After the ancients got married, why did the bride have to "return home in three days"?

China has a very long history. Over a long period of time, the Chinese people have formed their own unique traditional culture. Most of these cultures cannot be seen in other countries in the world. It is one of social ideologies and a cultural heritage. Wedding customs and etiquette are also one of them. From TV dramas and some newlyweds around us, we can see that there is a custom that the bride will take her husband back to her natal home on the third day of her wedding. Why is this?

First of all, let’s talk about Huimen. Huimen can also be called Guining, which refers to the first return to one’s parents’ home after getting married. This is the first time that a newlywed couple actually spends time as a pair. Generally speaking, it lasts three days, but in some areas it takes two days, such as in many places in Hunan. The etiquette of returning home is also very important. When the groom meets his parents-in-law, he must call him parents. This is the real ending of the wedding. It also allows the bride's parents to see that they have a happy marriage, and the parents-in-law's house has to host a banquet to entertain them, and some even make trouble with the son-in-law.

This is a very important etiquette, especially the elderly, so the groom must be prepared. Both the door-returning ceremony and the door-returning ceremony must be selected according to different places. It is best to have some meaning, such as the living rooster, which means good luck and good luck. There are also meats and the like, more often oranges, apples and the like, the styles are variable. It should be noted that the door-returning gift cannot be an odd number, but must be an even number, which represents the couple's good union for a hundred years, and odd numbers are unlucky.

When I came back for the first time, I had to stay at the woman’s house for a few days. During the first Spring Festival, I had to come again to pay New Year’s greetings on the second day of the lunar new year. The significance of the homecoming banquet is that the daughter will not forget the nurturing grace of her parents, the son-in-law will thank his parents-in-law, and the newlyweds will be loving and beautiful. In southwestern Shandong and surrounding areas, there is also the custom of noodle-making ceremony, which is also an important part. It is said that one of the dowries Wang Zhaojun asked for when he left the fortress was the door curtain. On the wedding day, the bride's brother will hang the curtain, usually red, on the door of the new house.

The groom’s family will give the red envelope to the bride’s younger brother, and the younger brother must tell his parents the money in the red envelope. This is related to the noodle gift. The noodle-stirring ceremony is that at the homecoming banquet, the father-in-law brings a bowl of noodles to the groom. The groom only uses chopsticks to stir the noodles and cannot eat them no matter how much the father-in-law persuades him. At this time, the father-in-law will go away and take the red envelope. The groom does not need to eat it. At this time, the father-in-law will take another red envelope, which will be doubled. Until the new son-in-law is satisfied and starts eating noodles. Of course, this custom is less common now.

In fact, going back this time has three main meanings. One is that it means a happy couple. The other is to ease the bride's psychology. She has just gotten married, and it is psychologically and physically unacceptable for her not to be married. Returning home can ease the situation. During this period, if the couple has any conflicts, the maternal family can also help to resolve them. Moreover, parents will also teach some things to their daughters. I have to say that the ancients were thoughtful.

The third step is to let the groom get acquainted with the bride’s family. This meeting not only deepens the understanding, but also connects the relationship. It also lays the foundation for future exchanges. Of course, with the development of the times, people's ideas are updated and advanced. Many things are familiar to each other before marriage. Apart from the sense of ceremony, there is not much difference in the new wedding. Therefore, without any great effort, these customs are gradually disappearing.