Can you share one of your favorite words?

"When we need someone to rely on most, we often survive by ourselves in the end, as if it were like this every time, without exception".

I don't know if I am the only one who can understand the above sentence, or if many people have experienced this feeling like me. People who let themselves down, how can they only let themselves down once and never live up to their disappointment? Only when you have experienced some people and things will you understand such a truth. Only by relying on yourself and pinning your hopes on yourself can you have a future, and you can take the initiative to choose the life you want and choose the lifestyle you like. Others enter their own world just to teach themselves something, some truth, and then turn around and leave, and they still have to go on for the rest of their lives, carrying their own burdens.

It's not that I don't trust anyone, nor that I don't trust anyone, but when my trust is trampled, it's heartache and despair. Sometimes people's hearts are really hard to exchange, and it has nothing to do with how much you pay and how much you care. I know there will be difficult days on the lonely road, but lonely years are also the best opportunity for me to know myself, the world and change myself. Maybe this is the only way for me to grow up. When I figured it out, looking back, there was really nothing.

You should know that all the unpleasant and difficult days you have experienced are your armor to face the world in the future, and you will be more invulnerable. So sometimes I really want to thank myself and thank myself for trying to survive.

I once thought that I lived very clearly, but later I found out that a person who really lived clearly would not have the heart to live too clearly.

When I was young, I was earlier and more independent than my peers because of family reasons and personality reasons.

Ten or twenty years ago, there was no road in the village at that time. This road is like loess and sand. Bump, no street lights. It's great to have a flashlight at home. At that time, there was a lot of money, but it was hard to earn. It is not as good as now. Every semester, I have to pay hundreds of dollars in tuition fees, saying that it is a nine-year obligation, but I really can't enjoy these benefits at that time. My father always asks the teacher for a guarantee, but not every time the teacher will give you a guarantee.

When I really felt that life was not easy, I was nine years old and in the third grade. That was the first time I saw my father work so hard.

In order to support the family and save tuition, my father gets up early every day to cut bamboo for others, and a bundle of rent 100 Jin is dragged from the back of the village to the entrance of the village, and one day in 80 yuan. At that time, just after school, I watched my father walk in front of me with a long bundle of bamboo on his shoulder. I called him and he told me to go back. I stood looking at him. Maybe he hurt his shoulder. He changed the other side, then put it down and walked towards the back hill. At that time, my heart was to study hard and make money for my father in the future so that he could sit back and enjoy himself in the future. Later, I studied hard and got good grades, but when I was about to enter the third year of high school, he suddenly left.

The mountain in my heart suddenly collapsed, all my hopes and efforts.

/kloc-life at the age of 0/5 has completely changed. A person has propped up half of his home, and he has to worry about his mother and brother at home when he goes to school, trying his best to make his mother happy. Several years have passed, and I have gradually come out, still imprisoned in that year.

Some of my friends almost asked me to let me out. It is better to have a love than to live without sorrow or joy. I went surfing for more than half a month last year. When I stood on the plateau at an altitude of more than 5000 meters, looking at the snow-capped mountains and endless mountains in the distance, I finally took a deep breath and spat out a breath. I can't say goodbye to the past. I don't want to think about the people and things that once impressed me vividly in the future. I want to be better. Also, that day, when I see him, I can say to him: Dad, how have I been these years? I just miss you so much that I didn't let you live the life I hope you will enjoy in the future.

Mao Mu: I tried my best to live a normal life.

I once dreamed of taking my sword to the end of the world, and then my dreams were broken one by one.

I also wanted to be a soldier when I was a child, but later I was nearsighted;

I also wanted to be a scientist when I was a child, and later I chose to adjust;

I wanted to be an official when I was a child, but later I found that I was not good at flattering. .......

Until now, I just want to find a stable job, love me and the people I love, and spend all my energy living an ordinary and similar life, letting flowers bloom and fall like water.

Wang Xiaobo's words.

I was 2 1 year old that day, in the golden age of my life. I have many extravagant hopes. I want to love, I want to eat, and I want to instantly become a half-bright and half-dark cloud in the sky. Later, I found that life is a process of being hammered slowly. People grow old day by day, expectations disappear day by day, and finally they become like iron cows that have been hammered. But I didn't realize this when I was 2 1 year old. I thought I would go on forever, and nothing could beat me.

