How to solve the problem with husband and ex-wife?

Everyone is talking about my husband's ex-wife. Fortunately, I don't have this problem. A: I just had a quarrel with my ex-wife, and I feel very uncomfortable. She always calls us when something happens. Today, she really can't stand it. She was very angry. I'm always angry with my husband for such things. His ex-wife has been unemployed at home for two years now, and she devotes all her energy to us every day. I can't understand why some American women like to associate with their ex-husbands. My husband's ex-wife not only came to my house by herself, but also brought her third husband to my house. After divorcing her third husband, she now brings her boyfriend to my house. Sometimes I feel angry and want to scold her. B: I have the same distress, but I have been very patient and have not torn my face with her. But because of this, I always quarrel with my husband, which seriously affects our feelings. My husband's China ex-wife remarried for many years and gave birth to a child, but she still called us home. The frequency used to be once every two days or so, and it may be many times on weekends. Almost regardless of time, place and occasion, big and small shit, completely depends on her mood. I didn't tell her directly because she sometimes calls out of kindness. For example, tell us where there is a promotion, and we can consider changing banks when the bank interest rate is lowered, and which company has a cheaper electricity bill. But sometimes I just don't understand online banking, so I ask my husband what to do, ask him to help me check the map, and say that I don't know how to find the children. Although sometimes she means well, it has a little impact on my life. After all, it is my ex-wife. Nothing important. What do you always contact? But I wouldn't care too much about her frequent phone calls if there was no chat that disgusted me. Mainly because she used to call me sometimes to chat with me. I don't know if she did it on purpose, but sometimes her chat makes me sick. For example, when we talk about inheritance, we say that the child will inherit an inheritance from her father in the future. For example, she told me that her husband bought a 1500 computer for his children. I said it was useless to buy such an expensive computer for her children. She said that children are still adults. If you are stingy with your children and don't buy good things, they will hate you. I want to tell me. Who has heard that children will hate their parents if they don't buy high-end things for them? In addition, we pay real money and silver support every month. Also, I often don't buy things for my children and let them come to her father for them. I'm disgusted. She never takes her children on a trip, so she entrusts them to us. After paying so much money, you want us to bear more. There are many such things, so I have many complaints about her. She bought a new suv, saying it was for her children to go to college in the future and took the whole family to see it. Decorating the kitchen is also for children to invite classmates to get together to decorate. When she said save face for the children, she meant that every penny she spent was for the children. On the other hand, even 10 yuan's dye paste is not bought for children, so they can come here and ask for it. So, I hate her calling and chatting with her now. Chatting with her is either chatting or listening to her, because I have no chance to interrupt. This year, my husband told her that I was not happy that she kept calling, so I called home much less, twice a week. But I know she still calls her husband as before, just going to his office. I'm not that angry anyway, because I can't hear you. For a time, I was nervous when the phone rang, afraid of her. It's really annoying Sometimes, I don't think I should approach her, but she is a very warm person, and I am the kind of person who is not too embarrassed to refuse others. On Thanksgiving Day, she suggested that the whole family come to our house for the holiday, saying that my husband bought a new house and should invite them to visit. Everyone else said so, and I was too embarrassed to refuse, so I got tired and made a big table for my family. If I don't feel that she is always trying to infringe on my interests, I will put up with her phone calls. We have given everything we should, but she always wants to do this and that, without considering us at all. I am particularly disgusted. I always thought my husband was rich and capable, and she always admired him, and she still does. I have deliberately kept my distance from her since this year, hoping that she can be a little self-aware. C: 8 Let's talk about my brother-in-law and my ex-wife. It is really unacceptable to us in China. My husband's brother (36 years old) is very handsome. From the day I came to America three years ago, my mother-in-law, sister-in-law and close friends said that my husband and sister-in-law were controlling. Seeking truth from facts, this brother-in-law's wife is very kind to me, and we get along well. She is a good cook and always cooks for me. But she and her brother-in-law always quarrel. In the past three years, his brother-in-law has been kicked out of the house N times. Every time my brother-in-law lives in my mother-in-law's house for 3-6 months, every time I drive my brother-in-law out of the house, I want a divorce. My brother-in-law is handsome, so his girlfriend keeps coming after his separation, but every time his wife and three children beg to go home, they are kicked out of the house soon after they get home ... Last year, Christmas and New Year were the time for family reunion. Because my husband used to invite everyone. This time, I was puzzled by the invitation-my brother-in-law's ex-wife or his current girlfriend was invited to our home? Finally, I invited my brother-in-law's ex-wife for a simple reason: she is the mother of three children. I asked my husband, "Next Christmas, my brother-in-law got married and had children with the woman now. Who are you inviting? " My husband said, "This is a difficult problem." D: I want to talk about my husband's ex-wife. I think it's normal for a husband to have contact with his ex-wife, especially if they have children. First of all, so are children. As parents of children, whether divorced or not, it is normal to contact out of love for their children. My son lives in America with me, so I often call my ex-husband in China. Tell him about the child and often tell him to take care. Because he is the father of the child, and the child misses his father, of course, I hope he will be all right. My current husband's ex-wife also calls my husband almost every other day or two. Besides, I never feel anything wrong with talking face to face for more than ten or twenty minutes and occasionally coming to my house. After all, they have been married for 20 years and have another child. It doesn't matter to talk about children and trivial things that happen in life. You should be a good friend. And my husband's ex-wife is also very kind to me. Less than a week after I came to America, my husband and I were