My son doesn't like chasing girls. What if he is 30 years old and has no girlfriend?

Parents all over the world are heartbroken about their children's marriage. But this wedding is ultimately up to you. So even if I'm worried about becoming a parent, I'm worried. But in most cases, because of this kind of thing, each other will feel unhappy. Despite this, parents will continue to "worry". This may be "the heart of poor parents in the world." Anyway, I hope members of a family can live in harmony. Don't embarrass your children because of their marriage. Parents who are unhappy with their children's marriage have good intentions, but they are not good at communicating with their children.

For example, there are "leftover women" or "leftover women" at home. As parents, that kind of anxiety can't be expressed in words. On weekdays, I will also receive complaints from readers in this regard. Although the specific situation of each family is different, when you think about it, many of them have the same points. Moreover, if we master these similarities, we may be able to alleviate many contradictions. The reader's menstruating son is 30 years old this year, and she and her husband don't know how to get along with him. Let's look at her specific situation first. "My son is 30 years old and has no girlfriend. What can I do as a parent? "

Hello, teacher: Your article about how parents should get along with the daughters of "older women" is actually the same in my family. The difference is that my family is a "leftover man". When I told my son that he was a "leftover man", he was very angry and always contradicted me. My husband said to me, "You are 30 years old, and the conditions are OK. Why don't you get married earlier? " Let me talk about my son's specific situation first. He is now a department head in a company, with a monthly salary of 9 thousand, and the house has been bought. This is the first money we paid, and he is paying his own salary. Not long ago, he bought a car himself. Besides, he's not bad. It's not that Grandma Wang sells cucumbers to brag, but that her son is really not bad.

On the whole, I feel that I am my son and should find a good partner according to his conditions. But now he doesn't even have a girlfriend. The last time I fell in love was three years ago. At that time, the girl's family did not agree, and there was nothing we could do. My husband and I have been dating our son for several years. He will go if he is happy, or not if he is unhappy. Sometimes we dare not say too hard, for fear that he will not date anyone in the future. But after so many blind dates, I still haven't met the right one. I asked my son what was going on. It seems that fate has not befallen my son. The indifference on his face broke my heart.

This is basically the specific situation of my family. I don't know how to get along with him now. What can my husband and I do to help him solve his personal problems? "My son is 30 years old and has no girlfriend. What can I do as a parent? " As parents of older women, how to get along with their sons? After reading this lady's complaint, I just want to get the answer to this question. However, there is no absolute answer to this question. To be honest, in this case, the specific situation of each family is different. In addition, the situation has been changing. We can only grasp and do things from a big principle.

For a man, it's really awkward not to have a girlfriend at the age of 30. Especially those men with good conditions. This situation will definitely make parents anxious. The situation of this lady is like this. So, in some ways, I understand my mother's feelings. So what exactly should we do? First, learn to communicate with your son. Some people might say. "Who can't communicate with this?" This sentence is true, but why doesn't it work in most cases? This is where we need to reflect.

I want to say that "communication" is to become a parent and let him think from the perspective of his son. When communicating with him from his perspective, do it from his perspective, and you will get the "truth" of your son. Parents need to let go of their status as "parents" and try to communicate with their sons from the perspective of "friends". Maybe it works better this way. In short, parents should change the way of communication with their sons according to the specific situation. In this way, we can better understand what our son is thinking.

Second, learn to let go and relax.

How to understand it? Simply put, parents should understand this truth from their own perspective. Even if he is your son, he has his own life. Parents also have no right to interfere too much. Frankly speaking, from the perspective of his son's life, becoming a parent is just a "bystander". Each of us decides our own life. So, according to this understanding. Parents should know this truth when dealing with this embarrassing situation. Yes, some parents force their sons to have blind dates. If you don't agree, other contradictions will arise. This is obviously not good.

In fact, I personally think that as a parent, I want to help. But emotional problems are more often just "love" that we can't help. Anyway, when my son grows up, he has his own life and the lifestyle he wants. As a parent, just try my best to help you. Encountering a bad situation makes my son feel disgusted. As parents, we should think more about how to change our strategy. "My son is 30 years old and has no girlfriend. What can I do as a parent? " The last sentence:

"My son is 30 years old and has no girlfriend. What can I do as a parent? " In this case, to be honest, we can only work hard from two aspects. One is to know how to reflect from your own point of view. Don't think you are a parent, your son should listen to himself. Forget it. The second is to be flexible and understand the importance of communication. Generally speaking, we ask to learn "empathy". Understanding from the son's point of view can help his son better.

But marriage is one of the most important events in life. Do as you say. How everyone should follow the path of life is our own will. Therefore, parents should understand this truth. Anyway, even if his son is an elderly redundant man. Don't worry too much, they have their own ideas when they grow up. Just do what parents can do. Of course, you need to be reminded often.