As a student who just stepped out of the ivory tower and entered the workplace, this passage made me feel deeply. When I came to the society, I found that it was really different from the campus. I always thought that even if I worked, I could find time to read books, read English and do what I like. But the reality is that I work overtime until nine o'clock every day. I just want to brush my mobile phone to sleep when I come back, and I don't want to do anything else with my brain at all. Even if I really have time, I spend it eating chicken in Tik Tok. My daily life is simply repeating: going to work-getting off work-sleeping.

I rely more and more on this stable life, which really makes me happy. I don't study, I don't exercise, and I just hold my mobile phone every day except for work. Stop talking about ideals and muddle along. Occasionally, I will be naked jealous when I see others' success, then I will get angry, try to be strong for three or five days, and then I will be beaten back to my original shape. In this way, I became an iron cow beaten by a hammer.

I'm in a panic, too. I don't know what to do

My favorite and unforgettable sentence is what my mother called me: child.

I hope someone will call me that again, but I can't. My mother's name is so kind and touching that I will never forget it.

When I was a child, I always stayed in bed before going to bed because of poor living conditions at home. Living with my mother. My father's death was a great blow to my mother. The hardships of life make mother sad. Life back then was really not as good as it is now. Thinking about this reminds me of my mother's difficulties. It's sad to think about it now. I didn't have the ability to change. I only remember sitting under the lamp doing some needlework at present. Mend my clothes. Maybe my mother remembered some sad things and sighed to me from time to time: alas, my child. I didn't understand my mother's heart at that time. But I firmly remember what my mother said: "Alas, my child". Now I feel worried about my mother. That's what I say when I'm anxious.

Mother's greatness: it's really not easy to swallow bitterness into your stomach.

Mom is gone. My mother lived happily under the former grave.

You are so old, let me decide everything for you.

This sentence is not my favorite sentence, but it is the most clearly remembered sentence in my life, and it is also the driving force to encourage me to break through difficulties and move on.

/kloc-when I was 0/7 years old, I joined the work after graduation and didn't like the work in the factory very much. I am a lathe worker. It was 1988, and the lathe worker was a very popular profession. It's dirty and dangerous ... I didn't tell my parents, so I secretly stopped working, went out to work in the morning, came home from work, and played poker and chess with unemployed classmates during the day ... A week later, the factory director asked my mother why she didn't come to work for a week (there was no phone at home and I didn't have a pager myself). After work, my mother waited for me to enter the room and gave me a good beating. I hit me with a broom again ... this is the first time my mother hit me since I was a child. My father came to pull my mother away and asked about the situation ... My father and mother said that he talked to me, and then asked me why I didn't go to work ... Knowing that I didn't like lathe work, my father didn't say anything, but said: The conditions at home are not good, and you are not young. Don't you eat and drink at home when you don't go to work? Your grandmother has no income. I didn't know where to go, so I wandered aimlessly in the alley. Then my mother came out and told me to go back. On the way, she also asked me to apologize to my father and say that I was wrong and continue to work tomorrow. My mother is very kind to me, just like hitting children. When my brother and I were studying, we were often beaten by our mother because of our poor grades. Dad never hits us, but we children are not afraid of mom, but we are afraid of dad. Dad is the head of the family. I can't help it, but I don't want to. My little arm can't twist my thigh, so I can only tell my father that I was wrong and continue to work tomorrow. ...

I have been a lathe worker for nearly two years. In the third year, several new technical school students were assigned to the factory. This level gave me an apprentice, teaching him while working every day. In this way, two years passed. 1993, many state-owned enterprises in the northeast old industrial base closed down, and our factory went bankrupt. I lost my job. My neighbor opened a birthday cake shop in the market. I am unemployed and often go to his shop to play (my neighbor is younger than me). I often help my neighbor when he is working. When he was decorating flowers, he saw that I liked this industry very much and taught me while doing it. I'm a quick learner, and I can help her decorate flowers soon, which is passable. In fact, decorating flowers is only a part of cake shops, and baking cake blanks is the key. This is exactly what I neglected. I thought it was enough to mix noodles, sugar and cake oil in proportion ... I studied intermittently for several months. Without investigating the market, I secretly borrowed 20 thousand yuan from my relatives (at that time, 20 thousand yuan was a lot), asked my neighbors to accompany me to find a facade that was not in the same area behind my parents' backs, and went to our local cooker market to buy ovens, egg beaters, flower-mounting suits and other household appliances. I'm about to start a business. At this time, relatives asked their father, have you received the money? My father asked me what money was. Relatives said that my son took 20 thousand yuan and said that your family ... my father came back to see me at night and said he wanted to ask me something and asked me what I was doing with the money. I told them in detail that I was afraid to tell my parents about opening a cake shop, but you wouldn't agree, so I borrowed money privately ... My father wasn't angry, just asked me, you. Think about it. If you regret it now, go to a second-hand store tomorrow and see how much is still missing. I will send it back to my relatives. I knelt down at that time and promised my father that I would do it well. Father was silent for a while and said, well, since you are determined, go ahead, pay for it and put the meal aside. I must clean it up. Don't eat the wrong thing. I quickly promised. ...

