I know other people who are very flirty. Why, I am also very flirtatious and say something to a girl.

Frivolous people are generally very arrogant, so when I meet such people, I usually chat with them according to their wishes, and I will say whatever I want to say to make them happy. I know that in fact, many people in life are generally reluctant to talk to frivolous people when they meet them, but that is not the case for me. Because I believe that any frivolous person must have some merits in him. If you don’t let him talk about everything arrogantly, then his merits will not be exposed. Think about it, everyone. Yes or no? There must be something redeeming about everyone, especially frivolous people. And his frivolity, after all, shows that at least there are aspects of him that he thinks are awesome, so why don’t we get him to talk about it and take a look? If it's not that good at all, then we just need to know in our hearts. If it does happen a little bit, then we might as well listen to what he has to say. So, just let him talk as much as he wants, right?

And let me tell you, one characteristic of a frivolous person is that once he thinks you admire him and you are interested in what he says, he will definitely tell you the whole story. Yes, this is really a pie in the world, everyone. Isn’t that good if a person is willing to reveal his own secrets to you? Why don't you listen to him? Everyone, no matter how arrogant he is, just listen to the story, right?

Throughout the whole process, you satisfy his vanity. This is actually the morality of communication. Whether you like others or dislike them, you must respect others, so that others will respect you.

If you want to deal with a frivolous person, you have to give in. You have to satisfy his vanity.

Moreover, you have to make concessions at a high level. You can’t let him feel that you really admire him. You admire him so much that you really feel that he is the emperor. You also have to make him feel, Although you are not as good as him, you still have some strength. Therefore, letting go is also a knowledge in itself, because only by letting go can you truly make friends with frivolous people. Because a frivolous person himself does not like people he thinks are weak and incompetent.

When you deal with a frivolous person, you have to figure out how much he owes you and how much you have tolerated him. Otherwise, if your tolerance becomes a habit, then you really want to make friends with him, which would be very bad. Therefore, he owes his own principles, his own mood, his own character and his own heart. He must know it in his heart and be very clear about it. The account must be settled clearly. Let me tell you, over the past seven years, I definitely know who owes me and how much I know better than they do. I have always said this: I am casual and easy-going on the surface (simple-minded people are definitely not sure at all) You can’t tell), in fact, I will remember everything clearly for you, no matter how big or small, it’s just that I never show it to frivolous people (I definitely have to show it to others), six years Always.

Cross the boundary and die in one step:

If the person on the other side is still unaware and continues his frivolity and arrogance, when the account recorded in my ledger reaches the top, it has reached the boundary. If you continue to be self-righteous and arrogant, then I'm sorry. After I give you a hard spanking, I will ignore you and cut off all emotional contact with you from now on. Unless your contribution to me in the future exceeds the amount recorded in my account book, I will continue to interact with you carefully. Otherwise, as long as the account in my account book has not been cleared (and I will not give you the slightest hint about your specific No matter how much you owe me), I will never look back. We will go our separate ways as if we have never known each other. From now on, I will treat you with a completely truthful attitude without any consideration for you. Once you cross the line, I will settle all the accounts for you at once. Nothing more, nothing less.

It must be emphasized that this process of mine is used to face frivolous people. If it were to face other friends of mine, then I would definitely still have sadness and joy written on my face, with full expression of joy and anger. Yu Se (and I am very, very into Yu Se), if you hurt me, I will let you know immediately. Because only in this way can others understand you and then help you. This process is only used by me to deal with frivolous and arrogant people. When dealing with other good brothers, of course I still show my sincerity and convince others with my honesty and sincerity. This must be made clear!

This is just my way. I know that my way is a bit extreme, and I also know that there are other softer ways, but I have been doing this for six years and I have gotten used to it! ! If I were asked to change it, I really can't completely change it to another process at the moment, but I believe I will switch to another process in the future, which will not be so extreme.

Everyone has their own way, so there is no standard answer to this first question.