Who stays at home for a long time like me for the New Year and has trouble with her in-laws?

During the Spring Festival this year, many jingles appeared on the Internet:

For example:

I woke up the day before yesterday, five days left in my holiday/I woke up the day before yesterday, seven days left in my holiday/I woke up yesterday, and twelve days left in my holiday/I dare not sleep now ... [covering my face]

For example:

The first part: take a nap, sleep in the afternoon and sleep at night.

Bottom line: Sleep today, sleep tomorrow and sleep the day after tomorrow.

Horizontal criticism: sleeping for the country

For example:

Everyone finally lived the dream day → Adults don't have to go to work → Children don't have to go to school → Eat if they want → Sleep if they want 【 Cover your face 】

Are most of them related to eating and sleeping? I seem to have contributed to my country without eating or sleeping at home or going out all night!

But but but but I just ate and slept for a few days and then I got into trouble with my in-laws!

Here's the thing.

At 6 o'clock on the fourth day, my husband and I were discussing who would cook. My father-in-law came out, looked around in the kitchen with a black face and found that we hadn't cooked yet. He added water to the pot and said, will you still eat? Still not cooking? My mother-in-law is answering the phone outside. I have put up with you for a long time! I'll panic if I don't say it! I just want to take a breath today!

As soon as my husband heard the wrong thing, he quickly said that he would eat it and do it immediately. If you are not hungry after eating late at noon, do it later today.

Mother-in-law said that it's not just you who cook badly these days. You sleep late and don't get up on weekends. I look too busy to travel. I check my mobile phone as soon as I come back every day. I didn't do the housework at all, and I didn't sweep or drag the floor. Rest at home on weekends and always miss breakfast when you go shopping in the morning. We didn't cook on time in the morning and ate late at noon and evening. We are hungry, so we have to put up with eating steamed bread. Three meals a day is like hanging a turtle. Now we can still move. Are you going to starve us to death when we can't move?

The husband said, Mom, how can you say that? We'll just stay at home for a few days and then have dinner together. Usually this is a busy week. She has to take care of the children at night and always has a bad rest. I want to sleep a little longer on weekend mornings. It is normal to get up late and eat late. Isn't that what young people do? If you are hungry, eat something first!

My father-in-law said, what do you think this is? Now we can still move. Do this to us. . Look what we usually do to you. You usually go to work in the morning and pick up the children after noon 1 1, deliver them at two o'clock and pick them up at six o'clock in the afternoon. I am busy with you every day. But I've been preparing your dinner since after five o'clock, thinking about what to buy and cook every day. By the end of the week, you have cooked. When have we ever had a timely meal? Moreover, the cooked rice is never soft, but hard and impossible to eat. Every time I finish eating, my stomach feels uncomfortable. . .

Husband said that eating rice is hard because children like to eat hard. Usually you cook for the children at home. She just cooks a meal for the children on weekends. If you don't like it, you can order some noodles yourself

My mother-in-law says you are a baiwenhang. I usually cook soft rice, but your son doesn't like it. Just like eating jiaozi yesterday. It's noon, and you haven't cooked yet. After jiaozi, you all said you wouldn't eat. It's only been two hours. What do you mean you're going to jiaozi, jiaozi? How do a family eat two meals? Go out and ask, who is as kind to you as we are? For more than ten years, I have been buying food and cooking for you every day, taking care of children, bringing up the big ones and bringing up the small ones. I won't eat you or drink you. Have you bought us thread for so many years? I have told your father that we should go back to our hometown and not be a nanny here. We spend 1000 yuan a month to buy food here. In our hometown, a few hundred dollars is enough. We have to be cows, horses and grandchildren here until now. .

There should be other grievances, but this should be the main one, because they say forget it and it's not worth talking about. Stop talking.

My head suddenly got bigger. I always thought I was tolerating them, but I didn't expect them to tolerate me.

They quarreled because they called their husband's name, but the actual goal was me next to them (my husband usually doesn't eat at home every day when he comes back at night, and he is not at home on weekends, so he never does housework, let alone cook, and occasionally washes dishes passively). At first, I refrained from talking because my husband was defending me. I don't want to go to war with them directly. But I also heard it. It's not that they can't cook, but that they don't want to cook. They are waiting for me to do it for them.

I answered the phone. Because my husband doesn't know much about the actual situation, he is not good at this kind of mediation. I'll start from the beginning. I said you can do it yourself when I cook late on weekend morning. You can finish your meal by yourself and go out after dinner. You can help yourself if you are hungry at noon! There is no need to endure such grievances in your own home. You can make comments on my hard rice, or you can order a few bowls of noodles yourself. Sometimes I know that the rice is hard, the rice is cooked for you in advance, and the water is boiled for you. I just need to order a few noodles. I asked you, and you said it was useless. Because I don't often cook at work and eat at work, I cook lunch at home twice a week (dinner is usually steamed vegetable soup), which is usually a meal of rice and noodles (because there is too much rice, my mother-in-law may say that she doesn't like rice and cooks too many noodles, or she may say that she doesn't like noodles. Ask her what to eat and she will say whatever you want. Or don't want to eat anything, and then let her father-in-law coax her). . So I often can't grasp how much water and how many meters are soft and hard, which is not my intention. .