invited to her house (she remarried before my husband). She cooked me a lot of delicious food, and she felt very kind and friendly. Therefore, we don't need to regard our husband's ex-wife as a competitor or enemy. If we put our minds right, we will feel that everything is normal and everything is fine. E: I admire those generous JMS. I really can't do it. Don't say it's an ex-wife or a friendly female friend of her husband. If they get too close, I will get angry. My husband was married once when he was very young, and he separated and divorced in less than half a year. Fortunately, they don't have children, so they don't have to contact each other anymore. Even so, every time I look at the photos he took with others before, I wonder if that woman is his ex-wife. I know that my husband's ex-wife is my minefield, so I never ask for information about his ex-wife and try not to let him mention it, lest I feel uncomfortable. Maybe I am a possessive person. . . Regarding children, my husband and I both think that divorce between husband and wife will definitely have an impact on children. Since adults choose divorce for their later life, what we can do is to minimize this influence on our children. But it is impossible not to go. Adults should accept this reality. The children are living in my new home with my husband now. How we treat children is our own business. How the child's biological mother wants to treat the child is her business, not ours. For example, if she thinks the child needs something, she can buy it directly and give it to her. As for whether to buy it for children, it's up to us to decide. She has no right to ask. In recent years, my husband's children have slowly accepted our new home. Now we all get along well and relax. Sometimes a child will lose his temper, and I will yell at him, hehe, anyway, there is less trouble. My fly is looking for a good person to leave, but she feels that men all over the world are running around at her feet. Before, she came to see the children, and the man drove her to the airport. She asked my husband to meet her here. I have to accompany me to dinner and live in my house, saying that it is all for the children, and I cried. Remember when my husband asked me what to do? I told my husband, of course, I can't ignore it. If you ignore her, you are competing with that man over there. Who is the meanest? We can't lose this price. Hehe ~ I haven't contacted you for so many years now, and the children are fine. There is no problem at all ~ Besides, I think you are too close to your ex-wife. Tell me my opinion, I don't know if you agree. I have no contact with my ex-wife, so there is no need to consider whether she is kind or not. Everything my husband does to flies is an answer: I don't care. My fly gave me an iphone last Thanksgiving, and I gave it back to her. I just don't want to get close, because we are not like-minded, and our values are far apart. I don't want to give her a chance to point fingers in my life. Therefore, we must learn to refuse, and there is no need to talk to her directly. She doesn't care about my feelings. My husband and I ignore her, and she can slowly find her place. -ex-wife loves to associate with her ex-husband. The main psychological factor is that her former "he" is married, but she is still looking for it. So I remembered all his good things, so I either went out by myself or asked Crystal out. Advise JMS not to worry, not to argue, and tell her husband directly: I am jealous of the breakdown of your relationship. If I am not jealous in the future, it will be over between us. . . I told my LG once that he basically put an end to this kind of behavior. In the past, he would meet his former mother-in-law at the airport, repair his ex-wife's house, and so on. -this depends on the attitude of the husband, and the husband is very important! My husband's ex-wife is the best! Letters, emails and phone calls keep harassing us. The only thing is that my husband never answered, never! ! But even so, the message she left when she was in a bad mood was quite annoying. NND, these people are so cheap. There are no words "embarrassed" and "ashamed" in their dictionary. . . -It's hard to say if it's American culture. My husband never contacts his ex-wife or talks. We went to his daughter's wedding, and they didn't even say hello when they met, and they also sat at different tables while eating. I tried to get my husband to introduce me to my ex-wife. My husband said that they never talked after the divorce, and even contacted the lawyer when they divorced. Therefore, my ex-wife has never disturbed our lives. -My husband has a son who lives with him. His child's mother doesn't bother him much, but she is stingy with money. Not only did the child's mother not raise her son with a penny, but even the money returned this time went into her pocket. And she often asks her new husband to pick up the children on weekends, and she is often taken care of by her new husband alone. Really not a good mother. His son has a temper himself. Although I am waiting for my visa, I haven't really lived with them yet. But after hearing this, my future life will be a little challenging for me. What's more, I've never been a mother myself, and I really hope I won't be disturbed ~-the question about my husband's ex-wife depends on the specific situation. If the ex-wife is a well-raised person and only associates with her ex-husband in terms of children's education, I think JMS will not only understand her, but also be friendly at a distance. On the contrary, if the other person is a shameless person, in order to take advantage of himself, he always cares about the money in his ex-husband's pocket, pesters him repeatedly, borrows tens of thousands of dollars from his ex-husband on the grounds of doing business, and finally refuses to pay back the money on the grounds that his business is idle. This glistening money is hard earned, and it is not a taste for anyone. Of course, there are some good women in America, and we will be lucky to treat them. When you meet something bad, you can only stay away. I think the emergence of this kind of woman in America is closely related to this big environment in America, with full legal protection and tolerance for men. That's the husband's business, it all depends on his attitude. It takes two to make a quarrel, so don't always blame your ex-wife. Just take care of your husband and prescribe the right medicine. Be reasonable, just be reasonable. People's hearts are all meat, so do your own thing. Some people can take good care of themselves and are not worth being angry with. Quarrel. An occasional devastating tornado is enough. Hehe, it's not good to quarrel often, which hurts feelings. I wish I had time to study and work. Whether at home or abroad, the original match is still different, especially with children. The number of years in the same bed is longer than it is now. In short, look at your husband's attitude and be yourself. Live happily every day, I believe tomorrow will be better than today! ! ! Finally, I want to say: do as the Romans do. Anger is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes.