Please combine your own life experience and talk about the enlightenment given to you by bystanders.

Some people say: "the authorities are fascinated, and the onlookers are clear." So trust others and let them decide for themselves. Some people say, "Only you know yourself best." So I closed my eyes and got deeper and deeper in the quagmire of mistakes. Believe in yourself and listen to other people's opinions, seemingly contradictory sides, but there is a unified side, just like our left arm and right arm, are indispensable. In today's fierce competition, we should trust ourselves and others.

Believing in yourself is a full affirmation of yourself and an approval of your ability. A person who doesn't even believe in himself, who can he trust? When you have a clear and rational understanding, you should "go your own way and let others talk." Chen Zhonghe, head coach of China women's volleyball team, was under great pressure and had a heavy task. Many people advised him to be "safe". However, he pushed his way through the crowd, believed in himself, used new generals such as Feng Kun, and finally reorganized successfully, regaining the trophy he lost in 17. Who will win the gold medal if he takes other people's advice? It was at the critical moment that Chen Zhonghe believed in himself and made impressive achievements. So be confident and believe that you are the best.

However, there is a limit to everything, and it is not enough just to believe in yourself. Sometimes we have to trust others and be good at listening to their opinions. Because of the complexity and variability of objective things, we often hesitate and make up our minds when faced with many choices. At this time, it is more objective and true to let others observe and evaluate from multiple angles. At this time, you might as well listen to other people's opinions and don't go your own way. It is also because of the limitations of self. "Even wise people sometimes nod their heads." No one can guarantee that he is perfect. Many times, our eyes are limited to a narrow range. At this time, confidence alone is not enough. We must listen to others' opinions and learn from others' experiences and lessons in order to overcome many difficulties better. Being good at listening to others' opinions is very beneficial to the success of your career. Emperor Taizong accepted the advice of Wei Zhi and others and was enlightened and prosperous; Zhu Yuanzhang accepted Zhu Sheng's suggestion of "building high walls and accumulating grain", which made him an emperor. On the contrary, sticking to one's own opinions is doomed to failure. Ma Su thought he was "familiar with the art of war" and rejected Wang Ping's suggestion of "entering the village by the right way" and "stationing troops on the mountain", which led to the loss of the street pavilion and his own death. All this is the result of stubbornness.

Of course, being good at listening to others' opinions does not mean listening to others' suggestions, let alone giving up self-confidence and listening to others' suggestions. Other people's opinions are sometimes good and sometimes bad. We can neither completely deny them nor completely affirm them. It is wise to take the essence and discard the dross.

Mediocrity, trust others, doubt yourself; Fool, believe in yourself and exclude others; A wise man believes in himself and others. Each of us should do it, unite to "believe in ourselves and others" and let them cooperate and complement each other, so that we can have a wonderful life.