

Let's talk about the house first You must have a house to get married. This view is actually instilled by our parents. Because most of their generation were born after 50 s and 60 s, when they got married, there were basically no houses and brothers crowded together, so from then on, their generation sprouted. They will get married when their children grow up. When they get married, they must have an independent house.

Some old ideas were instilled by parents, and when they grew up, they felt that what their parents said was reasonable, thus forming a kind of wind. So it has developed into today. As long as it is about getting married, people will ask if they have a house.

Coupled with the current trend of comparison, neighbors living in the same yard, their daughters get married, and the other party buys a house, thinking that my daughter should have a house when she gets married. I can't let others think my daughter is easy to bully. Over time, buying a house before marriage is one of the most important conditions for parents to choose a son-in-law.

Orange thinks that marriage needs to buy a house, mostly because of parents' meaning, so that her daughter can have a stable home and a comfortable nest in the future. It will never rain or wind again. I will run around for moving. Some are to test the man's love for his daughter. Parents' intentions are good, and they are good for their children, but oranges think it depends on the man's economic conditions.

We can buy those with that condition, but we don't have that condition yet. Should parents be tolerant? As long as the man is kind, filial to himself, loves his daughter and is self-motivated. As for buying a house, you can buy it later if you have the conditions. After all, all the people who entered the marriage hall this year were born in the late 1980 s, and most of them just graduated a few years ago and just bought a house with enough food and clothing. Besides, aren't all men standing in their thirties? So I also hope that the woman's parents will give the boy more time.

Moreover, buying a house now is not a simple matter. Buying a house is a place to live. The price is more expensive than buying anything. For example, in Wuhan, a house costs at least several hundred thousand to several million. If you look for a bank loan, pay in installments, with a down payment of at least1200,000. Coupled with the monthly mortgage of 2,000 to 3,000 yuan, and the cost of supporting the family after marriage, we are still a little overwhelmed after graduating from the 1980s.

Therefore, Orange thinks that couples who have to buy a house to get married can discuss it with their parents, or postpone the wedding for two or three years, and wait until the man has enough economic strength to buy a house and get married after the down payment.

Or let parents be tolerant, and both parents can make a down payment together. If the name is written by two people, it is ok to repay the loan together and work hard for this family together.

The colleague of a company before Juzijun was a Beijinger and had been in love with her boyfriend for many years. She is one year older than oranges and has never been married. It turned out that she didn't hold the wedding until her boyfriend bought a house and decorated it. Their wedding room has been decorated this year. 10. 1 They got married and are still very happy.

Therefore, some happiness has to wait, not when you want a house, but when you have to buy these things by your own efforts, so when you see others as old as you, but you have a house and a car and nothing, you don't have to envy them. Maybe your parents bought someone else. Only by being down-to-earth can we get it through our own efforts.

The family economy of both sides is really bad. If the woman is pregnant unexpectedly again, she will have to live with her parents for the time being, prepare for labor and take good care of her parents. After giving birth, the woman will come out to work and work together with the man. After all, after giving birth to a child, it is definitely not possible to rely solely on the efforts of the man. Because he is married and has a baby, the expenses are not only the daily expenses, but also the baby's various milk powder money. Therefore, only two people can work together to realize the dream of having a house and a car at the earliest.

I believe that all parents in the world are thinking of their children's happiness and don't want their children to suffer, so they need a house to get married. As long as children communicate well with their parents, their parents will be reasonable and will not ruin their life happiness. Now when it comes to marriage, the first thing that comes to mind is having a car and a house and a high bride price. But have you found that this phenomenon mostly occurs in rural areas, and urban people rarely make these demands?

Why on earth is this? Experts give three points of analysis. First, the countryside is relatively poor. Daughter's marriage is a turning point in life, and everyone wants to change their destiny through marriage. If you can come up with a house, a car and a huge bride price, it means that your family condition is very good, which is the embodiment of economic strength and can bring material security to your daughter in the future. People in the city are relatively rich, and the average family already has a house and a car, so don't consider these.

Second, rural people feel poor because they are farmers and there is no hope of farming at home. Therefore, their greatest wish is to become city dwellers and enjoy all kinds of treatment from city dwellers. The most direct way to become a city dweller is to buy a house in the city, so relatives naturally need a car when they go home, and a car is the embodiment of a person's strength. They think that people who mix well should at least have cars.

And city people are city people, so we still don't need to consider these. Third, city people can receive more quality education, and they value things other than material things, such as love. Even if we look at material things, we also look at each other's potential. They know very well that what a person has now will become insignificant in the near future, and truly capable people will continue to earn wealth. But rural people seldom realize this, so they value the status quo.

In fact, this can't blame the rural people. When a person is extremely poor in material resources, he will pay special attention to material resources. They are worried about future survival and old-age care. To put it bluntly, at present, urban people are enjoying life, while rural people are trying to live. When the rural areas are getting richer, the economy and the old-age care are guaranteed, and they will begin to pay attention to spiritual things, this phenomenon of asking for cars, houses and bride price will naturally disappear.

Most parents of the bride want to have a car and a house. Young people who are really married also realize this mistake. It is only because of the pressure of parents and the formation of customs and habits that they have to follow suit and ask for a bride price because of their face. I believe that with the prosperity of the country and the satisfaction of material needs, this phenomenon will soon disappear. What do you think of this matter? Do you have any good way to solve the problem of marriage difficulty for this rural child?