My wife's cooking doesn't suit me. Tell me about it.

I met my "competitive" mother-in-law, my "stubborn" daughter-in-law, my mother-in-law, and the lives of three women! It must have been hard for you.

At present, the best way is: you should be impartial and be the "mediator" between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! Without one-sided personal feelings, a family can live a harmonious and civilized life for a long time.

I suggest you handle it like this:

1. To my mother: Understand my mother's difficulties and help her make progress.

You said, "My mother happily came from her hometown a few months ago to take care of her daughter-in-law and grandson", "I cook soup for her every day" and "My mother also buys a lot of fruits that my wife likes to eat every day" ... it is still difficult enough. It shows that the mother-in-law loves her daughter-in-law very much. Just because of the disparity between different cultural backgrounds and living environments, "I rarely come out, I haven't seen much, and I won't play tricks" ... so it's hard to be a mother-in-law. A son must first understand his mother's difficulties and affirm her love for her daughter-in-law.

-at the same time, you should fully affirm what your mother has done well and let her know what to do; We should discover and praise our mother's advantages and induce her to make progress. Talk to your mother quietly once. Let the mother know what she has done right and which habits should be corrected ... the mother will listen to her son.

-Take your mother shopping in your spare time, watch TV short films, or watch other mother-in-law take care of children ... broaden your horizons, and your mother-in-law will learn to set an example ... In this way, use your civilized habits to gradually influence your mother, help her get rid of old ideas and improve her own quality.

2. For the daughter-in-law: guide empathy and guide her to be more tolerant and understanding of her mother-in-law.

Negotiate respect and be kind to your mother-in-law: the soup made by your mother-in-law is not in line with your daughter-in-law's "appetite": a smart daughter-in-law can directly tell her mother-in-law how to improve it next time, and the problem will be solved. Using the method of "ignoring anyone when angry", my mother-in-law "really doesn't know what to do" and even "treats my mother's dishes as yellow as pig food", which is even more wrong ... The daughter-in-law still can't eat the right food, and the daughter-in-law suffers.

-heart for heart, love for love: we should guide our daughter-in-law to see her mother-in-law's strengths and understand her mother-in-law's concern for her. At the same time, don't forget: Is your mother-in-law a "nanny"? She is willing to take the initiative to help herself solve difficulties. She should respect her living habits and tolerate her shortcomings.

Empathy: it is fate that people who are not related by blood can come together. Some things, it doesn't matter who is right or wrong, but it's true that you can live in harmony for a lifetime. So, from each other's point of view, think about what would happen if I were my mother-in-law. ...

To be a good mediator between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires full patience, love and confidence. I believe you are a filial son and a successful husband ... I wish you success!