What is effective love?

What is effective love like? In fact, we will encounter all kinds of problems in our feelings and love. If we love each other, we must take action. After all, love is not just talk. So what is effective love? Take a look with me.

What is effective love? 1 1, anxiety and depression VS happiness and excitement.

One of the most important signs of invalid love is unhappiness. In this love, quarrels often occur or the other party is cold and distant. In short, your overall feeling with him is that there is more pain, anxiety and depression than happiness, so this love is invalid, and the homophonic stalk speaks for itself. Of course, love without a smile is "invalid".

If you only pursue anxiety, depression and insecurity, then why do you want to fall in love? You talk about work. Although it is painful, you can make progress and improve your ability.

Being with him is very happy, nourished by love, and you can also feel positive pleasure, like wearing a pair of rose glasses and feeling the beauty and romance of life. This is an effective love.

In fact, love does not need rational analysis anytime and anywhere.

People's feelings reach your brain before cognition. No one knows better than you whether you can feel happiness.

Love itself can make people secrete dopamine and feel happy. If the surge of dopamine does not inhibit your unhappiness, it will even make you more anxious than before.

So what do you want? Figure "What a painful realization"?

2, perfunctory superficial VS deep integration

In this era, it is actually very simple to find someone to accompany you. There are too many lonely people.

But why are more and more people single? Because we can't deceive ourselves. What we want is companionship and communication, not just superficial "have you eaten?" Are you asleep yet? What are you doing? " We are also eager to be perceived and understood, even soul collision.

Effective love involves in-depth communication at the spiritual level. Even though we don't always share the same views and similar ideas, we are willing to communicate with each other and get to know each other better.

If your partner doesn't have any output of values, ideas and attitudes, and doesn't want to know more about your life, it's better to talk to him in this "invalid love" than to find Siri to make him happy.

3. "I am terrible" VS "I deserve to be loved"

If you stay with someone and always feel that you are in the dust, this relationship is not only ineffective, but also dangerous.

Even if a good love can't make you grow up, it will at least make you feel worthy of respect, value and love when you are in love.

"Being a better self" is not the goal of love, but a personal lesson. But when you feel that you are getting worse because of a love relationship, you can only prove that you have no problem by breaking up. This is the other person's problem.

Although it seems a bit utilitarian to divide love by "ineffectiveness" and "effectiveness", high-quality love is really effective, not a material function, but a spiritual nourishment and pleasure.

What is effective love?

In an effective relationship, you can inspire a person's greatest charm and beauty, while in an ineffective relationship, you will only expose your dark side endlessly.

In an effective relationship, you will become a trustworthy person, you will see the bright spots in each other, and you will slowly make yourself shine. His personality, advantages, temperament and attitude can make you more perfect.

In an effective relationship, you will become fond of laughing and won't waste a lot of emotions and time. In unnecessary disputes, you face problems together instead of blaming and hating each other.

In an effective relationship, you will look good. You care about each other's physical and mental health and keep each other in good condition. You don't have to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and you won't let yourself fall into anxiety.

In an effective relationship, you will be more motivated and disciplined. You two have the same goal, for a better life, instead of burying each other's blood and becoming a burden to each other.

In an effective relationship, you love each other because of love, you are really together, and you are close to each other because of your heart, instead of forcibly binding yourself and getting into some kind of trouble.

Strive to make each other better and encourage each other to make progress in spirit, so that feelings can stand firm and become complete love.

Gao said in the program: "Good feelings mean that we become better ourselves."

Each has become a better self, that is the best relationship, whether it is a period or a lifetime, that is, two free souls fall in love.

The best love is not who is subordinate to whom, and who gives up how much for whom, but because of the existence of love, both sides become better, and it is really important to choose the right lover.

What is effective love? 2 1. Let the other person see your true nature and feel your love.

In love, you don't need to hide your feelings. If you like each other very much, tell them boldly. Although it is not the stage of confession, who will refuse to show love from others? When you miss him, you can naturally tell him that I really miss you and want to see you.

The other person can definitely feel your true feelings. Don't feel sick. It will easily warm up your love and bring you closer.

Of course, love is more than just talking with your mouth. When you are in love, if you think something can make both sides happy, then do it and give a gift. Pick him/her up from work, ask the other person out to play, etc. As long as you want to do it, do it bravely.

3. gain each other's trust and make them loyal to you.

In the relationship between two people, mutual trust is really a very rare thing, so loyalty is even more precious. Most people don't tell their plans when they are emotionally unstable.

But when the person you meet thinks that he will be your other half in the future, and you really hope that the other person will recognize you and strongly want to marry him/her, you'd better tell him/her what you want and let him/her know that you are in your plan, and you have various plans in your future plan. If you can do this, I can say that the other party will be very moved and think you are a reliable person.

At the same time, my trust in you will increase and I will be loyal to you. (Look at the preconditions. )

For the person you like, please take the initiative.

Many people think that in love, the active person must be a boy. Actually, it is not. I tell you from the experience of people I have experienced that in life, if a woman takes the initiative, it is easier to get the feelings she wants! As long as that person is the one you like, you should take the initiative.

Even if the other person doesn't notice you at first, he will definitely look at you after a long time. (Of course, girls are not only required here. The same applies to boys)

In fact, in terms of feelings, if you take the initiative to fight boldly, you will generally gain something, because few people can resist the active and enthusiastic pursuit of others. I have seen some interviews before: many married people said that they didn't like his/her other half at first, but finally they couldn't resist each other's active pursuit, fell in love with each other and got married later.

Haha, after seeing the ending, many people suddenly understood.