The old lady pestered her grandchildren and refused to give them. Daughter-in-law is forced to cry three times a day, and it doesn't matter if her son knocks at the door. What should I do?

Why does mother-in-law always want to occupy her grandson? Many mothers-in-law love their grandchildren in various ways after they become grandmothers, but they all let them kiss themselves instead of their daughters-in-law. Why?

Grandson is closer than daughter-in-law

My mother-in-law's idea is probably like this. In her eyes, although the grandson is born to his daughter-in-law, who is an outsider, the grandson is the blood of his son, so the grandson is a family, but the daughter-in-law is not. Daughter-in-law is an outsider, and doing things just makes people feel uneasy. Most mothers-in-law think that only they can take care of their children best, and the children should be closer to them, so some mothers-in-law even instill some strange ideas in their children, such as grandma is closest to you and your mother doesn't want you. This kind of contradiction that interferes with the daughter-in-law taking care of the children is inevitable, and it is necessary to communicate in time.

If you have to ask me why, I can only say that these mother-in-law are not young, most of them are from the old society and are seriously influenced by feudal ideas. Although she is also a woman, it is difficult to change the concept of son preference.

Intergenerational relatives

"Parents' love for their children is harsh, and their love for their grandchildren is spoiled. "This is a kind of human nature, and this continuation of love will make us live. A grandchild is a continuation of love for his children. Because you are my child and your child is my child, I am willing to take care of him. This can explain why the mother-in-law loves her grandson, but she is not so willing to be close to her daughter-in-law. After all, the daughter-in-law is not related by blood. In the final analysis, she is only a nominal relative, and her son is her own.

In addition, it is best for children not to bring them to their elders all the time. In the long run, it is not conducive to parent-child relationship. Many parents are busy at work during the day and have no time to spend with their children. If they let their children and grandparents sleep at night, the affection between children and parents will fade. So parents might as well let their children sleep with them, which can increase their feelings. Of course, if children are old enough, they should be allowed to sleep independently.

Children who sleep with their parents are psychologically close to their parents, while the old people and their parents have different educational concepts, which leads to different children's personalities, and children who sleep with their parents feel more secure. Moreover, it is also a way of parent-child communication for the baby to sleep beside his parents and smell his mother.