How happy can a child with a grandmother be?

In family relations, it is rare to write about the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren, especially in the eyes of many young mothers. Grandma tends to be hacked, such as teaching her children to speak dialects and dressing up their children in a rustic and unsanitary way.

In fact, everyone has her limitations in raising children, and young mothers are no exception!

Young people's new ideas are useless, while old people's ideological traditions are harmless! What is important is that it is really biased to flaunt the so-called advantages of some young people taking care of their children without talking about the significance of the elderly taking care of their children!

Many times, the truth you don't want to see may contain unexpected meaning and value!

Things are right and wrong, but people are not. As a mother, how to know and guide children to experience a relationship between grandparents and grandchildren is actually of far-reaching significance. I have been married for more than ten years since I was a child, and I just realized this.

On the third day when my mother-in-law came to help me take care of Bauer, she accidentally sprained her ankle when she went down the stairs and broke it! It took a hundred days to get out of bed. After coming back from the hospital, she couldn't get out of bed at all because she was in plaster. The doctor said that this state will last for at least a month. Great, not only can I not relax more, but I am more tired. Besides taking care of Bauer, I have to take care of my mother-in-law, which makes me a little disappointed and depressed.

It is an indisputable fact that it is the responsibility to take care of the children and take care of the mother-in-law. So at present, what needs to be adjusted is my mentality. Expectations fail and responsibilities increase. Even though I have a thousand reasons to complain, I must make a decision and accept the status quo willingly.

I know very well that the spread of a little negative emotion in the family means the chaos of the whole family order, and I will not allow such a thing to happen. So in these years, at every stall where negative emotions appear, I will immediately let myself change channels.

I have always understood that a home with old people is always more smoky and more like a home. Now mother-in-law can't move. I am disappointed to get this knowledge back first, and I plan to think about how to make an old man who can't move happy.

It has been a long habit for my daughter to go shopping every day, once in the morning and once in the afternoon. We went home from outside in the morning before my mother-in-law came. Generally speaking, we choose to take a nap first, then simply cook something to eat after a nap, and then prepare a hearty dinner in the evening, so that our husband and son can go home and have a good meal together. For me who is still breastfeeding, I can't sleep well at night The most extravagant thing is to take a lunch break with my daughter. I don't feel very good, I don't feel in the state of doing anything.

I really relaxed for three days after my mother-in-law came. At that time, when we came home from the outside, our home was clean and our meals were ready. I slept with my daughter after eating, not to mention how beautiful it is! ?

Before I sigh the beauty of life, I must face the new test of life. First of all, before going out, I will prepare water, medicine, fruit and other necessities for my mother-in-law, then take my daughter out to play, and then go to the market to buy food; Secondly, when I get home, I will give up my lunch break, put my daughter to bed first, and then cook for my mother-in-law. When I finished cooking and cleaned the house, my daughter basically woke up. Because she can't sleep with her, her daughter's lunch break is inexplicably much shorter. When she woke up, I couldn't sleep anymore.

How can I be happy under such circumstances? There is a way! I think of a scene that can solve all the problems! Everyone has food, a nap and entertainment!

Going home from the outside, while taking my daughter into the door, she announced loudly: Grandma, we are back! It's time for my daughter to imitate, and then she followed: Grandma, we are back. ...

Do you feel good? Our home is full of peace and happiness. Taking advantage of this hot summer, my daughter and I went to grandma's room to talk about our experiences all morning. Grandma took out her snacks to share with her daughter. The old man is in bed, and his daughter is sitting on a small bench under the bed, looking up at her. As soon as I saw it, both my grandparents and grandchildren were in good shape. As a result, I pulled myself into the kitchen and began to prepare lunch. When my daughter recovered, I found that I was not around and began to cry for my mother. Since then, lunch has been solved, and my mother and I also put the food on grandma's table to eat with the elderly. After that, this lunch at noon, although only the three of us were at home, the affection of the old, middle and small generations was scattered at home. ...

In this way, my daughter and grandmother's important lunch and my important nap were solved, and grandma didn't care so much about her fracture. More importantly, when new problems came and my responsibilities increased, I learned to adjust the frequency of depression and hectic, and realized the maximization of family interests!

I believe that the days when her mother-in-law is in bed are a unique opportunity for her daughter to deeply feel her grandmother, and the taste of time deposited on an old man can be fully felt by her daughter. ...

Young people always do things at a fast pace. It seems that they demand efficiency and effectiveness for everything, including life and parenting education: driving for speed, eating for public relations, and even parenting education always focuses on places that children can't do; Do not allow low efficiency, poor results, and children to fail. ...

Over the years, I have been fighting for these things.

But grandma has permission, and it is this permission that makes me see my difference.

My son's study has been at the middle level, which worries me. I have always thought that this child is very smart and learns things quickly, especially in computer classes, which has always been one of the best in the class. Facts have proved that talent is still good! Why can't the culture class go forward?

Therefore, every day when I come home from school, I hope he can do his homework first. If you don't learn well, you must change your attitude!