My father-in-law immediately mentioned my name and said that you did it on purpose. 100% didn't cook soft rice. . Since you cook at home, we just can't do it. If we don't live and eat separately, the whole family can't eat two meals. Go out and ask someone who sleeps like you. What time do you stay up late?

I am in a hurry, too. What do you mean, a family eats two meals? We are not at home during the day. It's good for you to come back and cook at night. I have never given any advice. Isn't it normal for children not to like me to cook for them? I cooked a soft meal the other day, but I haven't finished it in the pot yet. Every time I cook, I try to put more water. .

My father-in-law almost growled, no, you just haven't cooked soft rice

My husband quickly pulled me aside. Stop it, stop it.

In-laws entered the room. He also called her husband and said that he would go back to his hometown. My husband comforted me in every way. For example, if you go to my sister's house for a long time, there will be contradictions. Don't ask my brother to review, the whole family is relaxed, and no one has something to find when they go back to their hometown. My in-laws said we were looking for neighbors! Hehe, I fell out with my first wife more than ten years ago, and now I can't tolerate my second wife. I'm not afraid of neighbors' jokes if I need you!

My daughter was in shock and sat on the sofa and asked me, mom, you won't be like this when you are old, will you? I thought about it and said, I am old. If so, please remind me a lot!

In fact, I also have a lot of words that I didn't say in front of them. Nowadays, few young people live with old people. We bought this new house with a loan under financial difficulties, with an elevator and heating, mainly considering that the old couple are old (they used to live on the fourth floor and always complained that they would hurt their legs when going up the stairs). In addition, there is a primary school closer to home. It is also convenient for them to pick up their son later. After all, people in their 70s, the old couple often have some minor problems, and no one around them can't. Several children have their own problems. Husband is filial. He is willing to take care of the elderly not because his father-in-law has a few retirement wages (others can think so, and now his in-laws feel that we have taken a big advantage of him). For their comfort, we gave them the only big room facing the sun (and it is close to the bathroom so that they can get up at night). My husband and son are crowded in a small room in the morning. The place is small and we can't afford a big bed. We always have a bad rest at night. (The daughter is alone in the small room. Because there is no money to buy a bigger house. . So we are not unfilial sons.

Talking about cooking. They cook for their preschool son at home every Monday to Friday at noon. In the evening, I cook for everyone, and the people who eat are basically the two of them, plus my son and me. Although it is far from the old people's eating habits, the old people bought it and cooked it kindly, regardless of whether it was delicious or not. I absolutely can't and dare not give advice. But on the weekend, my eldest daughter came back from school, and I was busy for a week. Usually I eat and sleep with two children, and I thought they would understand. I didn't expect a problem to be solved long ago.

Tell me how often I come back to check my mobile phone. The reason is:

First, both the daughter's and son's homework are on the mobile phone. Daughter's homework should be forwarded in time, son's homework should be checked one by one, and the information in the class should be fed back in time. Second, my son takes English and online classes five times a week and clocks in to finish his homework. Third, the unit WeChat group may have information reply (now enterprise characteristics). Fourth, the information of community owners needs to be understood in time. Fifth, several study groups want to see it. The sixth is to understand current politics. Not to mention being at home these days, I have to complete my son's class solitaire, my daughter's class solitaire, my unit solitaire, and my daughter's learning tasks in various subjects before I can reply to solitaire. . Old people don't understand.

To tell you the truth, I don't think the stuffing in jiaozi during the Chinese New Year is delicious, but I have been eating it without saying anything. I dare not say that I didn't start eating people on the night of the working holiday. After coming back from my hometown, the leftover stuffing was put in the refrigerator for a few days. They got up early in the morning on the fourth day, so I suggested wrapping them up and freezing them. My mother-in-law said she was too tired to pack, and my father-in-law said she would pack tomorrow. I said that since it's all right, it would be bad to put any more stuffing (jiaozi was forced to eat bad stuffing every year). Vivid). They didn't bag me. They are going to eat jiaozi. I'm not hungry because I had breakfast late. Since it was to be cooked and the stuffing was not delicious, I added some mushrooms and green peppers, and then there was a picture of myself wrapped up and eaten by one person. Although the package was finished, the children still said it was not delicious, and no one ate it, only a few bites. That's what they said I had two more meals with them.

As for buying things for them, my mother-in-law bought clothes and shoes when she first came to the city to take care of the children with us. Later, she found that they were very picky, so she didn't buy much if she disliked the bad ones we bought. One of the reasons. People who go to work and run outside every day should think twice about buying more than 1000 clothes. People suddenly went to buy a dress with a price of 1000, saying that they could not bear a lot of hardships when they were young, but they should enjoy it when they were old. . People spend their own money, and we have nothing to say. But our enthusiasm for buying clothes naturally waned. But it must be an exaggeration to say that I didn't buy them a thread. However, the old couple are used to exaggerating, and we are used to not arguing with them.

