Don’t be anxious, don’t yell, don’t hit or scold, use words to communicate with your children

Don’t rush, don’t yell, don’t hit or scold, and communicate with your children

When your children do something wrong:

Think about this yourself. Do you think you are right? Everyone may do something wrong, but if you know how to correct it, you are a good child. You have to apologize to the people you hurt, and they will forgive you. When a child's opinion disagrees with a parent's: I will consider your opinion. What are the consequences of doing this? Have you thought about it? Let’s think about it carefully for a while and then discuss it tomorrow. Learn to discuss with your children and respect their choices: If your mother disagrees with your idea, but you insist on doing it, just do it and stick to it. This road is difficult to walk, I hope you will think again. If you are so persistent, you will definitely succeed. Mom bless you. When I caught my child playing games again:

I’m still angry now and I don’t want you to do this again because I trust you. You promised me not to come to this kind of place again, right? I believe you are a child with strong self-control, and I hope you can control yourself.

Stop empty preaching and set an example yourself:

From today on, we will go to morning exercises every day to see who has more perseverance? You always procrastinate when you get up, dad tomorrow You set an example, do you see how dad cleans up the situation in five minutes? When a child conflicts with others:

If he does it unintentionally, we can forgive him: if he does it intentionally, you Find a way to get him to apologize to you. This is your own business, you have to solve it yourself. Mom believes you have this ability. If you quarrel with a classmate, if it is your fault, apologize to your classmate. When you find your child taking money from the family: If you encounter difficulties, you must tell your mother and she will definitely help you. No matter where you use money, you must make it clear and don't just take family money. Although it is money earned by mom and dad, you can use the money if you want, but you must tell mom and learn to record it. When a child makes a mistake and criticizes the child: This is my opinion, please tell me your opinion too. I think you did something wrong. What do you think? While you stick to your point of view, think carefully about the reason why your mother said these things.

When a child encounters difficulties:

If you encounter any difficulties, just talk to XX, and XX will help you find a solution together. If you have any difficulty, don't keep it in your heart. Tell it and XX will help you resolve it. My child, if you think about it again, there will definitely be a way. If you have any difficulties, talk to your mother and she will be your adviser. When you grow up, you can help your mother think of ways on some things, and your mother can also help you think of ways.

When children have conflicts with their parents and resist silently:

You think my method is not good. Do you have a better method? If you don’t listen to us, it shows that you have grown up. When we grow up and have our own ideas, we are happy about it. Our opinions may not be right. If you have any opinions, you can express them. When your child is arguing with you: Let’s stop arguing now and think calmly for 10 minutes before talking. I think your idea is wrong, and I hope you can find a few more reasons to convince me. What you said makes sense, I will consider it carefully. Your idea is good, but it is difficult to implement it now

When your child asks you for advice:

This matter is your own decision, and mom believes you will do it well. I will only remind you of these two points, and you can decide the rest by yourself. Your idea is great, my mother didn’t think of it.

When a child talks back to his parents:

It is very rude for you to talk to your mother like this. We will talk about it after you calm down. I'm glad you have your own opinion, but your attitude makes me uncomfortable. I heard what you said, and I will discuss it with you later.

When children encounter setbacks in learning:

These words are indeed difficult to remember, but don’t be discouraged. Let’s memorize them together and see if mom can remember them. Don't listen to those people. Mom knows you best. You are a very smart child. It's okay to work a slow shift. What's important is that you think highly of yourself. Mom likes you not only because of your high scores, but also because you are polite. Scores cannot represent everything about you, character is the most important. You are laying the foundation for your own life now. Only when the foundation is well laid can the building of life be built firmly.

When you know that your child’s test scores are not satisfactory:

My child, you have improved compared to last time. I am really happy for you. If you continue to work hard, your next test score will be as good as Chinese! It doesn't matter if you didn't do well this time, we will work hard next time. If you try your best, there will be no regrets if you fail. Have you tried your best? As long as you work hard, you will do better!

When children steal other people’s things:

No matter how much you like other people's things, you can't steal them. Doing so will be considered a thief. Tell mom what you like, we can exchange it with labor. Don't be sad, everyone does something wrong sometimes. After correcting it, we all still like you the same. Mom believes in you and you will do better and better.

When a child commits the same thing several times:

I hope you will pay attention to this matter, and I believe you can do a good job. This is your own business and you shouldn't expect others to think about it for you. Learn to be responsible for yourself so that you can be responsible for others in the future.

Don’t impose your parents’ wishes on your children:

You don’t want to practice piano anymore. Can you tell me why? I admire your talent in painting. If you I feel a bit sad that I don’t paint anymore. Can you tell your mother what you like to do the most?

When criticizing your child for failure:

You didn’t do well in the test this time, but your mother knows that you have worked hard. When everyone makes mistakes, there is time to sum up. Failure is the mother of success, don't be discouraged.

Words to praise your children:

My child, you are great, what you said is so good! My child, you are great, this paragraph in your composition is so wonderful! My child, you are so wonderful! Awesome, your paintings are very spiritual. My child, your handwriting is very neat. When your child plays games:

I understand that this is your only hobby, but I worry that it will hinder your studies. I know you don’t want to do this, you just can’t control yourself, but you have to know that those who achieve great things must have super self-control. Work hard, son! Mom believes you can get rid of this problem.