There are always two sides to everything

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I saw a video on Douyin a few days ago. The content is: She has a good mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law loves her very much. She not only helps take care of her two children, but also He didn't even let her do it, and he even gave her no less than 50,000 yuan a year and treated her like a daughter.

When I saw this, I was not only amazed, but there were very few good mothers-in-law like the ones above. Many women encounter mothers-in-law who are not so lucky. We say that meeting a good husband is not as good as meeting a good mother-in-law, but meeting a good aunt is also very important.

It is also said that the mother-in-law treats her as an outsider, the younger sister-in-law is overbearing, not only stirs up troubles but also respects each other, and the mother-in-law treats her daughter and daughter-in-law in the same way.

Since ancient times in China, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been very complicated and prone to imbalance. There are many issues that need to be paid attention to. In a family, once the relationship is not harmonious, the family will not be harmonious.

I am a sister-in-law. Regarding the relationship between mother and daughter-in-law, I only have a personal opinion and conclusion: always say good things to your brother’s daughter-in-law in front of your mother, let your mother treat your daughter-in-law as a daughter, and let your brother treat your daughter-in-law like a daughter. Treat your wife well.

My sister-in-law, who married my younger brother when she was a teenager, does not care about wealth or family, but only wants to contribute to this family. My sister-in-law is a very kind person and treats her mother and father more caringly than we do. Some time ago, my mother's wheelchair was about to break down. She spent 3,000 to buy a new electric wheelchair without saying a word. Even I felt that my mother was so lucky to have such a good wife.

As a sister-in-law, I kept telling my mother how good my sister-in-law is, and how filial she is compared to us. Of course, in the hearts of mother and father, she has long been treated as their own child. The mother said: Yes, I can't move and can't do anything for her. When she comes to our house, she becomes a member of our family, just like her own child.

I am also someone else’s daughter-in-law, and I am also a daughter raised by my parents for decades. As a woman, I feel the same way!

Among family members, it is important for men to have a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and a peaceful and harmonious family. It also plays an important supporting role for some brothers and sisters. For example, a little sister like me.

I heard from my mother a few days ago that her aunt encouraged her daughter to quarrel with several of her aunts. The reason was that after grandpa and grandma fell ill, several daughters and sons took turns taking care of them. This time it was her aunts' turn to take care of her, and they still stayed at her house. After hearing this, your first reaction must be that the wife here is so vicious and the granddaughter is so ignorant. I won’t talk about the aspect of filial piety, but just talk about things. In fact, in my opinion, everything has two sides, and you can’t just look at one side.

My aunts, also known as her aunts, are relatively strong-willed, and I really dislike their style. When my grandma and grandpa were healthy, whenever my aunt and uncle quarreled over trivial family matters, my sisters would accuse their younger brother of being incompetent, ask him to divorce him, marry another man, and beat his wife. Whatever my mother-in-law does for her daughter-in-law, she always gets dissatisfied and criticized by her daughter-in-law. He has never said a kind word to his sister-in-law. Every time he mentions it, it is always wrong. This is not good, that is not good.

I don’t know what they think as women, and I don’t know how you, as women, feel about being wives in other people’s homes.

Everything has its other side. I believe that human nature is kind. If things start from the perspective of a few sisters, they consider it from the perspective of their sister-in-law. If you know how to respect the other person instead of blindly belittling and oppressing her, maybe there will be no vicious daughter-in-law and ignorant granddaughter today.

In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the first is the divergence of interests, the second is the imbalance of intermediaries, and the third is mutual acceptance.

Why did it fail? There are certain hidden dangers and reasons!