Talk about cooking for children. My daughter has been in primary school for six years. My husband and I go to work far away and don't go home at noon. My parents-in-law cook. They don't like cooking for their children alone. They always eat what adults eat and children eat. Old people like to eat light vegetarian food, and children must follow suit. But my daughter never dared to give advice, only dared not eat. For example, my mother-in-law once complained that her daughter didn't eat at noon. I asked what kind of rice I cooked and said it was clear soup noodles. My daughter felt tasteless, put a lot of sesame oil, but still didn't eat it. Too picky. I can only try to say that the next time you fry her to order, don't just put sesame oil. Mother-in-law said that if our cooking is not delicious, you can cook it for him. . As soon as my daughter went to junior high school, she decisively signed up for a lunch class. . . For example, my son likes fried rice with eggs. Mother-in-law fried a large plate and asked her son to come back for hot food at noon every day. I didn't know until I watched my son get angry and asked what he had eaten at noon recently. So, as long as I go back to see what's left in the refrigerator at night, I will take the rest of the rice to the unit and let her cook it again the next day. . I heard that the primary school can manage meals at noon, and my in-laws will come back immediately to report good news. In the future, my son can go to primary school without picking up at noon to avoid coming back to watch TV every day. . .

Yes, when it comes to watching TV, it is also a knot for me. In-laws don't have to send their children in the morning, but they have to pick them up at noon (just downstairs next door to our community). Because they suggested that their son would pick him up just after he left school in the afternoon (which delayed them going for a walk in the park), we enrolled him in language classes and art classes until six o'clock. My in-laws say that I can't control my son, so the only thing my son does when he comes back from kindergarten is to watch TV in the living room, and sometimes his mother-in-law will watch it with him (every time she comes home from work, she either falls asleep on the sofa or watches a short video on her mobile phone). Sometimes the mother-in-law looks at her son in the house and looks at him outside. . My father-in-law is cooking. Every time my father-in-law cooks, I occasionally come home from work to see my mother-in-law cook. I am surprised to ask you why you are cooking today. My mother-in-law replied to me very unhappily. I don't cook all day. I cooked all the soup. Your father can only cook one dish. . . )

In view of this, I can't manage it at noon every day (watch TV for two hours at noon) and go home to take care of the children as soon as I get off work at night. If children work overtime on weekends, they will watch TV at home for one day. In their words, all we have to do is to keep our children from bumping and starving. How to educate is your business. Why not go out? Because it is not safe to go out.

So I try to stay at home on weekends. Besides, I made a reservation this morning. I can't sleep more than nine o'clock, because there are old people at home, so I can't sleep well. Besides, I have to eat three meals a day myself. I have to wash clothes, cook and clean the house on weekends (they have said since the baby changed diapers, regardless of the baby's laundry). . . They have to control the major events in the family, such as saying from time to time who bought a big house and who bought a car. In the end, we are inferior to others everywhere. Small things at home, such as kitchen hygiene, bathroom hygiene, living room hygiene, they don't care (occasionally clean it, and then tell my aunt that if she doesn't do it, no one will do it). . They definitely don't approve of children signing up for classes, and they won't pick them up. If you have money, do it yourself. So I signed up for an online class for my son after school every morning, and went home at night to learn something with him on the projection TV. Will the in-laws take the initiative (or be passive? ) Wash the dishes, and then sigh that I am really unlucky. I have to cook and wash the dishes every day. . .

I also thought that if their daughter came over at the weekend, they would cook ahead of time (that is, at this time, I could cook carefree). They don't have to wash the dishes after supper. If my husband takes a day off at home, he will never go into the kitchen. They're all fine. If I take a day off at home, I can't miss a meal! This is their logical thinking! If I come back late from a business trip on weekends. No matter how late it is, don't cook until I come back. No matter how busy you are, you should cook. Their tasks are eating, watching TV, playing cards and taking a walk.

My son asked my grandmother why she played cards every day. I smiled bitterly: grandma wants to exercise her brain!

Tell colleagues about the quarrel about eating late in the morning. Colleagues said that you ignored her and finally did nothing, but still enjoyed it. How can you be hungry if you don't move every day? The three of us hardly eat every day. Whoever is hungry will do it! You're used to it. You're usually too kind to them.

On the internet, I used to envy and yearn for the life of pigs, eating and sleeping, sleeping and eating. I finally lived a pig's life these two days. It took two days to find that pigs were having a hard time. I was thinking that after a busy year and a long vacation, I didn't even have the right to eat and sleep.

Because my in-laws insisted on going back to my hometown to support the elderly, my husband couldn't dissuade me and called my uncle again. I was in a hurry and angry between words, tears streaming down my face, and suddenly I burst into tears. I really want to say, if they want to leave, let them go back!

In fact, I also want to understand that one of the reasons why they are arguing that we don't serve them is that we spend their money on daily food and cooking! Does the economic base determine family status? With a little retirement salary, I really regard myself as a god!

Think of a poem:

At home, green hair is fluttering, belonging to Lang, less youth and more yellow. I have suffered a lot and experienced countless storms. Don't mention it, you will shed tears when you mention it!