My neighbor stayed up for several nights to make me more than 20 cake models and put them in the counter, and then helped me bake some cake blanks for later use. After that, business was good for the first few days. The newly opened shop is cheap and earns a lot of money every night. My father came here several times, saw me making money, and left without saying anything. My sister often comes to help me. After more than a month, business is getting worse and worse, sometimes day by day. In this way, as soon as I have time, I will go back to my neighbor's shop and learn the precautions of the menu, the temperature of the oven, the time to send eggs, the degree of flour and dough ... In the evening, I will practice baking cakes with my sister over and over again, and the baked cakes will be bagged. On the way home, I will go to my brother's sister-in-law's house, my second sister's house and my third sister's house, each with a bag of baked cakes (later my sister-in-law joked with me that I was confused after seeing it, and the baked neighbors also said it was delicious ... but after two months of opening, the reputation dried up, and few people patronized it again ... It lasted less than a year, and the rent and taxes on the facade, as well as consumption (I had to bake several spare cakes every day, Because I have been living in the store since I opened it, and I will go home after closing it. I remember very clearly that when I went home that night, my father knew through my sister that I would come back tonight. I specially asked my mother to stir-fry vegetables and bought draft beer (that is, beer bought by the catty in a thermos). When I entered the house, I was invited to have dinner together. My father gave me a bowl of beer for the first time in history and told me to drink a bowl. I also picked it up and drank it all. Father and son, I didn't say much at first. I just said, dad, let's have a drink ... My dad said later, let's have a drink ... I don't know how long it took. I cried while drinking. I remember it very clearly at that time. I cried very sadly. I keep saying that I don't understand things. I didn't do anything for a long time ... then my dad asked me if I understood why I advised you to sell things. I don't understand. Dad said: you have never done business before, and you have no concept of risk. At that time, you knew nothing about the business of the cake shop before you opened it. You just learned a little from your neighbors. I won't let you open it. I mean you should study more. You'd rather work in a bigger cake shop with a lower salary. You can work for a year or two, learn more and practice more, and then you can open a shop when you are sure you can make a birthday cake. If it doesn't work, at least you will. I can only say that I tried my best. Maybe this industry is not suitable for you ... I asked my father why you didn't tell me at that time. My father said: you will not be happy if you are not allowed to drive at that time. I just want you to suffer some setbacks. There is still a long way to go in the future ... My father said a sentence that I will remember all my life. "You are so old, let me decide everything for you." ...

From now on, I will think more about the consequences. As long as what others say is right or wrong, I will not refute him as long as it is not my own personal experience, because I have no right to comment on things I am not sure about. Also, even if you know that the other person is wrong, don't correct me in front of outsiders. Nowadays, people's lives are better. Entering the society, regardless of age and occupation, you need to respect each other, be yourself and be considerate of others. Dad is a man of culture. At that time, I seldom went to high school, and my culture was not as high as my father's.

Seek hope from despair

The first time I heard this sentence was around 2008. My high school Chinese teacher said it in class. He said it was a sentence from his autobiography. Off topic, my Chinese teacher was 47 years old in 2008. According to him, he 18 years old came out to teach. 16 years old, admitted to the local normal school (technical secondary school). By the way, he is a poet. In high school, we all attended a dream of red mansions for half a semester. A few days ago, I met an important event in my life. I suddenly thought of this sentence and bought this book with the same title as this sentence. Now I put this book in my schoolbag every day. This is my favorite sentence now. I hope I can persist for three years!

