Dissatisfied housewife

Yesterday, my husband's little boy came to the house for a drink and talked about trivial matters at home while drinking. After three rounds of drinking, the man in his late forties actually burst into tears at his desk.

I am surprised that this man's family has always been the mother's kindness and filial piety, the husband and wife's love, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are harmonious in our eyes!

Through the man's intermittent narration, I gradually understood the contradiction between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that I didn't know before.

Now I tell you about his family. I use the first person for convenience of expression.

My heart is bitter!

My mother had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage six months ago. I was rescued in ICU for a few days, but I was bedridden and couldn't take care of myself.

It's been half a year now. I can't go to work. I can only take care of my mother at home every day. I want my daughter-in-law to accompany me to wait on my mother, share my hard work and comfort my mother's heart, but she not only refused, but also dug up old scores from many years ago with me.

I was introduced to my wife more than ten years ago. At that time, she was pure and kind, without any intention. She doesn't know how to get married like others. She wants buildings in the city and high-priced bride price. She said as long as I was nice to her. My mother is also very satisfied with her.

Later, when I was going to get married and buy furniture, my mother was afraid that my wife would choose too expensive furniture, so she bought furniture with me privately without asking her advice.

Because of the furniture, my wife said that I ignored her and broke up with me in tears. My mother and I were both coaxed back. My mother repeatedly promised that she would be treated as a daughter after marriage.

After getting married, my mother was afraid that my wife would spend money indiscriminately, and asked me to deposit my wife's bride price money, dowry money and wedding gift money in the bank, and then put the deposit slip in my mother's place for safekeeping. Although my wife was very reluctant, she finally agreed.

Not only that, my mother also asked us to give 500 yuan living expenses every month. To tell the truth, there are not many people with 500 yuan, but my monthly salary is less than 1500. My wife spent a lot of money before marriage, and now our pocket money is only eight or nine hundred yuan a month. As the saying goes, frugality is easy, but frugality is difficult. I know she didn't adapt. But I think my mother did the right thing. Her habit of spending money should be changed. After all, my money didn't fall from the sky. I know that sometimes she doesn't have enough money, so she goes back to her parents' house to give my mother money for living expenses. I just ignored it.

A few months later, my wife was pregnant, and my mother was very happy, taking care of my wife in every possible way and loving her in every possible way. Every day, she cooks good food for my wife in different ways. My wife had a good time during her pregnancy. It seems that all the previous unhappiness has been swept away.

However, the good times did not last long. After the son was born, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had differences on the issue of taking care of the children. My wife always wants to buy things for her children and spend money indiscriminately, while my mother is frugal in everything. For this matter, I firmly stood on my mother's side and talked to my wife about various reasons. Finally my wife gave in.

When my son was eight or nine months old, my wife was pregnant again. Fatigue, lethargy, vomiting, a series of pregnancy reactions followed. But my mother's attitude is very different from that when she was pregnant with her son. The wife not only doesn't get preferential treatment, but also mops the floor and washes clothes for her son every day. My mother also urges her to abort the baby every day. My mother thinks it's enough for her to have a grandson and doesn't care about this unexpected little life.

I took half a day off to accompany my wife to the hospital for abortion. Unexpectedly, there were so many tests before abortion: color Doppler ultrasound, electrocardiogram, blood test, urine test ... After a wave of surgery, it was getting late, and the doctor suggested doing it the next day.

When I got home, my mother was very unhappy to learn that the operation was not finished. She suggested that my wife go by herself tomorrow, so I wouldn't have to go, so as not to delay my work.

Although my wife didn't say anything, I could see that her face was ugly. I didn't listen to my mother and went with my wife the next day.

The day after my wife miscarried, I came home from work and saw my wife washing clothes with cold water in the yard as usual, and my mother was holding her son in the house. My wife gave me a look and didn't greet me happily as usual. Her eyes are red and swollen, as if she had just cried for a long time. I accosted her and she ignored me.

Unexpectedly, for several days in a row, my wife was always moping and didn't say a word to me. Sometimes when I get up at night, I always see my wife crying and falling asleep.

A few days later, my wife asked me: Do you know that women should take good care of their health after abortion? The most taboo is cold water! Otherwise, it will leave a lifelong root.

