My daughter-in-law is particularly resistant to my help with the children. What should I do?

After a family welcomes a new life, there is no doubt that the happiness of this family has increased by one point. However, in terms of child-rearing, families sometimes have conflicts.

In some families, the daughter-in-law wants her mother-in-law to help with the children, because both young people have to go to work and have no time to take care of the children. But some families are just the opposite. The mother-in-law wants to take care of the children, but the daughter-in-law won't let her. Obviously, you are the latter. Today we will talk about how to solve the problem that a daughter-in-law won't let her mother-in-law take care of her children.

In fact, there are two reasons why the daughter-in-law doesn't let her mother-in-law take care of her children: she hates her mother-in-law for not taking good care of her children and worries that her children can't grow up healthily; I am reluctant to bring my children, but I want to bring them myself. I am more worried that my children will not be "close" to myself.

Let's start with the first question, "I hate my mother-in-law's bad upbringing." As the grandmother of the child, the mother-in-law is definitely willing to do her best to take care of the child in life. However, it should be noted that the grandmother of the child takes good care of the child in life, and discipline may make the child free because of "doting".

There are many examples of daughter-in-law refusing to bring them because she is worried that her mother-in-law will spoil her children. My sister-in-law saw my parents doting on my eldest nephew and decided not to let them take it. They spoil this grandson so much that they follow him with everything. It can be said that they are "afraid to melt in their mouths". As a result, my nephew became very spoiled, rude and didn't even know what "sharing" meant. He is self-centered in everything, and his family drives others away on holidays, which also makes visitors embarrassed.

If your daughter-in-law is also afraid of this and won't let you take it, then you should take the initiative to discuss with your daughter-in-law, saying that children listen to them in education, and they are mainly responsible for eating and taking care of their children, and others will not interfere. With your guarantee, they will probably agree to let you take care of children, because it is not easy to take care of children, especially novice mothers.

Then I said the second question, "I can't bear to part with my child, but I want to bring it myself, and I am worried that my mother-in-law will grab her position." In this case, my suggestion is to respect my mother's thoughts. Children are her pet. Let her take it if she wants. Mother and son have the deepest affection.

You can visit your children more often on weekends or in your spare time. The same, you can also have a rest. At the same time, you should consciously tell your child in front of your daughter-in-law, "Mom is her closest relative", indicating that you have no intention of competing with her for children.

There is no mother-in-law who doesn't love her grandson (granddaughter), but when we express our love, we should pay more attention to ways and means, take care of our daughter-in-law's feelings, respect her daughter-in-law's parenting concept, and affirm her daughter-in-law's contribution to her children. Only in this way can a good "three generations" relationship be established.