In ancient times, there was a very talented king who got a very good book. The king read it with great interest and was deeply touched, but found the book too thick. I want to know whether it can be made thinner, so he gave the job to a learned minister. The minister read, thought and understood day and night, and finally reduced the book to dozens of pages, but the king still felt a little lengthy. So the minister had to continue to compress and refine the work. Soon the minister compressed the book into one page and presented it to the king, but the king thought it would be more perfect if it was more refined. So the minister thought hard and finally realized that he condensed the book into one sentence: everything will pass!

The king was very satisfied and said that this was what he wanted. ...

This story is very common, and this sentence is also very common. But it contains the great truth of life.

The phrase "everything will pass" is for people to learn to let go. Admonish the winners to keep a low profile and make persistent efforts, and encourage the losers to learn to be confident and then regain their fighting spirit. Especially for people who are at the low tide of life, there are positive psychological hints. The waterless ending may be a bright future, and the desperate ending may be a turning point.

The moon is full of ups and downs, people have joys and sorrows, and life itself is ups and downs. As the saying goes, "thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi", it is precisely because of this that life is colorful.

Therefore, no matter how unsatisfactory it is at present, we must learn to let go and hold on to all kinds of troubles. How to live? How can the heart be quiet and far-reaching? "Everything will pass" also tells us that we should live in the present, and don't tie ourselves in a noisy circle and ignore the beautiful life outside.

Maybe a friend will ask, even if you find pleasure in that daily necessities, what's your inner torment? Very simply, as long as attention begins to shift to the interest in daily necessities, the depression will gradually fade away until it disappears. When people are depressed, they are actually fighting themselves. "Trouble" is your own, and so is the rejection of trouble. The trivial matters of daily necessities are also your own, and the busy figure of daily necessities is also your own. Only by living in the present, time will dilute everything and everything will pass!

Sit still and think about yourself all the time. Gossip is not personal.

This is my favorite sentence. This means that a person should think more about his own mistakes when sitting still, and don't discuss others' right and wrong when chatting.

Thinking about yourself at all times is a kind of cultivation and a kind of morality. It is a rare practice to think about what you did wrong and who you hurt on weekdays when you are quite calm. It is really rare to ask yourself and answer yourself and dissect strictly.

Never mind, man is not a mind, nor a realm. In daily life, it is commendable to be cautious in words and deeds, to be honest, not to fly long and short, and not to be duplicitous.

For more than 30 years, I have been urging myself with the phrase "think about myself". Whenever the busy work is over, I often sit down quietly, review my previous work, sort out my mistakes, analyze the reasons for them, and look for ways to improve them; For more than 30 years, I have been using this sentence to supervise myself. Mind your own mouth, try not to say anything about right and wrong, settle your heart and treat others sincerely.

Extraordinary life experience tells me that a person should live a sober life and not look for his own mistakes just because he is confused; It is foolish to know your mistakes and not correct them; Knowing that it is wrong is inferiority; A person should live wisely all his life. You talk about your parents all day, but you are bored. You are immersed in right and wrong all day, asking for trouble and asking for it. Be a man, be strict with yourself and be less dissolute; Be decent, be more tolerant of others and talk less. Only in this way can you become a real capitalized "person".

Always think about yourself and live soberly; Don't talk about people, live smart.

Good heart! Everything is fine!

-Happy layman

A beautiful day begins with happiness!

There is no doubt that no one in the world is arguing with you!

Living healthily and happily is happiness!

Fight! The more you struggle! The happier you are!

Calm down and be happy!

Act with a normal heart and be brave in making progress.

Do your best, let fate take its course!

Say good words, do good deeds and be a good person!

Look at people's strengths, remember people's benefits and help people's difficulties!

Stop, for better progress!

Feel everything in the world with love!

How helpless life is, what's wrong with helplessness? Shake the dirt and be optimistic!

Tian Xingjian, a gentleman strives for self-improvement,

The terrain is Kun, and the gentleman carries things with morality!

Everyone is unique in this world, and he is the first!

Let go of the past, live in the present and cherish the present!

People should live well when they are alive!

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Feel good about yourself!

Not worse than others!

Through the ups and downs, I am still me, just a different fireworks!

I firmly believe that tomorrow will be better!

Let tomorrow like yourself more!