A friend with a normal relationship asked me to help her manage her contacts. Should I help her?

We sometimes encounter this situation: a friend who usually has a normal relationship is probably just a good friend, but often contacts us suddenly when we need to use our contacts. At this time, we will be a little contradictory, but the relationship generally wants to use our contacts. Do we want to help or not?

The network is the exchange of value between the two sides.

Networking is not a unilateral requirement, but a choice made by both parties under the same circumstances. The premise of helping others is that they also have value that can be used for themselves. Good friends help more naturally; But if it's just a normal friend, if I help you contact, it may bring me losses or you may not be grateful if I help you, then we should carefully consider whether the other party has the value we need when we help. Unilateral giving or taking is not the right way to open good contacts. Good contacts communicate with each other, and this should be fully considered when helping.

The network needs careful management.

I heard a story about a boy who was the chairman of a university and had good connections. When everyone pays for milk tea, he can easily get milk tea from the owner of the milk tea shop. When he needs to contact outside merchants for sponsorship, he can easily handle it. Later, when he ceased to be the chairman, not only did these conveniences disappear, but he also heard various complaints from tea shop owners and merchants. The reason why this boy is like this is because he didn't manage well while gaining contacts, but just wanted to ask for it. Then when he can no longer create value for others, his network will be broken. Network management is a long-term training process.

There must be trade-offs in interpersonal communication.

We don't have to agree to all the demands of all ordinary friends. Learn to judge first. If you think it is worth helping, you can help. You don't think it's necessary to help or insist. Never have to compromise in order to maintain the so-called friendship and consume too many contacts and energy. It's good to learn to stay away from people who are not good to you, get out of an involuntary environment and do what you think is right. If all your friends ask you to use your contacts to help, it will not only make you physically and mentally exhausted, but also likely lead to a thankless situation. Therefore, people should have their own judgments and choices.