Tell me how to raise a child who doesn’t worry over the years.

I often see reports on the Internet and on TV that some parents go to the hospital because of their children’s homework, and some friends say that their children can’t get up in the morning and are late for school because they haven’t been told the homework many times. Yes, I'm getting angry again. Thinking back to my 5th grade child, it seems that she has never worried about her homework, grades, getting up, etc. over the years.

People ask me how I did it?

I said: Let her do it by herself, I have only been an observer

1. On August 31st, the 5th grade student registered and was given a few books to bring back. The head teacher, Mr. Luo, was there. Some tasks were posted in the group, one of which was to pack the books and take them to school on September 2nd. She came over and asked me to buy them for her. I said you have your own solution. You can solve the two volumes for the fourth grade by yourself. (She got it from the teacher with good-performing stars.) You must have something to do this time. I was still a little emotional at first. I went to pick her up last night (September 3) and she said, "Mom, I got the book cover."

Let her solve some problems by herself.

2. In the second grade of elementary school, she was allowed to take the bus to school by herself. When she took the bus to school for the first time, I followed her secretly in the car to observe the safety factors, and then came back to train her on safety precautions. , and later she went to school by herself, and she would not be sad because sometimes her parents were busy and no one would take her to school;

3. Now a boarding student, she goes to school every Monday and Thursday and sets her own alarm clock to get up at 8 o'clock. Cheng wakes up at 6:20, I spend 10 minutes cooking her breakfast and then goes to sleep. She washes herself, eats breakfast, and wakes me up at 7:30 to take her to school. She basically wakes me up in the morning. School is her business, and she manages her time very well.

4. When doing housework, let her lead the division of labor, make a division of labor table, check the standards, and check the time. Everyone in the family is equal, everyone will be assigned work, and I will be the same, becoming the executor. There is no need to worry about housework anymore, the children just play games, and everyone makes the rules of the game together. In this way, her leadership skills are gradually reflected.

5. There was an assignment in the second grade of elementary school. I was too tired to check and missed a wrong question. I took it to school the next day. The teacher said she was careless, and also said her mother signed it carelessly. From now on, she would finish her homework by herself and check that it was correct before asking me to sign.

6. One time she told me, in fact, you adults don’t need to rush us to do our homework. We all have our own time, and the homework will definitely be completed.

7. Every time school starts, I sort out all the items myself. She said: I don’t trust you because I don’t know where you put them, and secondly, I don’t know if you have packed them clearly. She said Makes sense.

Let the children do it themselves! Let’s be observers ourselves!