Filter what people around you say.

With the growth of age, tastes may become wider and wider, but fewer and fewer people associate with them, which is correct.

There is a saying that "simplify the complex, simplify the complex".

The key word of the topic is "Simplify the complexity". Although there are only four words, it tells the essence of interpersonal communication.

Let's talk about "shallow communication" first. The development of interpersonal relationship is from strangeness to intimacy, from intimacy to alienation, and from alienation to the end of the relationship. Social infiltration is a social psychological theory that specializes in this development process.

In his view, the process of relationship development is a transition from superficial communication in a narrow range to close communication in a wide range, which is manifested as infiltration development. The depth of friendship depends on the stage of development.

"Shallow knowledge" means that the two are still in a narrow range and have superficial communication.

Say "deep words"

You must be familiar with a concept: self-disclosure. Refers to the process of intentionally revealing information related to oneself, which is usually important and unknown. The depth of speech is actually the degree of self-disclosure.

We can measure the degree of self-disclosure from the two dimensions of breadth and depth.

Breadth refers to the breadth of voluntary information, that is, the topic scope of discussion. For example, you and your colleagues start talking about personal life outside of work by discussing only work-related topics.

Depth refers to the depth of voluntary information. Talk about depth and see the privacy of information. For example, in addition to talking about their studies, girls begin to discuss their favorite seniors; Second, see if it has special significance to another person.

"I love you" is more profound than "I love my family", "I love you and I want to marry you at once" is more profound than the single "I love you".

"Deep words" means that the topics of communication span a large span and are frank and in-depth with each other.