She also said that she had been washing clothes and mopping the floor with cold water since the second day of the operation, and neither my mother nor I wanted to help her share some. My wife said she would divorce me if she didn't have a son. She hates it, and I hate this family!

When my son was one year old, I still gave my mother living expenses in the form of 500 yuan every month. The economic pressure was too great, and my wife decided to go out to work to earn money.

One day after my wife worked for two months, her hand suddenly hurt. You can't eat with chopsticks, and you can't sleep at night.

Only after going to the hospital for examination did I know that my wife had the so-called immortal cancer-rheumatoid arthritis. Need to take medicine for life.

When I came back from the hospital, my wife sneered at me and said, "Look at what I said. The retribution of abortion has come. Even if I can't take care of myself in the future, you must serve me all my life, because you owe me this. "

I'm speechless. ...

When my son was two years old, we decided to buy a second-hand house in the city for his future schooling. Although the house price was not so high at that time, it was still very difficult for our family to buy a house.

At that time, I was optimistic about the house180 thousand. My mother said that she had100000, and it happened that my wife and I had 80000 savings. My mother asked us to take out all our savings to buy a house. Later, my wife told me that we only have 80 thousand deposits, and my mother's money for buying a house is 80 thousand What a coincidence!

My mother and wife are very happy, and finally they will take root in the city, although it is in the bag.

But the night before the house transaction, there was a house war in my house!

Having dinner that night, because we were going to buy a new house, our family ate, talked and laughed, and had a good time.

Suddenly, my mother said: Xiao Lin, when you write your name on the real estate license tomorrow, you will say "I give up!" " "

To be honest, I didn't expect my mother to say such a thing.

I saw the smile on my wife's face disappear instantly. ...

My wife asked my mother: Why?

My mother: The people in the real estate transaction hall say that whoever has more money has the final say. I just want to write my son's name in this house!

My wife cried, and she quarreled with my mother in tears. She cried and said, we can't hear a lot of words clearly, but her grievances are obvious!

My mother showed no weakness: I can't write your name, what can you do!

The wife's tone is firm: then divorce!

My mother: Would you like to?

Wife: Do you think I am willing to give up?

I didn't expect my wife, who has always been easy to talk to, not to give in at all on this matter. In order to avoid excessive intensification of contradictions, I stood on my wife's side for the first time and helped her persuade my mother!

Finally, my mother acquiesced.

My mother often educates my son after buying a house. Grandma bought him a house near the school for his school, not to mention that my wife and I also paid nearly half of the money.

Now that my son is old and sensible, I sometimes thank my grandmother for buying him a house to go to school. For these wives, I don't explain too much to the children. I know she doesn't want her children to get involved in adult conflicts.

My mother and my wife are both face-saving people, and they don't want to be seen by outsiders at home, so they will pretend to be very harmonious in front of relatives and neighbors.

The apparent calm does not mean that my wife has no resentment in her heart. My wife said that she put up with it again and again for the sake of the children and the image of this family in the eyes of outsiders.

My wife thinks that I have been married to her for more than ten years, and she has never been integrated into my family. In the eyes of my mother, she has always been an outsider.

My wife said that the time when she had an abortion was the most difficult time in her life. My mother not only refused to lend a helping hand, but also added fuel to the fire. She will remember it all her life. When one day, my mother is old and needs her, she will stand by and watch.

What I didn't expect was that my mother fell ill so soon. What I didn't expect was that my wife really kept her word. I haven't been to my mother's house once in half a year, and I don't care about my mother's illness.

I have no income for half a year now, and my mother's savings are almost spent. My wife won't let me buy medicine for my mother with family money, and she won't give me the money she earns. I'm really going to collapse!

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Finally, the man said the ultimate goal. I've always been close to his Kobayashi and want me to help persuade Kobayashi.

As the saying goes, if you don't eat people, you won't suffer, and you won't persuade people to be good.

I really want to be a peacemaker, but I don't know how to talk to a man's wife.

I wanted to reject a man directly, but I didn't say anything when I saw this five-foot-long man crying like a child in front of me.

Universal Jane friends, tell me, what should I do?