Who knows, when my son comes home, he always eats and drinks first, and he always wants to calm down and start his homework as soon as possible. Call twice almost every day, and the supervision is effective!

It's been a long time, I'm so angry! Until that weekend, my son asked me while doing his homework, mom, can I play iPad after I finish my homework? Maybe it's the accumulation of emotions, maybe it's because his carelessness reminds me of other things, and I suddenly get angry!

I rushed to my son, recounted his misdeeds, never studied his lazy character attentively, and then extended his impatience with his sister to his selfish nature ... everything came out of my mouth!

When my son saw my posture, he was afraid of being wronged and his tears came down. He cried and said, mom, what do you want me to do to satisfy you? I'm just asking if you can play the tablet after you finish your homework. Are you going to do this to me?

I want to teach my son a further lesson. At this time, my grandmother spoke and said, forget it, don't be angry. The same is true for a child, and urgency can't help much! You see, I raised these four children. Those who study well have no money to study, and those who study badly leave school earlier to make a living. Your father and I dragged these four children all our lives just to stutter for them. You see, now, we can't help them for a penny. Not everyone has his own house and car! Don't worry, my great-grandson is good at this. He knows how to understand things. Look, isn't this better than those children outside?

My mother-in-law's words calmed me down a lot. Doesn't every child have his own flowering period? Why do I have to rush this moment? What's the use of being impatient after reading so many books?

Grandma is the person who has stayed in this family the longest. She has experienced the world, experienced hardships and disappointments, and she understands what we are experiencing! Many things, at a certain stage, are like children's hopes. Be sure to have a similar mentality. The only difference is that time has allowed her to confirm the result, and we are also verifying it. ...

My son is often sheltered when there is a storm in this family because of his grandmother's intervention, but my heart, which is often washed away, is not sheltered by her? !

My best friend is a pragmatic and capable person. She is tall and beautiful, but she looks a little withdrawn and unsociable. Her previous marriage ended in failure.

In the days when she was single again, we had more opportunities to talk. I have always felt that there is a person's schoolwork hidden in marriage. I really want to help her do some research and find out why. After all, she still wants to remarry.

Many times, from different aspects, although some reasons have been found, they always feel that it is not the key to her marriage failure.

Until one time, she came to our house to play, because her mother-in-law happened to live in my house during that time, so she spent an afternoon with the three of us. I have no impression of what happened at that time.

However, when I was alone with my best friend, she told me how she felt that day. She said, I went to your house that day, and the communication mode between you and your mother-in-law let me know that your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can still get along like this …

After listening to her words, I seem to realize something.

I'm sure my mother-in-law and I are just ordinary mother-in-law, but compared with others, I never treat my mother-in-law as an outsider, nor do I treat her as an outsider. It is estimated that there are more people than others, that is, I chatted with my own mother in a few minutes, which is natural. How did I impress her so deeply? So that when we meet, she will tell me her feelings alone.

Chatting along this direction, I realized that in her family, her aunt, who gave birth to two daughters in a row, was severely discriminated against because of her grandmother's serious preference for sons, and her grandmother devoted all her energy and financial resources to her uncle. Not steaming steamed bread for a change of breath, this unwilling psychology made my uncle and aunt, who were already struggling with life, just bite the bullet and want a third child. Fortunately, my brother was born, but a fine was inevitable, which undoubtedly made her family predicament worse at that time!

In this way, I made enemies with my grandmother's family. My mother was treated unfairly by her grandmother, so she was naturally unwilling. Under this logic, a very young girlfriend slowly lost contact with her grandmother.

At her mother's place, she has never seen a positive relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so this has become a blank area in her life experience. Can't say it's blank. It should be said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is indifferent and threatening to him, which is a negative foreshadowing!

Therefore, in her marriage, there is basically no mother-in-law, at least in her heart.

Love is a matter of two people, but marriage is definitely not just a matter of two people! It is conceivable that after marriage, although she has good conditions and no ability, she has never been able to take root in the marriage.

How many people you influence also determines how much voice and initiative you have. This is not only a routine suitable for the workplace, but also the truth in family and even any other social relationship!

Of course, her marriage ended because the man didn't keep the moral bottom line and cheated. But who can say that her ex-husband's affair has nothing to do with her? Or, if she rooted her roots in her ex-husband's whole family, she wouldn't be alone with her young daughter.

Life is interlocking. Breaking a link means that this part of the body and mind is missing. Because of the missing black hole, who can estimate the loss geometry, and what is the significance?

We all know that the family background has a profound influence on a person, so we try our best to build a high-quality family background for our children: keep learning, let ourselves know everything and be qualified to educate the next generation. We sacrifice our personal time and spend all our energy on our children, grow up with him and travel around the world with him. ...

We seem to have given our children everything, but in the bottom of our hearts that we don't want to see, the invisible black hole will also have a huge impact on our children, and such an impact can also determine their lives!

Just like the relationship between a child and grandma, it determines whether the whole family she can see is two or three generations, and it is also a preliminary exploration of family relationship and inheritance significance!

People are between there and nothing, usually one to the left and one to the right!